blue_jay_bird Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 We are two different people. We are at different places in are lives. Tell me more:
2muchlove Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 We are two different people. We are at different places in are lives. Tell me more: I just don't want to be tied down right now.
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "It's not you, it's me". Just curious, does anyone ever get this line? Because my ex said it was definitely me!! (a******).
steveblack Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "It's not you, it's me". Just curious, does anyone ever get this line? Because my ex said it was definitely me!! (a******). Yeah I got this line and I need space, I want you in my life, but i dont know what that means, and I think one more, but cant remember all in the same breakup.
KatZee Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "It's not you, it's me". Just curious, does anyone ever get this line? Because my ex said it was definitely me!! (a******). Oh I got this one!!! Him sobbing and going, "It's not you... it's all me!!" and I looked at him like... (0_o) and went... "That's incredibly cliche of you. Now tell me the REAL reason." I got: I need space. I need to be single. I need to find myself. I need to fix myself. I don't even know what my hobbies are. I need to focus only on my career. I need to get my head straight. blah freaking blah. All horse sh*t.
Hindsight_is_20_20 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Oh I got this one!!! Him sobbing and going, "It's not you... it's all me!!" and I looked at him like... (0_o) and went... "That's incredibly cliche of you. Now tell me the REAL reason." I got: I need space. I need to be single. I need to find myself. I need to fix myself. I don't even know what my hobbies are. I need to focus only on my career. I need to get my head straight. blah freaking blah. All horse sh*t. He was actually right though, ya? o_0
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 His actual words for 4 straight days after the BU.... -i love you and nothing about you has OR will ever changed in my heart (SURE THEN HOW COME I NEVER GOT A SINGLE CALL OR TXT its been a month and a half) -i just need time to figure out things (YEAHHH RIGHT ITS ABOUT TO B 2 MONTHS ) -you're the best girlfriend i've ever had (AND YET YOU'RE BREAKING MY HEART AND LETTING ME GO...UHM SURE) -when im ready you're the only person i want to be with (STFU HES ALREADY IN A NEW RELATIONSHIP or so i've been told...but DON'T CARE) -my life is a mess right now and i just want to be alone (YEAH TO BAD HES STILL HANGING OUT WITH THE PPL THAT ARE DRIVING HIM DOWN THAT SHI**Y ROAD AND MESSING HIS LIFE) -tells me im beautiful and there's no one out there who will ever be a wonderful gf like i was to him... (THEN WTF?! WHY DID YOU DUMP ME OVER A STUPID THING?!) BS all around and for a min i actually believed him and had high hopes till reality slapped me in the face 1
steveblack Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I think a good rule of thumb, if you get at least 3 of these lines, you definitely go NC immediately! These are either excuses or lines that mean "i dont know what the **** I want in my life" 1
SoConfusedAndInShock Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I think a good rule of thumb, if you get at least 3 of these lines, you definitely go NC immediately! These are either excuses or lines that mean "i dont know what the **** I want in my life" yup its been more than a month of NC and its killing not one attempt to contact me since then tho..that says it all. some days i cry some days i'm mad and last few days im starting to catch myself not thinking about him as much. this is heart wrenching plus ive already been down this road with a previous ex
Floored Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "I love you but I'm not in love with you" "We're just so young, who knows if we've figured it out already" "Half of me loves you and half of me just wants to be single and live that life"
Car10e Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I still love you, but we're not right for each other at the moment.
Frank13 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "I don't deserve you" "You're too good for me" "I'm confused" which all mean "I don't love you and don't want to be with you".
Occu3.14'd Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "Half of me loves you and half of me just wants to be single and live that life" This one is a classic. The funny part is that it should be a 50/50 shot, right? So why is it that 100% of the time the person ends up wanting to be single.
Xestenz Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Four days before the breakup: 'I've never been touched like this before.' 'I wish we could fast forward to just living together'. 'I love you'. The day of the breakup: 'I'm not trying to hurt you.' 'I'm just overwhelmed'. 'I think I need some space.' One week post breakup (she was calling me): 'I just can't be in a committed relationship.' 'Can we be friends?' 'The ball is in your court.' Three weeks after the breakup (by text, and after she drew me back in): 'Hi, I'm moving on. I have nothing but respect for you but no longer see a future for us. Take care!' That's the last I've ever heard from her. Bull****, all of it!
weallfalldown Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 " I do love you, we just can't be together" "you can love someone , but not be with them" hmmmm 1
KatZee Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 He was actually right though, ya? o_0 He was right about the part about it being him and not me but: 1. Didn't remain single 2. Didn't fix himself 3. Actually goes out more now than he did when I was dating him so there goes the career excuse 4. New hobbies include going back to his college days being drunks and getting with chicks
someone12341 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "We are not right for eachother" "I feel your to clingy, but you always let me go out with my friends and do my own thing" "don't want it to be like its here one day and gone the next" "I'll never regret being with you" "you were great to me, but i just am not feeling it" "You never listen to me" "wish i would have realized this sooner or never came to this" what ever that is suppose to mean?
jdids247 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 (edited) I'm not myself lately -I was telling her this for months. She was never the same after the miscarriage You've been my only real boyfriend -Then why did you want to get married so bad and start a family with me? I guess I must have been really horrible to you You were a good boyfriend -If I was good, then what's the deal? I don't think you love me anymore -Yet another thing I said to her months ago. I was emotionally throwing myself at her and trying to get her attention and she has the nerve to say this to me after she was cold as ice for months! ...and the rediculous Facebook statuses about a couple weeks later about her life being great, and then having sappy ones about being heartbroken. Have to love the wishy-washy, irrational behavior to throw on top of that too. Edited August 9, 2012 by jdids247
Lolamola Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Im losing eveyrthing in my life nowIts not like were gna get married!Things end eventually
Crila16 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "It's not you, it's me." "I'm just not looking for a serious relationship right now." "I have so much going on in my life. I need some time to figure things out." "You're so amazing and you're going to make a great girlfriend/wife to someone someday. I'm just not looking for that right now." "I need some space." (yeah...some space to see if it's going to work out with this other chick or not. If not, I want to keep you on the shelf to fill the void.) ...on the rare, but truthful ocassion..."I'm just not feeling it."
Blastoplast Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 My EX is having troubles coming up with excuses for breaking up with me, because outside of her money issues and self-confidence, we were really great for each other. I still think she may be the one, but not right now in life. Her excuses: "It's not you, it's me" -- Clearly, but let me be your rock and let's work through this. Why all this serious marriage talk and future plans and then back out on that? It's spineless, cowardly and selfish. "The spark just isn't there" -- After 7 years, that spark isn't always going to be there, you have to work at it, LORD I tried. "I feel this move isn't temporary" -- Well, I wouldn't have decided to make this move if you didn't owe me thousands of dollars. And guess who's saving a lot of money right now and setting REALISTIC future goals, and who's still taking on water? "Some relationships just end" -- Only because YOU want it to, either because you're feeling guilty of being a financial leech, or maybe you were cheating. It doesn't matter at this point. 1
Author blue_jay_bird Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Rather then the whole "it's me, not you" I got the it's you. Apparently everything i am is why he doesn't want to be with me. "it's just who you are".... ( **** you)
Lone Blue Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 1) "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you." 2) "You're TOO WOMAN for me." 3) "You DESERVE so much BETTER." 4) "I need SPACE." 5) "It's not YOU, it's ME." 6) "I need to FIND MYSELF." 7) "I don't know WHO I AM anymore." 8) "I don't have time for a SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP." 9) "I want to REGRET losing you." --> If someone has EVER gotten this one, please LET ME KNOW. And gah, the list just goes on.
Jamesblame Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 "I don't deserve you" "You're too good for me" "I'm confused" which all mean "I don't love you and don't want to be with you". I got all of those, plus " The girl who gets you is going to be the luckiest girl in the world." Fast forward a couple of months and she came crying back. I was happy to tell her: You told me you were confused, but I found a girl who isn't. You told me that you loved me and didn't want to be with me, but rest assured I don't want to be with you. You told me that whoever was with me would be the luckiest girl. You were right. And then I said: I care about you a lot A. Let's just be friends, because even though I'm not IN love with you, I love you. You deserve someone who knows what they want. And then I listened to Cry Me A River on repeat like this :D 1
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