stewwy Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 wel, heres the rest of it. So, in a nut shell I came home from out of town and found used condoms, ones that I bought, in the trash. So obviously my reaction was blinding anger and hurt. I reacted extremely with words after no explanation was given. things like your a f****** whore , you couldnt keep your legs closed, blah blah. Now a mutual friend tells me that while I was gone she had friends stay in our room. my friend said they use condoms as birth control. my thought is if they were on vacation wouldnt they have their own? and what about the fact that my girlfriend had her period while I was gone and the used condoms were bloody? Anyway, point is I may have been wrong in my first assumption. I dont know what to do or feel.
HokeyReligions Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 If you fully trusted her, your first instinct would not be to believe that she was capable of infidelity. You *may* have been wrong and jumped to some conclusions, but what would have led you to that? There must be something else in the relationship that has caused some feelings or thoughts that not everything was OK. Sounds like there are, and have been, some trust issues in the relationship before. If I came home and found that, I would be immediately suspiscous but I would not believe it and would want an explanation. THEN I would lose my temper!
miz_barby Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 The condoms were bloody and she had her period...well first gut feeling may be correct! This sounds bad but can you find out if the "friend" was on her time? If not then...well there you go! That will answer it all. I'm sorry I believe strongly in "gut feelings" and circumstantial evidence! Be cautious, if she did sleep around you deserve better! If not then she should have told you there were "friends" over, chances are the "mutual friend" is trying to cover for your girl!
same stewwy Posted July 14, 2004 Posted July 14, 2004 barby you are right . I have always rusted my gut. this is the first time I have allowed myself to doubt it. Hokey, I did give ample time and asked for an explanation, but no response was given. no call, no email, no anything.
miz_barby Posted July 14, 2004 Posted July 14, 2004 I think if you gave her ample time to explain and she didn't or couldn't.....well you know what's the right thing to do. No one deserves this at all!!
same stewwy Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 yeah, the right thing to do is forget she ever existed and learn to never doubt my instincts. This will be a tough one to get over. we were engaged to marry in october in mexico. I flip back and forth between rage and devastation. I dont ever want to be in this place again.
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