Lumineers Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Quick Question, Ill make this short and sweet. So my ex gf tells me that I hurt her in our relationship, but still claims that I am a good person and wants me in her life as a friend. Yet she still holds anger and resentment towards because she feels she has put in a lot of work in our relationship and now I have learned how to be in one. It upsets her that my next gf will get the best of me. What the hell does this mean? If you need or want more information just let me know. I just wanted to keep it short.
ScienceGal Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 It means she still has strong feelings for you, even if she doesn't want to be with you. She isn't over the relationship, she's still processing the emotions. Her being upset that the next girl will get the best of you is because she feels she's put in the work and the time but she didn't get the reward. Two people cannot be close friends when one harbors love, resentment, or any other intense emotion for the other. Tell her you're sorry you hurt her and then move on.
Author Lumineers Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Yeah that's what I thought. But I do want her back, not really sure on how to approach. But I also feel we need space from each other, it has been 3 months but the longest we without speaking is 3 weeks. You think it's to late to write her a letter, agreeing with the break a quick apology the sayin the her and I need some space?
ScienceGal Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I'm confused, do you want to be with her or do you want space?
Author Lumineers Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 I do want to be with her, but she is confused on what she wants. She broke up with me. It feels as though she is playin games with me
ScienceGal Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I do want to be with her, but she is confused on what she wants. She broke up with me. It feels as though she is playin games with me I see. From your original post it seemed like you left her and she was upset about it. BUT, since she is the one that left I'm not sure why she is taking this stance. It's likely she still has feelings tied up, as most people do after a breakup, but also doesn't know what she wants. If you truly believe that she is confused and doesn't know what she wants, then you need to cut ties. Be sincere, but be firm. She left you and has no right to be upset that you'll find someone new some day. p.s. Love the song Ho Hey!
Author Lumineers Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Yeah I feel the same way. She's a confusing one and I don't want to be going back and forth with her. It's just annoying, I'm not into playing games. It's either we works this out or I move on. Simple as that. But she can't give me a definitive answer so it seems like I have to make it for you. And she chose to break up with me so we will leave it at that.
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