YoungAndStupid Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I met this gorgeus guy, on my family holiday to marroco. i have only spend a total of 4 days with him, with 2 weeks in between (2*2 days) These days were AMAZING, we were together all the time, kissing, cuddling, he was so sweet! On the 3rd day, he said "i love you". i asked him how he could love me, when we had only known eachother for so short. he said that he just loved me. i said i loved him too. the next day, he was telling me he loved me, like a billion times, and he said he would really miss me. it was all so romantic, but i had to leave, because we were going home he asked me when i would come back to marroco, and asked me not to have any boyfriends in Denmark. He said he would wait for me for one year. when i left i was crying, i just wanted to stay with, him i had never felt like this to anyone before. when i came back to Denmark we started writing to eachoter every day on facebook. He said he would love me forever, that he wanted to marry me, that he had never felt this for anyone before. I convinced my mom to go back to marroco in 6 months. we will be there for 2 weeks. i told him i would be coming back, and he said he was so happy, that he couldnt wait for me, that he would spend all his time with me, that he didnt want me to leave. it has been one month since i left him, and i will be going back in 5 months. we write eachother every day, i really miss him, i love him, and i want to be with him. my friends say, that its just because im in love with him, and i cant love him when we have just been together for 4 days. but this is the way i (think) i feel, but it might just be infatuation or lust... I don't know if i will ever see him again after these two weeks, he doesn't have a passport or enough money, and im still under 18, so i can't go there myself. I just want a lot of comments, some feedback, please tell me if i am doing the wrong thing? are my feelings for him real? are his feelings for me real? Is there anyway, that this might work? I am 16, he is 17. He is muslim, i'm catholic.
ILoveMouad Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 hmmm... you do seem quite young and stupid...(no offence) but listen to your heart! and just try to keep it going, and if it fades out, then so let it be. 1
TaraMaiden Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I ....I just want a lot of comments, some feedback, please tell me if i am doing the wrong thing? are my feelings for him real? are his feelings for me real? Is there anyway, that this might work? I am 16, he is 17. He is muslim, i'm catholic. YoungAndStupid? No. Just very young and very naive.... I'm 55 now, but I went through exactly the same experience as you when I was 16, and my family visited Tunisia. You believe your feelings are real, and at the moment, i won't rain on that parade... but this is far more of a holiday crush than a real full-blown love story... North African guys love white Western females. We're so completely different, they're infatuated by us. I was proposed to twice, and my father was offered 22 camels for me. Pretty good, given that the going rate at the time was around 14 - tops. I'm honestly not joking. as for whether this will work? I think not. Catholic and Muslim? Try gasoline and a match, it might be safer. his relationship with you would never be acceptable. Your relationship with him would require you to make drastic changes in your Religious following... If his family is very devoutly Muslim, it's also highly likely he already has a bride in waiting for him there... arranged marriages are the norm, in North Africa. Sweetheart, I promise you, he may have declared his undying love for you, but it's likely he will do so for any other sweet young thing he runs into... He knows there is little or no hope of anything coming of this. Hence his free expression of love. I hate to burst your bubble. Mine got burst too. But let me promise you... You WILL survive this - and get over it. Two months further down the line, I'd even forgotten what he looked like.... Chin up honey - don't give your heart away so easily - be cautious and very particular about who gains your favours. 3
Author YoungAndStupid Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 i don't want to marry him. thats for sure, i can see that this is crazy, i dont know if it will ever work out. but... i love him..?
TaraMaiden Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 i don't want to marry him. thats for sure, i can see that this is crazy, i dont know if it will ever work out. but... i love him..? I know you do. I accept you do. I respect that you do. But the chances of this getting off the ground and going anywhere, are very slim, and very rare indeed. The other thing to remember is that the 'concept' of love is very different at times, with males and females. Looking at a male from an entirely different culture, background and religion, the gap becomes wider still. I would encourage you, if you're so inclined, to keep him as a pen-friend and see how things develop. i guess stranger things have happened - but please don't get your hopes too high up. It hurts real bad if they take a tumble....
justwhoiam Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 AFAIK, Morocco is more open than other North African countries. Girls go clubbing, they wear miniskirts, etc. Of course customs are less free and easy than in Denmark... also, white females are in demand, especially if they are blonde. If nothing else, it'll be a nice time for you to get to know a different culture. You might meet his parents and be involved in some of their social life. I'm not sure if you're a virgin, but be cautious about sex.
Author YoungAndStupid Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Thank you everyone. Ireally appreciate your replies. justwhoiam: what do you mean i should be cautious about sex? i have asked him if muslims can have sex, and he told me that it is forbidden before marriage. next thing he started joking about us being married... I haven't had sex with him, but we did have some "intimate contact". I would like to, but i don't know if he can do it, and ofcourse i respect that.
JWRP Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I would guess she means Africa used to be the capitol of AIDS. Map - The Global Picture | The Age Of Aids | FRONTLINE | PBS Guess it's India now.
Author YoungAndStupid Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 I would guess she means Africa used to be the capitol of AIDS. Map - The Global Picture | The Age Of Aids | FRONTLINE | PBS Guess it's India now. guess that makes sense but he is a virgin (at least that's what he's told me)
TaraMaiden Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I'm sure at that age, he is. Be kind to yourself. don't make your heart so available that its fragility becomes its downfall...
justwhoiam Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 justwhoiam: what do you mean i should be cautious about sex? i have asked him if muslims can have sex, and he told me that it is forbidden before marriage. next thing he started joking about us being married... I haven't had sex with him, but we did have some "intimate contact". I would like to, but i don't know if he can do it, and ofcourse i respect that. OK. I meant it's not so available in his country as it is in yours. He should really marry you to have sex with you. And you're too young to get married, and don't know him much. Note that "intimate contact" can be a good reason for him to be around you. See if he enjoys being with you regardless of intimate contact.
justpassingthrough Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I met this gorgeus guy, on my family holiday to marroco. Don't walk away. Run. Morocco, along with the rest of North Africa, are HUGE sex tourism destinations. Don't do it.
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