steveblack Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Hey guys just been in NC for over a month and as I fell asleep yesterday, I started to think of her, but couldn't remember some minor things about her. (keep in mind very minor). I got really sad that I started the process of forgetting about her and it really depressed me. I guess this is the beginning of a stage?
blue_jay_bird Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Well im in two months. And when i think of him. I don't feel sad. I feel mad, bitter. Btw, you will never forget her. So don't get depressed about. How you feel about her will change. Now you feel it's sadness. This too shall pass.
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 that's starting to happen to me too. Its been a month and a half now since BU. I miss his so much but lately im catching myself sometimes not thinking about him like i used to...so i guess we're starting to move on huh? one day im crying the next im like screw him and i don't think about him as much as when im so depressed. this is weird and at times i get scared of the thought of me moving on. At times, my heart starts to pound when i catch myself not thinking about him for like the last few mins or when im actually having a good time with friends. i even feel guilty for some odd reason...wtf he dumped me in a cruel way and dropped off the face of the earth.
Xestenz Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Recovery from this is a fascinating process, and it is amazing how the body, mind, and spirit can heal themselves. I'm two months into NC, and have noticed that when I start to think about things that early on would bring up huge anxiety, my mind now quickly closes the door and blurs over many of the details. In some ways, I can't remember exactly what her face looks like. It is sad in some ways, but that sadness was set in stone the moment she left, and doesn't reflect the reality of the current moment. I'm actually thrilled that these memories and thoughts have less of an impact on me -- it means I'm moving forward and it is a glimmer that soon, this will be a minor annoyance and will no longer dominate my life. I'm determined to get there! Best of luck as you move forward. 2
Author steveblack Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Thanks guys. Its just such a uncanny feeling. Her face is beginning to blur, which scares me a bit. But its for the good.
Mike_d Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I'm 46 days in, life seems calmer. still a huge cratered hole in my life from where she used to occupy for almost 16 years, but I'll live and move on. I worked hard on forgiving her, not to her face, but 100% for myself. Hard as hell. Her actions are still hard for me to fathom and can never ever be seen as anything but horrible despicable behavior, but I've moved on from there. I didn't cause her actions, and I can't fix her. I can however learn to respect myself enough to do things differently going forward. Might be something to look at for some of you
Lone Blue Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I broke NC Saturday, but I know the feeling. I, too, am beginning to forget even if it may not be as apparent. I don't talk about him as much anymore. I don't spend my days crying in bed. I may feel angry, mention him and the like, but it isn't with the desperation I felt before. I no longer dream of him and the urge to stalk him is less and less. Come to think about it, I don't even remember his kiss, his body, or even his smile. It's hard to believe it's been over two months already. I wish he missed me, but eh, I know he doesn't. It's probably for the best; the person he has become now is someone I worry over. He views women as f*** toys and only that.
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