ThatDudeXO Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 That's all I want to know! 9 months after the break up, feeling like I'd moved on and dated someone else for a while (That ended akwardly) ...I've come to realise that I still love my ex and want her back. Logically, I shouldn't feel like this but I do. What makes it worse is that I think she's seeing someone else. The loneliness is killing me. She says Hi every now and then, we talk but I just talk as if I've moved on and that I'm happy.
BooBoo1982 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Are you the dumper or dumpee? Are you sure you want her back and not just feeling lonely?
Author ThatDudeXO Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Are you the dumper or dumpee? Are you sure you want her back and not just feeling lonely? Dumpee. I really don't know...maybe just lonely because things didn't end well with this other girl I liked. The dreams of my ex have crept up again and I have nothing but loving feelings flr her.
BooBoo1982 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Did you still think about her when you were in your last relationship?
weallfalldown Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Hi....your probably reverting back to her, because you were rejected by the most recent woman.....where as in reality you have moved on, you just crave being close to someone....which would be the last real thing.
Author ThatDudeXO Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Did you still think about her when you were in your last relationship? Not as much. I thought I was over her and fully moved on. I had high hopes with this other girl but I was let down. Once that ended a month ago I felt good regarding my ex. Just this past week after talking with her it's just reminded me of how good our relationship was. I don't feel that much pain....I just love her but it does hurt in my weakest moments.
BooBoo1982 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I would give it time, make sure it's not loneliness that is making you think you want her back, if you decide after a few weeks that you do still want her you could maybe talk to your ex and see how she feels about it?
Author ThatDudeXO Posted August 22, 2012 Author Posted August 22, 2012 I would give it time, make sure it's not loneliness that is making you think you want her back, if you decide after a few weeks that you do still want her you could maybe talk to your ex and see how she feels about it? Hey. I've given in time and I still feel this way. I'm working, seeing friends and keeping myself busy but the dreams have crept up again. In my dreams I spent so much good time with her, it reminded me of when our relationship was great. I woke up feeling so in love. I don't think about her that much but then again I am quite lonely. I don't have anyother girls on the horizon..... I'm not ever going to message her back because she made it clear we will never get back together and I think she's with someone else now. She has me on FB but everything is private. Could that just be it? Loneliness? I'm finding it so hard to meet new girls right now. It's not as easy as it used to be for me.
villageman Posted August 22, 2012 Posted August 22, 2012 If I had to guess, I'd say one reason you're having a hard time getting over her is because of the continued contact. I broke up with my girlfriend about 6 months ago, didn't have any contact with her for the first few months and slowly started to feel better, and then stupidly got back into contact with her a couple of months ago, and it sent me back to square one. I'd say, block her on facebook, and stop writing her or trying to contact her in any way shape or form. If she contacts you, maybe politely tell her that, you still have feelings for her and it's really hard for you to be in contact at the moment. It totally sucks. I'm in the same boat. I miss my ex like hell, and it is making me miserable. But I know she's not coming back, just like it seems you know, and so the only thing to do is to move on and try to find someone else... some day. If you really loved this girl, it's going to take time to totally get over her though... like, a lot of time probably, and there's really no way to get by that than to just go through it. Work on making your own life better, work on yourself, and one day, things should look up.
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