Eternal Sunshine Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I have noticed this happen few times with different men I dated. I would go out on a date and he would start talking about my facebook pictures for example. He would say: "I really loved what you were wearing on picture 47" (yes, he actually quoted the album and picture number )... Obviously I am wearing something different on the date and they are implying that they don't like what I am wearing now as much... OR "I love how you styled your hair on FB picture 78".... I always get a sinking feeling when I hear those comments. I put a lot of effort into looking good for THIS particular date Girls, would this bother you?
Kamille Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Those strike me as odd, stalkerish comments, but I do think you're reading way too much into it. If I were to guess, I think you've grown up, like me, with a mother who was an expert at the underhanded criticism. ("Oh! You sliced the tomatoes?" -when she wanted me to dice them but had never specified.) This makes you more vulnerable to think that this is how most people communicate. You're likely prone to try to read into what people are saying, when, in reality, they probably mean what they are saying. Nothing more, nothing less. Sounds to me like this guy was, in his very odd way, trying to give you a compliment. I don't think he meant it as criticism. Had a guy commented on how great I looked in picture 4 of my on-line profile, I would have replied with: thanks! and thought nothing more of it. 3
eleanorhurting Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I agree I think he was trying to compliment you! BTW I was going to tel you that I love your hair in your avie! But, I still like your hair in your other pictures though!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 I agree I think he was trying to compliment you! BTW I was going to tel you that I love your hair in your avie! But, I still like your hair in your other pictures though! Nice save EH
eleanorhurting Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Nice save EH well if I would not have known that you were extra sensitive about receiving compliments I would not have said that though! The guy probably is thinking the same! He probably has no idea what you are thinking when he is giving you those compliments!
serial muse Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Hi ES, My take is that when people do this it's a way of trying to show you (admittedly, a somewhat strange way) that they really paid close attention to your profile and are sincerely interested in you. I think it's just an awkward kind of compliment.
Star Gazer Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Those strike me as odd, stalkerish comments, but I do think you're reading way too much into it. If I were to guess, I think you've grown up, like me, with a mother who was an expert at the underhanded criticism. ("Oh! You sliced the tomatoes?" -when she wanted me to dice them but had never specified.) This makes you more vulnerable to think that this is how most people communicate. You're likely prone to try to read into what people are saying, when, in reality, they probably mean what they are saying. Nothing more, nothing less. Sounds to me like this guy was, in his very odd way, trying to give you a compliment. I don't think he meant it as criticism. Had a guy commented on how great I looked in picture 4 of my on-line profile, I would have replied with: thanks! and thought nothing more of it. Yup... all of this. Are you friending guys you're casually dating? I wouldn't do that...
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 Yup... all of this. Are you friending guys you're casually dating? I wouldn't do that... I am friending them mostly because I want to find out info on them. If they are married, have a gf, are who they say they are etc. You wouldn't believe how many times FB has helped me catch out someone in a lie. 1
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