sleepie Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Just checking in here, kiddos. I went NC with xMOM about 3-4 weeks ago. Don't remember exactly how long, which I take as a good sign. I still have moments of thinking about xMOM, but I suppose that's natural. I try not to dwell, though it does happen occasionally. xMOM called my H a few days ago. Just a short "Hi, how are you?" chat. They are friends, although they don't talk often (maybe once every few months). xMOM knew I'd hear about the conversation, but I don't think he was fishing or trying to send me a coded message (i.e. "I'm over you, b*tch"). I could be wrong though. Maybe it was his way of saying "I hate you so much that I'm not even going to ask your H how you're doing." I wish I had news to report, meaning that I have totally moved on and put my A behind me. I'm working on it, just not quite there yet. I admit that xMOM's phone call to H threw me for a little loop, in terms of sending me backwards in some of the progress I've made with NC. But I guess that's natural. Just a vent. I suppose I am always trying to rush things. 1
scatterd Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Good job on keeping NC. Continue on I hope MM does not call all the time. I cant remember if you had a DD but I am asuming no beings he called. That would have made your heart skip a beat when he called.
whichwayisup Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I can assume that you and xMM never told your husband about the A.. Can I ask, aren't you concerned that your H will find out the truth?
Emme Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 xMOM called my H a few days ago. Just a short "Hi, how are you?" chat. They are friends, although they don't talk often (maybe once every few months). xMOM knew I'd hear about the conversation, but I don't think he was fishing or trying to send me a coded message (i.e. "I'm over you, b*tch"). I could be wrong though. Maybe it was his way of saying "I hate you so much that I'm not even going to ask your H how you're doing." Uh-oh... Not liking where your mind is going. Try not to read anything into it. Don't beat yourself down. Be proud of the progress you have made. Keep pushing forward.
Author sleepie Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 I can assume that you and xMM never told your husband about the A.. Can I ask, aren't you concerned that your H will find out the truth? Every day, though I know it's not likely.
Author sleepie Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 Uh-oh... Not liking where your mind is going. Try not to read anything into it. Don't beat yourself down. Be proud of the progress you have made. Keep pushing forward. Yeah, I don't really want to read into it because... well... it's not my issue anymore. I have more important things to focus on. Some days it's baby steps. Some days it's giant leaps. Every once in a while I move backwards. But mostly it's forward progress. So that's good.
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