rjsam Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hi. I met a girl a year ago.She was our trainer.I must admit that this girl had me at hello. Unfortunately, there's a rule that an employee should not be romatically involved with a superior.So ive waited till i finished that course and moved to the next level. So after the training, I add her up on fb.We had few chats,get to know each other then i got her number. I got to know her interests then i gave her a book as a token for her patience during our training.It was all good until i started asking her out.Yeah. I got turned down. So I moved on and did not pursue with her.But i never lost the interest.And yes we still smiled and greeted each in the office.This goes on for 6 months I guess, until I had this guts again to text her.weve been texting and chatingfor about a month now.We have great conversations and laughs at some jokes.But i she never innitiates.But the thing is, she always responds to my messages. She doesnt ask things about me but she answers all my questions.I cant ask her out.I dont wanna be rejectd again.It's all but confussions whether she likes me or she is just one of those people person. What do you think? Thanks in advance guys.feel free to comment.
durentu Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 She can't date guys from work either. Her job is more important than you. She made her choice, time to move on.
Author rjsam Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Hi thanks for the response.We can date now.im not her trainee anymore.that's why im a little confuse.
todreaminblue Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hi. I met a girl a year ago.She was our trainer.I must admit that this girl had me at hello. Unfortunately, there's a rule that an employee should not be romatically involved with a superior.So ive waited till i finished that course and moved to the next level. So after the training, I add her up on fb.We had few chats,get to know each other then i got her number. I got to know her interests then i gave her a book as a token for her patience during our training.It was all good until i started asking her out.Yeah. I got turned down. So I moved on and did not pursue with her.But i never lost the interest.And yes we still smiled and greeted each in the office.This goes on for 6 months I guess, until I had this guts again to text her.weve been texting and chatingfor about a month now.We have great conversations and laughs at some jokes.But i she never innitiates.But the thing is, she always responds to my messages. She doesnt ask things about me but she answers all my questions.I cant ask her out.I dont wanna be rejectd again.It's all but confussions whether she likes me or she is just one of those people person. What do you think? Thanks in advance guys.feel free to comment. I think you should ask her.Sometimes that woman may feel exactly the same way you are.There is always doubt in any sort of ASK.Rejection can go two ways, her fear of rejection may be as great as your fear of rejection so I can do an equation for that for you with the answer to what you have to do....... Your fear of Rejection + Her fear of rejection= YOU have to ask. sorry sometimes the answers are not what we want to know......Maths sux hey......smilin....maths is always logical though so there is your +...I wish you luck and a happy equation with a positive solution......DEB
bdash Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Well my initial reaction reading this is that she is not interested. As a "nice guy" who isn't amazing looking I tend to get friend-zoned alot, and this sounds alot like something that would happen to me. I say this because, (1) this is the only thing that explains the non-initiation of texting (girls are, in my experience, worried that you will take initiation as a sign they like you), (2) in my experience girls don't change their mind very often about liking a guy without getting close to them first, and (3) as Im sure you know, when you ask out a girl who likes you and she can't make it, she makes sure you know that she would be happy to go any other time, which it doesn't sound like she did. So, if you like her as a friend, or really want her, Id suggest trying to make plans with her, but make sure that she knows it is just as friends, try to connect with her, and after a little while see if her view of you has changed. Hope that helps!!
Author rjsam Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Thanks for the responses! Im still tryin to get close to her.i did text her on a daily routine basis and i always get responses.i havent asked her out thou.i feel uneasy coz she never asks anythin bout me.she just laughs at my jokes and just answers questions..i dont know.i would still try.
belocchoc129 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 From a girl's perspective, it seems to me that she was just being polite or she likes you at least as a friend. Does she ask questions or trying to get the conversation continue or it's just you asking questions and her responding? For me, if I'm interested, I will certainly ask questions even if I'm too shy to initiate conversations. If I'm not interested and I feel like the person is being nice and friendly I'm still gonna respond to the texts. It never hurts trying though. You can just ask again, something as casual as having coffee or invite her to some events in a group setting. That way she won't feel obligated to go and you will feel less awkward if she said no.
Author rjsam Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 she never asks nor initiates.i was the only one who keeps askin bout her.well,nice thing about her is that she finds time to respond and that she never cuts of conversations.well,i guess youre right.she's just being polite.thanks!
Abystarswoman Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 You've asked her out once and she's turned you down - so at the least, she knows you're interested in her. Honestly, I don't think I'd try again unless she approaches you first. If she's oblivious to your good qualities, she's probably not worth your effort anyhow.
Author rjsam Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 You've asked her out once and she's turned you down - so at the least, she knows you're interested in her. Honestly, I don't think I'd try again unless she approaches you first. If she's oblivious to your good qualities, she's probably not worth your effort anyhow. Yeah.u are right..i havent spoken with her for a week but never heard a word fr her.
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