starla33 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So I was excited that there are actually Happy Hours now that Match.com throws, so decided to go. Most of the crowd was not that attractive, but there was one guy I thought was super cute so I went up to him and told him he is brave that he came by himself (for some reason he heard me wrong and said Oh thank you, you are very cute as well)....then seconds later some chick that he was talking to before comes and swoops in and grabs him and drags him to the other room. Yeahhhhh not my type of event. I'm not into trying to compete with a bunch of chicks for one cute guy.
photogeek Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Maybe after a while, it will gather a following and more people will show up.
yongyong Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 well I went that event couple weeks ago. It was just alright. Most women were 30+. There were some young girls too but not 'oh man, I should bang this chick' type chick but 'hm I can let her suck my dick' type looking girls. (I am being honest as a normal guy) you should go there early because cute girls will be snatched up by guys right away. you can also hangout at the door and as soon as cute one walks in, you can approach. It's kind of interesting event since everybody knows why they are there. girls can't say 'oh we are just having a girls night out' If you don't see any possibility with a chick, just ignore her and move on to the next one. I did that two chicks who wasn't giving me strong interest. I just walked away without saying anything and hit on different girls right in front of them.
Emilia Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 You go, stud (oh brother). Perhaps you got so lost in your moronic nonsense about thnking ANY woman lives to serves you orally (dream the f*ck ON) that you forgot the OP is a WOMAN seeking a guy. Reading comprehension, much? Jesus. I've taken to just reading your posts on a thread and not bother posting along the same lines myself OP, join meetup groups where the common interest ties with your own. These forced OLD groups can't be that great. Decent types usually have hobbies and interests, it's so much better to meet that way rather than through something that was set up with dating in mind specifically. The competition itself would be just too annoying. 1
yongyong Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 typical white night here. you have bunch of feminist friends, don't you. anyways. I knew it was from woman. I just wrote my experience as a guy. I thought it was funny that girls were competing for guys. I thought guys were competing for girls since I didn't see any girls approaching guys. they were just talking other girls waiting for guys to approach them. You go, stud (oh brother). Perhaps you got so lost in your moronic nonsense about thnking ANY woman lives to serves you orally (dream the f*ck ON) that you forgot the OP is a WOMAN seeking a guy. Reading comprehension, much? Jesus.
grkBoy Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 So I was excited that there are actually Happy Hours now that Match.com throws, so decided to go. Most of the crowd was not that attractive, but there was one guy I thought was super cute so I went up to him and told him he is brave that he came by himself (for some reason he heard me wrong and said Oh thank you, you are very cute as well)....then seconds later some chick that he was talking to before comes and swoops in and grabs him and drags him to the other room. Yeahhhhh not my type of event. I'm not into trying to compete with a bunch of chicks for one cute guy. Sounds like the complaints I hear guys making about meetup.com and such. They'll see hot girls RSVP "yes" and never show, or show up and leave immediately when they don't see what they deem as "cute guys" there...or the FEW women who show up are hounded by loads of men. It sucks, but I seriously think the problem is many single folk still feel stigmas...and worry more about image than meeting someone. Loads of attractive eligible single people out there, but they seemingly aren't doing anything to meet people...despite how much they complain about being single.
irc333 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Yeahhhhh not my type of event. I'm not into trying to compete with a bunch of chicks for one cute guy. Just curious, have any of the men you weren't attracted to (at least on first sight), try to approach you?
Emilia Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Sounds like the complaints I hear guys making about meetup.com and such. They'll see hot girls RSVP "yes" and never show, or show up and leave immediately when they don't see what they deem as "cute guys" there...or the FEW women who show up are hounded by loads of men. I experienced this but only rarely, usually if you are in a group that's legitimately built around a hobby there is a lot of diversity in terms of relationship status, etc It sucks, but I seriously think the problem is many single folk still feel stigmas...and worry more about image than meeting someone. Loads of attractive eligible single people out there, but they seemingly aren't doing anything to meet people...despite how much they complain about being single. I really think singles groups are an unnatural way to meet. Too much pressure from the beginning, almost turning dating and competition into a sport rather than allow connection to develop naturally. 1
irc333 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I really think singles groups are an unnatural way to meet. Too much pressure from the beginning, almost turning dating and competition into a sport rather than allow connection to develop naturally. I do see what you mean, Emilia. Just curious, would you lump it into singles ministries as well? Seems a lot of churches have singles groups where, let's say they go out bowling, have dinner as a group, see a movie, etc. Not sure if you're a church goer, or if that even compares to the more secular singles groups. I'm also finding, regular SOCIAL groups (though not labeled SINGLE), like everyone gets together to meet at a Wine Tasting event , 99% of those people are single. Even meetups that focus around hobbies a good vast majority are single anyhow...so it's kinda moot Like I'm a member of a hiking group, a good majority of the group is SINGLES, occasionally, you'll see a married couple show up. I was talking to a married woman and she said that she and her husband and her showed up to a Meetup, and all the single people in the group had this, "What are these married people doign here?" LOL ...so she formed her own COUPLES themed gathering.
Emilia Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I do see what you mean, Emilia. Just curious, would you lump it into singles ministries as well? Seems a lot of churches have singles groups where, let's say they go out bowling, have dinner as a group, see a movie, etc. Not sure if you're a church goer, or if that even compares to the more secular singles groups. I'm not a church goer I'm also finding, regular SOCIAL groups (though not labeled SINGLE), like everyone gets together to meet at a Wine Tasting event , 99% of those people are single. Even meetups that focus around hobbies a good vast majority are single anyhow...so it's kinda moot Like I'm a member of a hiking group, a good majority of the group is SINGLES, occasionally, you'll see a married couple show up. I was talking to a married woman and she said that she and her husband and her showed up to a Meetup, and all the single people in the group had this, "What are these married people doign here?" LOL ...so she formed her own COUPLES themed gathering. A lot of those common interest groups seem to be created as a pretence for singles to meet, hence the 'wine tasting' and 'hiking'. Another one is 'new in the area'. I'm a member of sailing groups and debating societies on meetup where people have the genuine interest in those activities and don't just go along because they are single. They are often not single.
El Brujo Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I've been to a couple of those OLD get-togethers. They're really nothing more than glorified Happy Hours. 1
FitChick Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Sounds like the old college mixers. I didn't go then and I wouldn't go now.
grkBoy Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I experienced this but only rarely, usually if you are in a group that's legitimately built around a hobby there is a lot of diversity in terms of relationship status, etc I really think singles groups are an unnatural way to meet. Too much pressure from the beginning, almost turning dating and competition into a sport rather than allow connection to develop naturally. I agree with you, and believe me I am not vilifying anyone in this. I tell many that "Singles ______" won't do well. I also say that if it seems all the attractive eligible singles are unwilling to do things that cause conversation (as opposed to drinking and hooking up) then it's just time to dive into interests that bring social interaction...because even down the road that married friend you made might suddenly have a cute single male coworker you just have to meet. Still, and I'm not speaking of you personally, I find it amusing the amount of people I see who complain that they can't meet anyone, but they work too much and/or won't venture out of the very bar/club scene they complain never presents them with "good men" or "great women".
dropdeadredtx Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I have been wondering about Stir...I have had notices about a couple of events in town, but I had conflicts during both of them. At 51, I also assumed I would be in the wrong age range. One of them was at a 'paint your own pottery' venue, and I thought that was a terrible choice to attract men.
mortensorchid Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Good for you, I've seen ads for those Match Stirs and haven't heard of anyone who has gone to one of them. Truth be told, I was not sure as to how others would find those parties. However, I am on a lot of MeetUp groups, some are specifically for singles, and it seems they are populated by all women because women seem more eager to do things like that than men are. I guess your best bet is to do something sports oriented, either playing them or watching a televised event. But still, I applaud you for trying.
irc333 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Good for you, I've seen ads for those Match Stirs and haven't heard of anyone who has gone to one of them. Truth be told, I was not sure as to how others would find those parties. However, I am on a lot of MeetUp groups, some are specifically for singles, and it seems they are populated by all women because women seem more eager to do things like that than men are. Really? Where I am, men are very HIGHLY motivated to meet women, I've known some women to be even be swarmed by men at the events. Some of the social clubs, which they're just that, "Social Club of <name of city>", and tons of people go to them, but has an impersonal feel to them. While the more special interest groups , less amount of people, but they wind up being regulars at events, and stick around for the long haul. Though, you'll see some people show up once, take a gander around, then you never see them again. I knew of one woman that I had known from other Meetups, she's more of a Meetup "Hopper", JOIN a group I frequent a lot, AND RSVP all within a few hours of the actual event. I hadn't seen her in a long time, and I was like "Hey, long time no see" we caught up in what was going with her life, then she says to me, "Hm, some guy said he was going to be at this event, but apparently he didn't show up." She wound up bailing early. It was a Meetup that was quite a good distance away from where she lived, so she really drove a good hike. Some, like this woman, go with a mission in mind. No real sense of fellowship or sense of comradeship. I have seen Meetups titled, "Girls of Glamour" or , no joke "Sex in the City" Meetups (yes, various cities have such a title in the name, lol) Basically, geared toward elitist women who do a girls night out (girls only Meetups) , where their extracurricular activities only revolve around upscale nightclubs. Where wine is 9 bucks a glass, and so on. lol They have no real other hobbies other than the nightlife. ...yes, and even at the age of 40.
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