FaithInTheDark Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 heres my story: I had this guy on my facebook and he contacted me like a year ago saying how he would reallly like to get to know me and stuff. we have been talking on facebook alot and talked about finally meeting.he asked me t visit him all the tim. we live 8 hours away from each other. so i had made a trip out to his city, we said how stoked we were to finally hang out. so the first night of hanging out we hit it off really well and liked each other alot. he is exactly my type in everyway. we spent a entire day again with each other and i had so much fun.(we did drink alot that day) i was so happy things were working out. but later said how he didnt rememeber much of the day and i felt like the time together was de-valued when he said that) he would text me to hang out and say how he adores me and say sweet things to me. I told him i wanted to see him one more time before i left and we did hang out again. i drank quite a bit that night . he is not that great in bed and it ended pretty quick. then he wanted to go to sleep and i felt so unsatisfied and tried to touch him so he would get the hint. he shot me down . i admit i felt chocked and vocalized how i felt he was boring. i know how that was something really rude to say. i regret saying that. he tried to return the favor and i said you know this shoulnt feel like a chore..again i was being honestly drunk that night. the next morning we parted ways and said good bye. i decided to stay in town a few more days and texted him. it was my birthday that night and all i wanted to do was see him. i tried my best not to come on too strong. he never returned my texts and i really made me feel bad. so i asked are you mad at me? too cool to say hi to me on my own birthday...he said sry my phone was dead...it started to feel like he was becoming really distant and i cant help but feel super disapointed by that because i like him alot. and i know he did too. so now im home and i havent heard from him, i posted pictures from my trip on facebook and tagged him in a couple. he removed them from his page, his link is still there but they dont appear on his facebook at all. again i admit it really hurt my feelings to see that. I really want to know why all of a sudden hes acting weird and totally uninterested in me now. I want to tell him so much that i feel hes being really distant and i want to know why. but maybe i should give him time to contact me? i just want to know what it is i did. a guy being so warm and sweet to backing off completely...do u think its because i did that too him about being boring? any advice would help, please. i cant get him out of my head, i dont want to loose him...maybe i already did? i need closure and want him in my life
proseandpassion Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 A blow to a man's sexual prowess is not easily repaired. I think you blew it my friend.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Just to recap, this guy was nice and charming and polite and fun up until the moment he shot his load? Then immediately, and I mean immediately after that he became an uncaring ass? Hopefully you can take it from there, but if need be I can draw a literal picture as well. 3
Author FaithInTheDark Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Do you think there is any way i could bring it up to him or Say Im Sorry for what i said?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 do u think i could say i appoligize if i was a drunk ******* and said something rude?
mortensorchid Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I was in a situation like that years ago in an LDR. Essentially he flip flopped on being with me and running away when the moment came that he could no longer keep it casual. That's what this guy has done. I would move on before you are super hurt, if that's possible that you aren't already.
Yookie Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 A little advice for the next guy you meet (you can stick a fork in this one): 1) If he's truly interested in seeing you, he will come to your town. 2) Do not get drunk on the first (and second!) date. This guy only saw you in person twice and both times you were smashed... not a good look. 3) Don't be so quick to jump in the sack with a guy until you have time to find out if he really feels the same way about you. Less heartbreak for you that way. 2
Yookie Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 do u think i could say i appoligize if i was a drunk ******* and said something rude? I'm betting he is very turned off by your drunkeness and so that excuse is not going to fly. If you know you act inappropriately when you drink, then please do yourself a favor and stop drinking so much. It's also rather dangerous to go on dates while drunk with guys you have never met before.
Author FaithInTheDark Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 We were both drinking beers. It was pretty casual. Besides the point... I texted him and said..Im Sorry if i was being à drunk ******* the last night we Hung out..i think youre amazing..... he replied back with.... You werent a ******* at all.. why would u think that..ur Awesome.. lol...guess it didnt phase him?
kaylan Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 How is he amazing if he gets off and then doesnt care about pleasing you and becomes a jerk? Why do you need to apologize for anything?
Author FaithInTheDark Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 That is very true...i guess i felt like i may of damaged his sexual ego. But Yea,pretty rude to randomly lack effort. And take down pics of us. I loved our connection and how He made me feel. But it over welmed me with disapointent
pteromom Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 That is very true...i guess i felt like i may of damaged his sexual ego. But Yea,pretty rude to randomly lack effort. And take down pics of us. I loved our connection and how He made me feel. But it over welmed me with disapointent I think you are feeling more toward him than this situation warrants. You had two drunken dates and one round of bad sex. That's not a connection. Everything he said means nothing. Actions speak louder than words. He showed you exactly who he is and how important your "connection" is to him. So please... just move on. Don't get clingy. 1
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