Is my ex a pervert and how do I regain some dignity after humiliating myself

[dreamingoftigers]

See Squid,

 

Most people would ignore those guys or tell them to take a hike, you engage back with them and explain yourself.

[Squidoo]

Ignore which guys my ex or Roger? What does MM4 mean?

[dreamingoftigers]

1. Ignore ex

2. Ignore guys that are trying to pick you up and acting like you are a whore at the same time, or just being juvenile idiots about your sexual issue.

3. MM4 was a poster here. It's part of my signature.

Bit of an inside joke that he'd be blinded by women's breasts instead of making good relationship choices while on a date.

[Squidoo]

Ah ok thanks for the heads up

[RogerWallace111]

Well Roger, I think someone who likes to do this and gets a kick out of people walking near by is crazy..... He doesn't know if that person who walks past is going to be a child or an adult, and what makes it ok if it is an adult? I know I don't want to come across a guy having a wank behind a tree!!

 

I see your point , especially if he's making himself open to possible view. I was more picturing someone trying to stay hidden, tuggin it in the bushes, watching people from a distance

[weallfalldown]

done this before roger????????????

[Lone Blue]

Just walk away, or rather, RUN AWAY.

[Squidoo]

I'm trying to Lone Blue, but something keeps pulling me back and making me a pitiful sight!

[Lone Blue]

Squidoo, you're a gorgeous girl, a wonderful human being, and you deserve better! If you find yourself having trouble running, just focus on the negative. If that doesn't work, look at yourself in the mirror and I mean really look at yourself. Do you really want to deal with this man? If you can look at yourself and say yes, then by all means stay; if you don't recognize yourself anymore, then that should serve as a sign for you.

[RogerWallace111]

done this before roger????????????

 

 

Not quite, though I've nerked my throbber in some interesting places, and had some voyeuristic tendencies involving an older girl next door when I was in my early teens ...

[Squidoo]

Thanks Lone Blue, I know what I have to do. I'm just hoping the switch flicks soon so I can get this mess out of my head.

[dreamingoftigers]

Honey,

 

That dude is at least a sexual compulsive if not a sexual addict.

 

He'll keep yanking the chain as long as there is a partial reinforcement to do so.

 

The switch won't flip until you draw the line and stick to it.

 

You're really in deep there.

 

I gotta ask: what the heck was your Dad like?

[Squidoo]

My dad, is a great man......there's nothing stemming from family issues.

[dreamingoftigers]

My dad, is a great man......there's nothing stemming from family issues.

 

Okay then.

 

Well if Dad has good standards, maybe think "would he wants to know I was sleeping with this dumb sh*t that pees on me?"

 

Maybe think *a little* more like that until you can feel more "me-oriented."

[Squidoo]

I guess so, I think I'm just so disappointed with myself as I was doing so well with the no contact. Then when he contacts me I fall at the first hurdle and am now back at square one and with more issues than I had 10 weeks ago. My weakness has been somebody else's gain, when we split I was dignified and didn't beg him back when I realised I made a wrong decision. Now however I've gone from that to almost begging to be friends with benefits again ( and being turned down lol ) sheesh I need therapy lol

[Sugarkane]

Pee in him

 

I second that. Or fart on his face?! He does these things without asking your permission first. I'd run for hills.

[Sugarkane]

I think you need to work out why you want someone who's abusive.

[Squidoo]

I'm trying to work out why somebody has suddenly turned like this.

[Squidoo]

I'm very pleased with myself at the moment! My ex contacted me yesterday to say he now wants to be fwb, and do some things with me that need to be ticked off his list! I was not weak and retorted I'm conducting myself with self-esteem by having boundaries and values, only two things are going to happen: you're either a person who wants to engage in a mutual relationship and will respect me or a person who isn’t going to respect me and is going to walk. I'm guessing you will do the latter!

 

Ahhh it felt good!

[Sameold]

Seriously don't let him pee on you.

 

It seems like he wants to treat you as a hooker. You don't want that.

[Squidoo]

I agree and I won't be going back!