Matt145 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I know that being friends with an ex if you still love them is a no go. I also know to stay friends with them if you want them back isnt the best idea. But in my situation my ex still actualy loves me, she still misses me and wants to be here for me she also gets jelous of other girls. I know this sounds wierd because you would just get back with them, but the thing is she wanted to be free and didnt want to be tied down and wanted to be single all that ****. She begged me to be friends 3 days ago and i told her no and we went NC again. But she told me she has been speaking to her ex who she was with for 2.5 years, and when we was together we split up once because she told me she still thinks about him and the times they spent together, which seemed to me she was not over him. Now that i know shes talking to him again i cant help but think about it, i keep thinking hes going to be there for her while she is upset off family issues right now, and that she will fall for him again and they might get back together. The chances are she wont even tell him shes having issues right now and she wont want him to know shes upset and she might not want anything to do with him and be nothing but casual friends, i just always think of the worst. Its killing me, im not desperate to get her back but knowing this about her ex i cant help but think if i be her friend and be there for her and show her im better than her ex she might wanna get back with me, a part of me also thinks that if she still loves me if i be friends with her and spend time with her and all that crap she will want to get back together. I know its ****ing stupid me thinking it but i cant help it i keep having mixed feelings. Can someone please talk me out of it before i do something really stupid.
Sameold Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Nononononono! DO NOT AGREE TO THIS!Do not be her friend if you have emotional feeling for her. In essence you will be giving her a free pass to suck on anyone elses cock with your permission whilst you take all the emotional baggage you used to. It sounds like she wants to sleep around but still know you will be there waiting for when she's done. Please do not agree, your self-esteem and manhood will suffer and she will lose all respect for you as a man too. She might even start to tell you about the huge cock she took last night in her ass...do you want that? Be strong, you were her bf remember. You don't deserve 2nd best.
Author Matt145 Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 Nononononono! DO NOT AGREE TO THIS!Do not be her friend if you have emotional feeling for her. In essence you will be giving her a free pass to suck on anyone elses cock with your permission whilst you take all the emotional baggage you used to. It sounds like she wants to sleep around but still know you will be there waiting for when she's done. Please do not agree, your self-esteem and manhood will suffer and she will lose all respect for you as a man too. She might even start to tell you about the huge cock she took last night in her ass...do you want that? Be strong, you were her bf remember. You don't deserve 2nd best. Shes not the type to sleep around she has self respect, shes not just dumped me so she can sleep around. But what you said does make a lot of sense.
Sameold Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Shes not the type to sleep around she has self respect, shes not just dumped me so she can sleep around. But what you said does make a lot of sense. Dude, she loves you but she wants to be single? What does she want from being single then? Also, she is back seeing her ex in some capacity. You might think you know but you can not be 100% sure what she is up to. All you know is she is single now and can do what she wants. Don't be the fool who sits there as 2nd best. Please. Staying involved as a friend is not a good way to win her back, the best thing you could do would be to tell her how you feel about her and then leave her to it. She will come back to you but would you really want her knowing she's probably been choking on someone else's meat?
notsure252 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Love is a weird thing. But I am telling you, DO NOT be her friend. It will only hurt you in the end, and if you want to get back with her you can pretty much guarantee by being her friend she will never try again because she is getting everything out of you that she will need, leaving you hurting. Take this time to better yourself and enjoy life, and if she contacts you then you can really think about it and decide if you want to try again. Love is different between people, but by being her friend you can guarantee you will never get her back.
Floored Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I see sameold has it covered in here. Really, this is an anonymous forum and we don't make the rules, but it's basically a history lesson detailing thousands of breakups. If being friends with your ex worked in any capacity, it would be a well known thread and there would be guides and advice, etc. Be friends with her and watch it destroy your sanity. We all thought we had something special and unique in each if our relationships, yet here we all are. We can either heed words of caution from those that failed before us or we can make the same heart-breaking choices they did. It's over Matt, it sucks to hear and it's hard to even comprehend, but she wants nothing to do with you but string you along just in case. Even if she does eventually come back, she'll throw you back on the line next time she gets bored ad nauseum.
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