irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ...as part of your height. I don't get some of these women, they are always throwing in, "Oh, I wear heels, so he must be taller than me in heels, I am 5'6", but come to 5'10", so if you're not at least 6 feet tall , I won't date you" I mean, come on, isn't that a bit cheesy to include your heels? Give a 5'8" man a break LOL!
eleanorhurting Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 What is it that is really bothering you? Like M.C pointed out before, I do not understand why you keep creating these threads. Who cares if they include their heels in their height? Who cares if they don't want someone who does not share their hobbies?? Why does it bother you so much? I am not trying to be mean I am trying to be helpful. Maybe if you get the root of what is really making you create all these threads then you can actually tackle the issue. 10
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I asked this question in one of your other similar threads, but you didn't answer. I'm going to pose it again: I don't understand why you continue to concern yourself with such things. If somebody on a dating profile says something that is very exclusionary, or whatever - that's the time to move on to the next profile. Instead, YOU usually come here and make a thread about it. Why? I truly don't get it. I really would like to know why you think you do this, OP. Maybe you'd be better served by spending your time meeting women who have profiles that don't exclude who or what you are than making threads about those profiles. We all know that you have no problem excluding plenty of stuff yourself, too. 4
Leopard Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 lol! It's just a want, not a necessity for most I'm 5'10 and I wear heels all the time. Admit it, a woman in a nice dress won't look as sexy if she wears flats. Plus it's not professional or dressy. The man I just broke up with was 6'5 and still taller than me in heels. It felt so incredible to finally be a woman who was STILL shorter than a man in heels. I hate always being the tallest woman everywhere I go. Do you even know how annoying it is for men to always come up to you and say "Woah you're tall!" It's the same as a woman coming up to a short guy and saying "Aww you're so short!" No one wants that. 1
Lonely Ronin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I mean, come on, isn't that a bit cheesy to include your heels? Give a 5'8" man a break LOL! It's not cheesy at all, she is honest and up front about what she wants. 1
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 What is it that is really bothering you? Like M.C pointed out before, I do not understand why you keep creating these threads. Who cares if they include their heels in their height? Who cares if they don't want someone who does not share their hobbies?? Why does it bother you so much? I am not trying to be mean I am trying to be helpful. Maybe if you get the root of what is really making you create all these threads then you can actually tackle the issue. Meh, maybe I'll eventually stop my rants...>I think If I keep doing this, Ill eventually get sick and tired of being "sick and tired"
eleanorhurting Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Meh, maybe I'll eventually stop my rants...>I think If I keep doing this, Ill eventually get sick and tired of being "sick and tired" or you can start going after people who do not care about those things! They are out there! 1
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Do you even know how annoying it is for men to always come up to you and say "Woah you're tall! Yeah, but they're attracted to you because you're tall. So it's not an insult really.
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 or you can start going after people who do not care about those things! They are out there! Very true, but I think some women won't put their height requirements in their profile....meaning, even though they don't say anything about height in their profile....they keep it in their mind. So there's no way of knowing if by omission she's not looking for something.
Leopard Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Yeah, but they're attracted to you because you're tall. So it's not an insult really. Not necessarily. Oftentimes it's a bet to see how I will react, or if the guy has enough "balls" to confront a woman that much bigger than him. If men were truly attracted to women taller than them, I wouldn't have trouble finding a man who wasn't intimidated by height. 1
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I think the OP is most comfortable with communicating online and he likes discussing his adventures of OLD. I think we should let him, he isn't bothering anyone else and he takes disagreements well. The section here does encourage everyone to get on their soapbox after all. 3
jobaba Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ...as part of your height. I don't get some of these women, they are always throwing in, "Oh, I wear heels, so he must be taller than me in heels, I am 5'6", but come to 5'10", so if you're not at least 6 feet tall , I won't date you" I mean, come on, isn't that a bit cheesy to include your heels? Give a 5'8" man a break LOL! No offense to any women here who think like that (I know there are some), but anybody who I am taller than and screens me out based on that would not be a fit for me whatsoever anyway. Way too concerned about social appearances. And likely way too girly for me and shallow FOR ME. All of my exes would have been taller than me if they donned 4 inchers. I don't think any even owned a pair of stilettos. Not that I can remember. Mostly 2 and 3 inch heels or 3 inch boots. Date someone who has your same degree of shallowness. If you're that shallow yourself, then swallow the pill and put up with the rejection... 1
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Not necessarily. Oftentimes it's a bet to see how I will react, or if the guy has enough "balls" to confront a woman that much bigger than him. If men were truly attracted to women taller than them, I wouldn't have trouble finding a man who wasn't intimidated by height. Well, you're in luck , height of a woman does not intimidate me. 2
Imajerk17 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I brought this up in another thread but you ignore. You are too much like somedude81. irc, I'm noticing a certain victim-like thinking coming through in your threads. It's like there is a conspiracy to keep you down. Every one of your threads to the best of my recollection reads something like this: "Single women where I live are: -stuck-up -guarded, -gold-diggers, -too picky about unimportant stuff, -into douches, -flakey -chat with me like crazy over phone/text/Facebook, but they never want to meet up -leery of good guys like me but are super-responsive to losers. And our married mutual friends are cock-blocking me!" And yet you seem unwilling to do much about it--either (a) moving, or (b) trying to figure out and improve how you are coming across. This very thread isn't you asking for advice so much as it is about putting blame on others for your not dating as you want--i.e., how guarded single women are and how crazy/irrational they are for it. A victim-like attitude isn't attractive to women you know. 6
AD1980 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Online dating for men is a uphill battle unless your talls cuessful and good really looking.. Its a fantasy checklist that favors women because of the huge amount of men on there..So its a plcae where average women can try to shoot for the stars..
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ...as part of your height. I don't get some of these women, they are always throwing in, "Oh, I wear heels, so he must be taller than me in heels, I am 5'6", but come to 5'10", so if you're not at least 6 feet tall , I won't date you" I mean, come on, isn't that a bit cheesy to include your heels? Give a 5'8" man a break LOL! I'm 5'6'' and most men I date are around my height. I think I just notice them more, maybe I'm too lazy to look up or something Having said that, women love wearing heels and they don't want to tower over their man so the heels issue will remain I'm afraid. 5'8'' is not a bad height, the average woman is 5'4'' in the US I believe and most don't wear heels more than 4''
eleanorhurting Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Very true, but I think some women won't put their height requirements in their profile....meaning, even though they don't say anything about height in their profile....they keep it in their mind. So there's no way of knowing if by omission she's not looking for something. Well I can tell you from my experience I would not put height requirements on an online dating profile because i really do not care as long as the person is my height or taller (and I am 5'5 so i think most men are my height or taller). I would not go into that whole high heel or not thing because I don't care. Just avoid the ones that put that kind of specific standards that you do not meet. And you know what? I met a guy who was 5'3 a year ago and I went out with him several times because I thought he was worth getting to know even though he was 2 inches shorter than me! We did not really click but maybe if we had who knows what would have happened. Bottom line: Go after the women who are open-minded enough not to go into specific details about height in their profiles and ignore the ones that you do not meet their requirements. Don't take it so personal. 1
PJKino Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 As a man you have to live with womens vanity..Her looking small and pettie next to her man is the most important thing before anything else 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 As a man you have to live with womens vanity..Her looking small and pettie next to her man is the most important thing before anything else Really? Wow, thanks for telling all of us women about what's most important to us. I bet I'm not the only one to whom this comes as a big surprise.
eleanorhurting Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Didn't you say in another thread that you do not consider a girl who is not open to changer her name after she marries not wife material? You have pretty specific standards too IRC
Leopard Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 As a man you have to live with womens vanity..Her looking small and pettie next to her man is the most important thing before anything else Not the most important thing, but it matters to her. No woman wants to look tougher and stronger than her man. This includes height. Just like how no man wants to look small and minuscule compared to his woman. He wants to be her protector, keep her safe. Even if he can do this, our brains automatically say no when we see a smaller man with a bigger woman.
PJKino Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Really? Wow, thanks for telling all of us women about what's most important to us. I bet I'm not the only one to whom this comes as a big surprise. I didnt say all but the majority think that way lets be honest..just look at womens dating profiles
PJKino Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Not the most important thing, but it matters to her. No woman wants to look tougher and stronger than her man. This includes height. Just like how no man wants to look small and minuscule compared to his woman. He wants to be her protector, keep her safe. Even if he can do this, our brains automatically say no when we see a smaller man with a bigger woman. But if a man is 2 or three inches taller then a girl hes still bigger regardless of heels she wears since that is not her actual height
Leopard Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 But if a man is 2 or three inches taller then a girl hes still bigger regardless of heels she wears since that is not her actual height Well yeah that's true. But in my defence, I rarely ever leave the house without heels so it's pretty much the same thing
FitChick Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Nowadays the men:women ratio is pretty even, at least on paid sites, because OLD has become more respectable.
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