Decorative Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 For DDay 1- the other woman's dad contacted me. They had hired a PI because my spouse's story to the family did not add up. ( the OW knew, but they lied to her family). DDay2- I keylogged and caught them. It had gone underground. I exposed far and wide and kicked him out of our house.
eleanorrigby Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 (edited) I found a receipt from the video store that had someone else's account name on it. I went to that video store, found a worker there, showed her the receipt and told her that I thought my husband was having an affair. I asked her for the contact info on that receipt. I love this woman, she risked her job for me. The person I called was actually the OW's mother (it was her video account she was letting her daughter use) She assured me that her daughter was not a home wrecker and that it was not possible because she (the mom) was an ordained minister. I always felt good that her mom found out what she was doing. I knew nothing I could have said would shame her, but I bet her mom gave her the business. (the OW was pretty pissed about this and felt that I had crossed the line. LOL) (I might *poof* some of this later.. feels like TMI) Edited September 19, 2012 by eleanorrigby 2
HappyAtLast Posted September 19, 2012 Posted September 19, 2012 She took one of my sons to lunch with her. My son told me about "mommy's friend". Fortunately, he was small enough to not recall any of this.
henson Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Like everyone else...I'd suspected for a couple of weeks. I "knew" when I came home unexpectedly early on a Friday afternoon (intentionally) and she was struggling to close a chat window on her computer without letting me see the contents. I deliberately stood over her shoulder for about five minutes, talking with her and waiting for her to bring the window up...but she didn't. Even asked if she could ask OM a question for me via chat, but said he wasn't at his computer at the moment. Finally, I relented...stepped back and when I turned back around the window was closed. That was ok. Later that night I hacked her IM accounts and enabled logging. Later that weekend I installed a keylogger. That Monday night, she refused to come to bed with me so that she could stay up gaming...with OM. That was my last straw...it had happened too many times. Next morning I pulled all the logs and emailed them to myself. Dropped my son off at school and checked the emails when I got to work. All the info I needed was right there. After we live long wth a person, we can easily find out the difference between the day before, even a kiss, an eye sight or a smile can send us the information: she is having something.
ThatJustHappened Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I found a pair of hideous sparkly turquoise heels under his bed. He tried to tell me they were his sister's..his sister lives 3000 miles away. That's when the ***** hit the fan and he confessed that she had been stalking both of us for months..he claimed he was 'handling it'. Apparently she had hacked my computer and my cell phone so that all of my text messages were duplicated to her. And she had long lens pictures of me coming and going at his apartment. Then once he told her that I knew, she emailed me all of the cyber sex conversations the two of them had along with several photos and videos of the two of them having sex. He is 15 years older than me, and she is 6 years older than him, by the way. She ended up losing her company, her friends, and pretty much everything else. She went to jail for 3 months, and afterwards she invited me to a court mandated counseling session where she apologized to me. I accepted. I haven't heard from her since, but he recently tried to reconcile with me. Hahahahaha.
AnotherRound Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 My baby sister was graduating from college 7 states away, and exH and I had purchased plane tickets to attend. He had taken the week off work months prior, and we were meeting a ton of family there for a week vacation (sunny and beautiful place). About 4 days before we were to leave, he claims he can't go bc he has to work, can't takeit off. That did sometimes happen, so it was believable. Anyway, as he drove me to the airport, I noticed he wasn't wearing his wedding ring and asked him why. He claimed he had forgotten after fishing the night before to put it back on. I had suspected for a few weeks, but didn't have any proof, and couldn't be bothered to look for it. I was unnhappy too, and just figured I would wait to find out. Anyway, whole time I was out of state, I couldn't get in touch with him. He didn't answer his cell, or the home phone. Even his friends wouldn't answer my calls. I came back home (he wouldn't even pick me up at the airport, and I had to call a friend to get me, then had to spend the night at her house and had towait an extra night to get home). When I got home, the house was immaculate... and I knew better. He never cleaned, ever, and that house was spotless. Crime scene clean. As I walked into the dining room, I noticed all the wedding pics and.other pjcs of us were gone. He had taken them down and put them in drawers on the comp desk and had forgtten to put them back up. I asked him, he denied, cried, and swore on his dad's life. I called a gf of mine, she went through the trash, found condoms, boones farm, odd cigarette brands that were girly brands, used tampons, and some fake fingernails. I knew, confronted him, he still denied. Even stormed out of the house, went to his best friends house to get their stories straight, had his best friend call me to explain it was him with girls, not my H. I knew they were lying. Anyway, taking the trash out, with all the evidence, and the elderly couple from across the street called me over. I helped them a lot with their yard, carrying stuff, took their trash out for them... stuff like that. They knew I had been out of town and although they hated to butt in and tell me hurtful news, they told me my house was a party house all week, as H didn't have to work after all. The neighbor lady was really angry with my H and said it was different girls in and out all week long. H still denied. Got phone records, called the OW, she denied, acted like she didn't know him at all. Confronted him again, and he denied. I made him move out, with him denying it the whole time. In fact, he never admitted it until years later. I still only know of the one OW who lasted a few months. There were probably others though. I was a wife that never questiones as I never thought he would cheat. He often did guys weekends away, fished all night long, etc. For all I know, he could have been cheating all those times. I tried to forgive him, and I did... but I didn't want to be with him anymore, we just weren't a good fit. We divorced, and he has one more divorce under his belt now. I have no anger, the divorce was the best thing ever for me (and prob him too). But it sure taught me a lot, and forced me to not be naive about marriage or relationships any longer. It was a hard fall for me, but it was 11 years ago, and I'm glad to not be married to him anynore. It was not a good marriage, and we were really young when we started dating.
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