tan14 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So I recently got with my other half and we've been dating for about 2 weeks. We met on a social networking site, he's 7 years older than me (I'm 19 he's 27). Within a day of meeting each other we just connected, we have so much in common, but not too much. It feels like he's so much more than a boyfriend already and feels like I've known him ages. He's already told friends and family members about me (which I totally love) and he's not ashamed nor frightened to show me to the world and be in my company anywhere we go. We've spoke about wanting kids, and getting married (not to eat other, more just discussing our future paths in terms or careers and long-term commitments). But already I feel like I could potentially be with him like that (yes I can already hear people saying way to early). We both acknowledge the fact that it's early days but there's no harm in discussing things. Only last night did he mention he told his brother about us, who mentioned he'd try and make things more official which I was happy about, but then I realized that means both our families finding out. And well the concern there is with Asian families being in relationships isn't really seen to as something that's widely accepted, with the older generation of course (parents and older individuals). Also, should things be accepted I would think they would expect marriage to occur, I'm only 19 almost 20 still at university 2 more years to go and I've briefly made the decision to consider marriage not long after I've graduated so roughly 23. I don't really know whether I'm happy or scared, am I scared because I don't want it or is it because I'm genuinely happy but shocked and taken back at the speed of things. Please share your thoughts and feel free to ask additional questions should you need to... thanks
newmoon Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 you sound both happy and very reasonable... and i doubt you'll make a mistake here. enjoy just being happy with this guy and allow yourself to share that with others (as he is) without feeling guilt or pressure. if you do share the relationship with your familythen stress the fact that you and he and willing to wait for marriage/have a long engagement, etc. many men, and woman, find someone they love and want to be with early in their lives, so do not let your own age be a factor too much :-) 1
Author tan14 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Thanks I appreciate your feedback, it has reassured me that I'm not going a bit over the top. I'll try not to think negative again, I'm just worried that to other people age will be the biggest shock to them..=\ already the reaction I get is are you sure he's with you because he wants to be with you or because he wants something? If that is the reaction i'm going to get from people when telling them about him, is it worth telling anyone? (Not planning on telling anyone just yet, early days yet)
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