Adamgem Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I noticed I mainly visit this forum when things are going wrong the rest of the time I am enjoying life. When I read the stories on here I think I must get out of my situation then I start to wonder.... Are there other stories out there that ended well - where the people living them have had no need to find support online? I can relate to so many on this forum yet when I am with him, which is almost always, everything seems perfect.
LFH Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I noticed I mainly visit this forum when things are going wrong the rest of the time I am enjoying life. When I read the stories on here I think I must get out of my situation then I start to wonder.... Are there other stories out there that ended well - where the people living them have had no need to find support online? I can relate to so many on this forum yet when I am with him, which is almost always, everything seems perfect. I can relate to the framework... He is married to someone else and yet we are very much in love. The nice part though is that our story is happy and we are content with what we have, and our time together is perfect. We have no drama, we have stability and no game playing. We don't lie to one another and I can trust what he says. Does that help? 1
Author Adamgem Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 I can relate to the framework... He is married to someone else and yet we are very much in love. The nice part though is that our story is happy and we are content with what we have, and our time together is perfect. We have no drama, we have stability and no game playing. We don't lie to one another and I can trust what he says. Does that help? Yes, that does help a little.... I have trust issues with every guy. I have not trusted any of them. I do not know how. He tells me 'he finally met the right person and I don't believe him.... that I will not allow somebody to love me'...... It sounds true. I do not know how to fix something like that. A feeling is just a feeling..... how can you change them?
Author Adamgem Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 You said what I could not. This is it to a tee. He cheated on all of us and had no remorse whatsoever. Still doesn't. From what I hear, he IS happy so I guess I am happy for him. OP, I know this sounds cliche but there is an old saying that is "Love isn't supposed to hurt". When the love you have hurts more than the good, it's time to get out and I sense (and forgive me if I am wrong) that you are hurting. Yes? I spend almost all of my time with him.... when he goes away I become angry and mistrusting. This happens every time. The rest of the time I am very happy. This is the confusing part. Am I being unreasonible?
LFH Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I spend almost all of my time with him.... when he goes away I become angry and mistrusting. This happens every time. The rest of the time I am very happy. This is the confusing part. Am I being unreasonible? Maybe a little? Have you talked to him about how that time apart impacts your feelings? I think that woudl be a good place to start.
CALOVELY Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I spend almost all of my time with him.... when he goes away I become angry and mistrusting. This happens every time. The rest of the time I am very happy. This is the confusing part. Am I being unreasonible? No, you are not being unreasonable. What is it that you are angry/mistrusting about?
cocorico Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Are there other stories out there that ended well - where the people living them have had no need to find support online? . Mine ended perfectly. We love each other very much and could not have hoped for a better outcome. 1
LFH Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Mine ended perfectly. We love each other very much and could not have hoped for a better outcome. Your posts always make me smile. It's nice to see people so happy.
Summer Breeze Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 More than 6 months ago MM emailed me the D papers he was going to file. A week later he emailed me a letter from his lawyer saying they'd been filed. I had flowers as normal on Valentines Day and my birthday. A little while ago he sent another email and said he'd been out in an apartment since right after Christmas and the D is almost final and he wants to take me out.
Mount Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 The questions to LFH are how much time you ususally spend with him? How do you feel when you two are apart? I can relate to the framework... He is married to someone else and yet we are very much in love. The nice part though is that our story is happy and we are content with what we have, and our time together is perfect. We have no drama, we have stability and no game playing. We don't lie to one another and I can trust what he says. Does that help?
MissBee Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 (edited) I noticed I mainly visit this forum when things are going wrong the rest of the time I am enjoying life. When I read the stories on here I think I must get out of my situation then I start to wonder.... Are there other stories out there that ended well - where the people living them have had no need to find support online? I can relate to so many on this forum yet when I am with him, which is almost always, everything seems perfect. Of course, but they're not gonna be on here talking about why they're not on here So when everything seems perfect when you're with him, is it in the quiet time when you're not that you start to think of the issues? IME, when I've been hanging out with and around a man I like, even if the situation isn't the best, it's often fun and perfect. But then when he leaves and I have downtime to think, in the quiet of my own mind...that's when any issues that I've pushed aside arise. In a good relationship you should feel secure when you're with him as well as when you're not with him and have down time to think. If every and anything makes you paranoid and insecure and think you should end things because you can relate to other people's bad stories...well that's a serious issue. If your relationship is truly good, you would be hard-pressed to be able to relate so well to the point of wanting to end things. LS/online only represents people in X situation who also use forums. I've always said. There are people whose situations are bad or didn't work out, probably just as much as here, except those people just don't use online forums. Likewise there are people who have happy outcomes, but they also don't use online forums. LS represents a subset of people with real life problems and concerns that may or may not work out, who use online forums to voice them. Edited August 9, 2012 by MissBee
tft Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Mine ended perfectly. We love each other very much and could not have hoped for a better outcome. Same for me. Our journey wasn't the easiest, but I am so very happy now. We both are. I love my H very, very much 1
Teal Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 One of my friends started introducing me to his lady friends, and since I started playing the other field things have been magnificent. I'm just bored tonight while waiting for movies, so I'm on again.
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