Lolamola Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I love the NC rule and I want it ! , but does that apply of you broke up "on good terms" ? Like mutual break up ? I'm confuse because I initiated the NC but he hasn't so he keeps texting and calling and I answer... So what goes on now ?
cerridwen Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 (edited) Yes, NC can be used for mutual break-ups. It's just a way to heal. It's not meant to be antagonistic. If you're answering his calls and texts, Lola, you're not doing NC: you're doing C. To go No Contact means stopping all contact, regardless of who initiates. He may try but you ignore or block his number, his FB, his texts, so on. Some find it helpful to have a single communication at the beginning, asking their ex not to contact them. They let the ex know that any attempts will be ignored. Still others change their phone numbers. However, if you enjoy a positive relationship with your ex, try a civil conversation with him wherein you explain you need space to heal. Decide what works best for you. Just know if you begin to waver and need support, post here. People can help. Edited August 10, 2012 by cerridwen 1
dreamingoftigers Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Seconded all the way and if you get weak for whatever reason, there's a "Post Here Instead of Contacting Your Ex" thread. Yes, NC can be used for mutual break-ups. It's just a way to heal. It's not meant to be antagonistic. If you're answering his calls and texts, Lola, you're not doing NC: you're doing C. To go No Contact means stopping all contact, regardless of who initiates. He may try but you ignore or block his number, his FB, his texts, so on. Some find it helpful to have a single communication at the beginning, asking their ex not to contact them. They let the ex know that any attempts will be ignored. Still others change their phone numbers. However, if you enjoy a positive relationship with your ex, try a civil conversation with him wherein you explain you need space to heal. Decide what works best for you. Just know if you begin to waver and need support, post here. People can help. 1
Author Lolamola Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 It's hard to come clean about not contacting when he used the phrase "but why can't we just be friends?" it makes me feel very silly and my pride won't let me say "because I need time to recover" I really can't admit to him that I'm somewhat not over him and whenever I'm almost Iver him, he contacts me !
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