Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hi, So me and my girl broke up about of 2 weeks ago, first week was hell, then the second week was much better, and now this will be the 3 week. So the second week was of limited contact, and im planning on making this week of no contact at all. And maybe ask her if we can meet on the weekend. So we been together for almost 6 years, and we were very happy, she alwasy said she wanted to marry me, and she wanted to have kids with me, wanted to live with me, and that i was the only one for her. I met all her family and they aproved me, and were proud of me being her boyfriend. So we got together maybe when we were too young, i was 15 and she 14. Now im 21 and she is 20, and this is the first time we break up, or have a problem this big. Im not yet sure of why we broke up, but i happened, maybe it had something to do with her feeling something for a co-worker that she does not see anymore, but she says it wasnt because of that. Im now thinking it migth be because of all this time we been together maybe we needed a break from each other, because she says she loves me like she loves no one and i love her so much too. So the last time i talked to her (sunday) i accidentaly dialed her number, and she told me she sees im doing so much better, and i could feel she was atracted to this, she then told me that if i ever want to talk to her or hung out with her that i should tell her. Im still inlove with her, and i think she might be the love of my life. So maybe this break was necesary, when it happened she stopped eating for a while because she was so depressed and we both cryed a lot. And the last time i saw her in person she tryed to kiss me, but she also said she didnt want to get back just yet. So my question is if 3 weeks of not being together is enough time for me to ask her for a second chance. Or if i should wait a bit more... i really love this girl and i know she loves me too.
KatZee Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 If you're the dumpee... no. You don't ask to get back together. You will lose all respect and all dignity. You have no idea why you split, but I'm sure she knows why, she's just not telling you the truth. If she wants you back, she knows where you are. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 sounds like she's stringing you along........your so young.....
Mike_d Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 she then told me that if i ever want to talk to her or hung out with her that i should tell her if she wants to get back together with you she'll let you know, she'll move mountains to make it happen. that doesn't seem to be happening in your description. you've been friend-zoned in the meanwhile. time to work on you - sucks, hurts like hell, but you don't have much choice. begging to get her back is the worst thing you can do and is nearly 100% guaranteed to result in driving her further away. Women will always find a guy attractive who is 1. Confident 2. Charming 3. Challenge you are none of these things right now. the good news is that you can be, ball is in your court
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 so you guys think i should do nothing, and wait for her to come to me? im already improving myself, and started a new sport and stuff. The break up was kind of a mutual thing but yes she is more the dumper than me.
KatZee Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 so you guys think i should do nothing, and wait for her to come to me? im already improving myself, and started a new sport and stuff. The break up was kind of a mutual thing but yes she is more the dumper than me. She's not going to turn around in mere weeks. If she wants to see what else is out there, she's gone. You need to douse that torch you have lit for her. You need to act as if she's never coming back. It sucks, and it hurts, but if you don't let go you'll be holding on forever.
Mike_d Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 so you guys think i should do nothing, and wait for her to come to me? no, you should do nothing and work on improving yourself and healing up. if she comes back or not is irrelevant at the moment, you don't do these things in order to get her to come back. you do these things because that is what people who are more emotionally balanced do, they don't rely on others for their happiness. you need to become better for yourself because you want to. keep reading here, it will start to make sense soon
weallfalldown Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 if she wants to get back together with you she'll let you know, she'll move mountains to make it happen. that doesn't seem to be happening in your description. you've been friend-zoned in the meanwhile. time to work on you - sucks, hurts like hell, but you don't have much choice. begging to get her back is the worst thing you can do and is nearly 100% guaranteed to result in driving her further away. Women will always find a guy attractive who is 1. Confident 2. Charming 3. Challenge you are none of these things right now. the good news is that you can be, ball is in your court we can't always be these things.....and if a woman can't support your crappy side from time to time, she aint worth it anyway!
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 im already doing things to improve myself, but i really miss her and i really love her, and i wish we could get back together. But then, if we get back together, you guys think it must come from her and not from me? that i should forget her and give up hope?
weallfalldown Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 yea mate......your hurting now, and once you've felt that for a while, you won't want her back anyways....just keep your chin up
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 8, 2012 Author Posted August 8, 2012 so how do you handle the no sex thing? lol
Floored Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 so how do you handle the no sex thing? lol Oh dear, I suppose I'll handle this one. *Takes Coyoteloco on his knee* You see Coyote, God gave every man two hands, a body that produces 200 million sperm a day, and the ability to ignore shame for just long enough to make that math work out. How you do the math is your business, but it's usually frowned upon to do these calculations in a public or other unwanted setting. 1
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