Soul_me Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So over a month ago my ex broke up with me by e-mail. Our relationship was good and we were very nice to each other. But she was having some commitment issues and emotional problems. So she broke up with me by email saying she needs to find her path in life she needs space and that I shouldn't feel bad, we will see what the future holds. It's kind of like she is leaving the cards open. I still have feelings for her. But I'm not even sure I want her as a girlfriend anymore. But the way she has completely cut me off has lead me to believe that something else happened. I sent her a e-mail a few days ago and got no response. I cannot help to think that I did something to break her trust or piss her off. But honestly I can't think of anything. I was very good and nice to her. I miss her a lot less now, but I still get bothered by the fact there is no true closure in person. Whatever the reason may be I can take it no problem in person and respect her for telling me the whole story. If we have to go our separate ways, or be friends, or whatever, I am cool with anything. I just keep hoping in the back in my mind that one day that the closure will come and it will make me very happy. I'm not a confrontational person, I don't get angry very often. I just think it's the right and mature thing to do in person. I hate leaving loose ends untied. Because it's like you will always have that hole in your heart and mind, and you truly can't patch it up by yourself no matter how much you try, because all the answers are with that one person.
cerridwen Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 There is a Break Up section on LoveShack that maybe helpful to you. Breaking up by email is incredibly impersonal and it's no wonder you're having difficulty getting past it. What is it you'd like to do, or have happen?
veggirl Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Sorry to hear about your break up. Closure is not something you get from someone else. Talking to her and getting some answers will just create more questions for you. Closure is overrated and often just used as an excuse to contact an ex. People fool themselves into thinking "if I just knew XYZ, I could move on". It's not true.
Author Soul_me Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 There is a Break Up section on LoveShack that maybe helpful to you. Breaking up by email is incredibly impersonal and it's no wonder you're having difficulty getting past it. What is it you'd like to do, or have happen? Oh ok, thanks i'll post it in there next time. I'd like to just meet up for a coffee and see how everything is going and if everything she said was the whole truth in the email. Nothing too much.
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