Guidance?

[xoxjojoxox]

Hello all, I come here desperate for clarification/sanity/justification anything to help me better approach my current situation. Please don't judge me harshly, though I do encourage any words you might have either positive or negative.

 

I am a 26 year old successful female who has been established and on her own for almost a decade now. In my free time I'm an avid online gamer, and frequently meet people through this venue that I have maintained real genuine friendships with. In May I met someone whom I will call "S-" that at first told me he was 19. Now, yes, even that seems "young" but we got along very well, spoke on the phone, sent emails, exchanged photos, and so as the story goes I found myself with feelings for him and he voiced the same to me.

 

The complication begins here: That same day when we expressed our feelings he told me he couldn't lie to me any longer and that he was actually 17 years old. I was enraged and embarrassed. I took some days to cool off and think all of it through and spoke to him again. I told him I was hurt, and humiliated by the situation... the only problem remains that after these three months I can't shake my feelings for him...

 

I've tried dating other people, going out, staying distracted etc.. but there's a part of me that can't let go.

 

Now I know there are lots of couples out there, my parents included, with large age gaps... but they usually meet later in life. Is there anyone out there who met their significant other who is much older/younger when the time wasn't as "convenient" but they still worked things out? Am I out of my mind for still feeling this way? Any advice, guidance, comments please -- I need sound and objective voices!

 

Thank you in advance for reading/listening!!

 

~ Jojo

[Selina1]

As long as its not against the law, where you're at! Then I would say go for it, age is just a number and you may find him to be a very mature 17 year old. He obviously thought that coming clean was best, so maybe he rally wants to give it a go. Bottom line just follow your heart, only you will know if you're wrong or right!

[BellaMarieOC]

Normally I would say age is just a number, but I'm assuming you are over the age of 18, thus making this crush something you should not act on.

 

If you two are really meant to be you can wait until it's legal to date.

[gaius]

He's legal. Would it even be possible to date him? Does he live nearby? Is he still in school under his parents watch? Would they object to a girlfriend so much older? If he's that stuck in your mind you should give it a shot, if possible. It's not likely that a 17 year old will end up being your life long soul mate, but that doesn't mean it won't be a valuable experience.