robdrm32 Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 I'm looking for perspective from both men and women here. I'm not in a good spot to be in a relationship, as much as i'm a romantic its not really an option right now. So i've been poking around a few online sites and there are women that are let's say "putting themselves out there" From the men i'm wondering; It's been a while for me about 2 years. I know that i'll probably have the premature problem, any tips on how to avoid this? Please use examples/ideas you have used in the past. From the women; when you have sex with a man will it be a deal breaker if he doesn't "perform" the first time? Is it something I should bring up and maybe ease into it, trying oral the first couple of times until i can calm my nerves? I'm confident in my abilities when I can last but based off experience I have trouble lasting until I get into the habit again, which unfortunately isn't the case right now. And please if you don't have advice or positive input don't derail this thread, i'm not some d-bag, just a guy looking to have some fun with very willing women.
pteromom Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 From the women; when you have sex with a man will it be a deal breaker if he doesn't "perform" the first time? Is it something I should bring up and maybe ease into it, trying oral the first couple of times until i can calm my nerves? I think you are overthinking it, and worrying too much about something that hasn't happened yet. It's not a deal breaker if he doesn't "perform" - it all depends on his attitude about it. If he is able to laugh it off and keep making me feel good, who cares. But if he acts shamed and insecure or worse, angry, then yeh, it would be a deal breaker. If you have a date you think is gonna end in sex, just masturbate the morning of your date, and go into it with the attitude that you are having fun. Go with the flow. Don't go into it thinking "I am only gonna do oral." How do you know she'll even be into oral? How do you know she won't be so sexy, you'll be able to get it up again 10 minutes later and go for an hour? Nothing is sexier than spontaneity and passion.
pteromom Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 The best thing a guy can say when he comes too fast: "Uh oh. I'm sorry. You are just so gorgeous, I lost control of myself." then grab her and show her just how sexy you think she is. Hard penis not required if you have hands and a mouth.
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