Lucky555 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I have known my guy for 6 years and we have been in a relationship for 2 years. We have talked about marriage..we set a date for on year that either it happens or it doesn't. I'm ready to be engaged now. I will not live with my bf or changed job unless there is engagement so I know it's seriously going to lead to us being together forever. Currently I live with him 4 days out of the week. We spend three days apart. Im getting tired of comuting 1 hour 15 min twice a week for us to be together. I'm tired of having to bring stuff over to his place. I'm starting to feel like it would be easier if we were engaged and started living our lives. He said he wants to get married and wants a future with me. Why has it not happened if this is true? He claims our "jobs" hold us back. Our jobs can be an issue at any point!! I told him my concern about the job thing and he says now it has nothing to do with our relationship. I am "hearing" he loves me, wants a future, and want to married to me. I'm thinking that he really does no want that since he has not proposed. I do love him but I'm finding I hard to not have my guard up a little since he is not moving our lives together. He claims he and are we but I'm nt getting that feeling. How do I cope? What should I be doing differently?
january2011 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 we set a date for on year that either it happens or it doesn't. What happened to this date? Has it been and gone? If it has, then I think that's your answer. After knowing you for six years and being in a relationship for two*, I think that's enough time to know whether or not he wants to marry you. My only conclusion is that he does not and he's just keeping you hanging until something better comes along - whether that's another woman or a life change that has a much better future for him than his current life. The only exception I would accept to this is if you are very young, that is, still in your early 20s and you are both still establishing yourselves in your career. Though granted, people have married much younger and with a lot less. I think it's time to plan your exit strategy. Start making plans for your future, with or without him. That includes spending less time living with him and removing more of your stuff from his place.
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