Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hello, my 6 years girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago, and i think its because she gots the greener grass syndrome. Is there a way to deal with this? she is already going to therapy, and she says its helping her, but im worried she migth do something that will change things forever and that i couldnt go back with her even if she wanted so. So is there anything i can do, or anyone can do that will help her realise what is happening to her. Im almost 100% sure this is the reason she broke up with me.
Ruby65 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm so sorry this is happening to you! If she's in therapy, that means she's taking this situation seriously and getting help. That's a really big deal because lots of people who are acting out with G.I.G.S. choose to stay unconscious about it. She's ended the relationship, so there's really nothing you can "do" at this point, other than respect her decision and give her time and space to work things out on her own. I'd make sure she knew you were always available to talk if she ever wants to talk in the future, and that you wish her the best. I'm so sorry..... it's rough! Keep posting and reading through old threads here. There's real support available -- you're not alone!
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 So maybe we got too serious too young, because im 21 and shes 20 right now, and i never had another girlfriend neither she has. But i always knew i loved her and we were so happy together we barely fighted, sex was awesome, and we both loved spending time with each other. But then she started having second thoughts and she messed up a bit, and this ended our relationship, she didnt kiss anybody else or had sex with some1 else, but she told me she was in a moment in her life where one road was with me, and the other road was she being single and that she didnt know which road to choose, and that maybe this could be the worst mistake in her life. So she choosed being single, her family freaked out because they all love me, and they all thought that i was the best man she could get. I miss her alot and i dont know if i could handle her being with another man, that would kill me inside and would kill what we had forever. Im still inlove with her, and i still would take her back, but she did hurt me alot, and im still going through this broken heart thing. And i dont know if i could be with another women, well i know i could but im not really interested in being with another women because i just want her
Ruby65 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 So maybe we got too serious too young, because im 21 and shes 20 right now, and i never had another girlfriend neither she has. But i always knew i loved her and we were so happy together we barely fighted, sex was awesome, and we both loved spending time with each other. But then she started having second thoughts and she messed up a bit, and this ended our relationship, she didnt kiss anybody else or had sex with some1 else, but she told me she was in a moment in her life where one road was with me, and the other road was she being single and that she didnt know which road to choose, and that maybe this could be the worst mistake in her life. So she choosed being single, her family freaked out because they all love me, and they all thought that i was the best man she could get. I miss her alot and i dont know if i could handle her being with another man, that would kill me inside and would kill what we had forever. Im still inlove with her, and i still would take her back, but she did hurt me alot, and im still going through this broken heart thing. And i dont know if i could be with another women, well i know i could but im not really interested in being with another women because i just want her Well, I'm not going to say you're both too young to be so serious about each other, because I met my ex-H when I was in my late teens and we were married 20 years! (Note that's my EX husband, though.....) The thing is, this is your first serious relationship and your first big breakup.... not that it ever gets any easier, but you don't have the benefit of having been through it before and knowing that eventually you'll feel much, much better. If things don't work out with your ex, you WILL start to feel better in time, you WILL move on, and you WILL fall madly deeply passionately in love again!! What you shared with your ex will always be special.... all the relationships you have in your life will be special and unique. If you two don't get back together, it isn't the end of love or happiness or sex for you... just that PARTICULAR version of love and happiness and sex. If you don't get back together.... it WILL hurt you but it WON'T kill you. Keep posting! Everyone is here to support you.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 thanks so much for your answears. So i got another question, the last time i saw her in person was a week ago, and i talked with her on the phone (accidentaly) on sunday, and she told me she sees im doing well, and that if i ever want to talk to her or hung out with her that i should just tell her. So do you think i should tell her to meet and maybe think about a second chance to our relationship? (I already told her this a week ago) Or just leave her alone and keep in no contact, like should i wait for her to come to me or should i go for her?
Ruby65 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 thanks so much for your answears. So i got another question, the last time i saw her in person was a week ago, and i talked with her on the phone (accidentaly) on sunday, and she told me she sees im doing well, and that if i ever want to talk to her or hung out with her that i should just tell her. So do you think i should tell her to meet and maybe think about a second chance to our relationship? (I already told her this a week ago) Or just leave her alone and keep in no contact, like should i wait for her to come to me or should i go for her? I think that's something you need to decide for yourself. What was her response last week when you asked her to think about a second chance?
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 well, she tryed to kiss me, but i didnt let her, and she told me that maybe all this was a mistake and that in some time she would regret hurting me so much. And that she was confused. And i dont know, there was also this dude she met a month ago at her work (she doesnt work there anymore). Because of this dude all started, she said she was feeling something for him, and that she cant compare to what she felt for me, because what she feels for me is so much stronger. But i dont know i dont remember that much, and im kinda in a hurry right now. I still love her so much and i really want to be with her. but i dont know if i should go and tell her, or wait for her to come to me. I think im going to stay NC for this week, and next week ill see how it goes.
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