gotye Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 My significant other is really bad at contacting me regularly. I have not talked to him since 26 hours ago and we don't see each other all that often. I am used to the new age of technology and communication where everyone texts... so in my mind it is normal to text SO every day... or better yet call. I could text him first of course, but a. I always do b. he said something recently about him not missing me as much as I miss him... which upset me Not that I expect constant texting, maybe just a; how was your day? He contacted me yesterday after he got home and I responded like 4 hrs later with a short txt back not opening the convo... Still kind of upset with him and life in general and wanted to have me time to cool down. So big question is; am I being crazy for wanting to hear from him at least once a day?
Author gotye Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Sounds like LDR? We live about 50 miles apart. Not so bad but I always have to go to him because I just left my apartment at school to intern/look for a real job out of college and live at my aunt's... And tbh I hate going to visit him to, there's nothing to do where he lives.
Oxy Moronovich Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Honestly, most guys find it a turn-off to be with a chick that needs to be contacted every day. It really, really does tiresome to deal with a chick like that. Many times I've talked to dudes and they explain why they are happy in their relationship. One of the things they are happy about is they've finally "found a woman who doesn't need me to contact her every day or even every other day." Trust me, a woman who doesn't need to be contacted every day ranks higher with men than a woman who needs constant contact.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Yea this is a must for me. I won't date anyone with different communication style. My current either texts or calls every day 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Honestly, most guys find it a turn-off to be with a chick that needs to be contacted every day. It really, really does tiresome to deal with a chick like that. Many times I've talked to dudes and they explain why they are happy in their relationship. One of the things they are happy about is they've finally "found a woman who doesn't need me to contact her every day or even every other day." Trust me, a woman who doesn't need to be contacted every day ranks higher with men than a woman who needs constant contact. Uh not even every other day? How close can they be with so little communication? Sounds like a casual/FWB deal to me...
tina783 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 My bf contacts me (phone or text but usually phone) on days I don't see him without me asking him to which is nice. If he didn't, it wouldn't bother me at all and I certainly wouldn't nag him about it.
Author gotye Posted August 9, 2012 Author Posted August 9, 2012 Honestly, most guys find it a turn-off to be with a chick that needs to be contacted every day. It really, really does tiresome to deal with a chick like that. Many times I've talked to dudes and they explain why they are happy in their relationship. One of the things they are happy about is they've finally "found a woman who doesn't need me to contact her every day or even every other day." Trust me, a woman who doesn't need to be contacted every day ranks higher with men than a woman who needs constant contact. ugh, I want a man who checks up once a day i rank a guy who does high on my list. I don't need to text 24/7, just maybe a short convo at end of day about day I talk to a good deal of my friends everyday with a short txt. maybe it's a preference thing that makes me and my bf not so compatible... I compromise a lot with him and he doesn't do anything
Pyro Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Every relationship that I know of they are in contact with each other at least once a day, whether it is a single text, email, phone, etc. Most normal guys would not find that to be a turn-off. To me it seems as though he is not as committed as you are? How long have you two been together? 1
monkey00 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 IDK if i'd want to stay in contact with a SO daily. Eventually you run out of stuff to talk about, I'd rather save the talking and catching up at a face to face. I guess for me it depends who the person is and what we talk about. Personally I like it when a girl contacts me more than I contact her.
eleanorhurting Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Every single relationship I have been in we have kept in contact every day. More than once per day! My current boyfriend does not love talking on the phone and his whole approach to the relationship is more laid back than mine is but he still contacts me every day either by text or email or gchat usually by 3 pm (yes, its funny I am not sure if he is even aware of it but its almost like clockwork). After that we usually keep in touch with a text here or there or if we are both online then one will start talking to the other, etc. We only talk on the phone every few days if for whatever reason we could not see each other in person and we usually see each other 2-3 times per week. Sometimes more, sometimes less. To me our relationship is already pretty laid back so I can't imagine being anything less than how much in contact we are now! Communicate to him how you feel but be assured that there is nothing unreasonable with wanting to be contacted every day if you are in a committed relationship!
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