lovejoy41 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I was just wondering if someone can share about ways to cope. I don't really have hobbies nor am I that into hobbies other than reading which makes me tired. I hate to sound pathetic but my case is complicated. Most of the things that you do in coping doesn't work for me. By saying that I mean this... like I said I have no hobbies. I don't have a circle of friends(oh that's not all). My best friend has betrayed me so we don't talk at all. So what's left? I do love the gym. Here's the problem: Before I walked away from my FWB I was working out at least 3 days per week. Now I'm just not motivated to go. I feel like I want to go one minute, but the next it's like "Nah, I don't feel like going". Can someone help me with this? Is this normal? Should I just force myself to go? Or allow myself time to feel like going again? Has anyone on here found that working out really helps with coping? I'm really trying to move on and get over this. I have not contacted him since 7/26& he has not contacted me since 8/3 to which I didn't reply so I'm doing good with NC. I just need some suggestions on what others did to get through. Help please
Fallenandbroken Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Hi I'm in the same boat and in no position to give you relationship advice as that would make me a hypocrite but, when I was dumped and quickly replaced the gym saved me. I was usually invited to go out at weekends but during the week I would work then spend my evenings climbing the walls so I joined my local gym. For the first few weeks I was so desperate to achieve an amazing body to make my ex want me again that I went 5 times a week. Then I realised i was going about it the wrong way. It was really about making ME better. I think what would I be doing if I was with her? Sitting on my a*s in front of the tv zzzzzzz When you excersise you release endorphins which act as a natural anti-depressant. The more you excersise the better you'll look the better you'll feel and that's what counts. You also get talking to people in the gym and make new friends. With regards to should you wait till your up to it etc. get off your a*s and get in there lol there are days I can't be bothered but you've gotta push yourself to get there. Once your there and doing your first set or run you'll be glad you went. I'm by no means a gym expert and do not claim to be but you'll start feeling so much better so go for it. Pain is temporary.....quiting is forever! 1
Author lovejoy41 Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 (edited) Thank you both so so much. I know what you mean. I be feeling this way too. One minute it's like "You need to go, go on you're letting him win"! & then it's like "Man, just lay around & chill". So I guess the "get up and go" voice is the little angel on my shoulder and the other one is the guy with the horns and pitchfork.(lol) I think I will go after work fri. I've got to get my brows and nails done tomorrow. @hduscio No I haven't read that one. I'm reading a book called "Reconstructing Natalie" a book about a woman who discovers that she has breast cancer. I know girl we are both going through it. I'll be chatting with you more on here. We have to be here for each other. All of us. But if you need me to help you through walking away or getting there, you feel free to talk to me too ok? Thanks again guys for the tips! Edited August 8, 2012 by lovejoy41
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