Do you hold yourself to the same level of standards you want in the opposite sex?

[joystickd]

I see people wanting this or that in the opposite sex and wonder if they are practicing what they preach. It's cool to want what you want but on some level its inconsistent if you are not holding yourself to that same standard

[Failboy]

I see people wanting this or that in the opposite sex and wonder if they are practicing what they preach. It's cool to want what you want but on some level its inconsistent if you are not holding yourself to that same standard

 

 

Some people still believe in "roles" I guess. In that case, a man can be expected to have a high income even by women who have always lived off other men. Or, the other way around, a woman can be expected to invest a lot of time and work into her looks, while the guy is, well, not.

 

It is, however, pretty unfair to expect tons of things when you bring nothing to the table. The main discrepancy is probably when people want their partner to be absolutely loyal and never even be flirty or in a long conversation with a stranger of the opposite sex, while they themselves sleep around with no remorse.

[joystickd]

I was speaking more along the lines of qualities of honesty, not promiscuous, etc.

[Necris]

I see people wanting this or that in the opposite sex and wonder if they are practicing what they preach. It's cool to want what you want but on some level its inconsistent if you are not holding yourself to that same standard

 

I hold myself up to a higher standard than the women I'd like to date, though I still hold them to some standard as I do have some minimal requirements but if my standards were too high I probably won't find anybody, then again I'm not finding anyone now so idk.

[Woggle]

I wish I did but I would run if any woman had the issues I had and yes I know that makes me a hypocrite.

[Leopard]

Yes I do.

 

Only I would prefer him to be taller, stronger and a little less naive than myself.

[Els]

Impossible. I don't have a penis, and I don't like breasts or a big butt on a guy. Plus one who acted in a ladylike fashion would really not be my type.

 

I hope you get the point. You can't hold anyone up to 'the same level' because they can't really ever be the SAME, and who is to dictate which traits are equivalent to what? Is a short, C-cup woman 'at the same level' as a 6'0" man? Is a woman who dedicated her life to volunteer work in poor countries equivalent to a business manager, or must she find a man with the exact same profession as her? Is a 50-year-old, ugly, and successful man equivalent to a 50-year-old, ugly and successful woman? We could go on and on, and doubtless all of you would have opinions on the answers to my questions above. But you won't all have the same answers. And that is the crux of the issue.

 

Stop worrying about gorramed 'levels' already.

Edited August 10, 2012 by Elswyth

[Emilia]

Yes. I expect loyalty, enough discipline to go through with what he plans in his life without being too rigid (being reliable basically), financial independence and aspirations. I offer the same in return.

[Els]

I was speaking more along the lines of qualities of honesty, not promiscuous, etc.

 

Whoops, I missed this. In that case, yes, I personally do.

[Ross MwcFan]

I hold myself to a higher standard than what I want in the opposite sex.

[Kamille]

I don't think of it in terms of standards but compatibility. To me what matters is that we share the same values (honesty, being positive, caring about others), mostly want the same things out of a relationship (intimacy, companionship, laughter, support) and enjoy each other's company.