jessicasofia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 He is being SO cold and distant, not his usual self - he used to make feel so special and happy, BUT the past week, he seems VERY different. - I feel like I'm losing him. I have been with him for a year; we were actually best friends for a year before that and he has been absolutely amazing to me, made me feel like a complete goddess. I actually felt like the luckiest girl in the world to be with him. BUT … Right now, I am starting to feel really hurt by him. . . I have asked him SO many times if he is okay . . . he always tells me that he’s completely fine and then asks me why I’m even asking in the first place. -What's making him like this? He is not telling me anything and just pretending everything is fine . . I just don't know what to do or think. This is our conversation from today: (-STILL waiting for him to reply - has been over an hour now) [11:29:50] Anya: Are you really really okay? xxx [11:20:03] Alex: yes.. [11:20:13] Alex: why, Anya? do I seem not okay? [11:20:13] Anya: You seem a little quiet, that’s all. But I love you just as you are, so no worries. xxx [11:21:25] Anya: So are you looking forward to being together next week? Love you xxxx [11:20:33] Alex: Well, yeah. Hopefully it'll all work out xx [11:21:25] Anya: I am! It will A, we can work on it together. Who loves you? xxxx [11:36:17] Anya: I do! SO can't wait to see your face and run into your arms! I love you xxxx - ALSO is he avoiding me? He is giving me SO MANY EXCUSES. . . here they are . . . [03/08/2012 09:17:33] Anya: Can we just talk for ten minutes? Love you xxxx [09:18:46] Alex: is there something important to talk about? Sorry but I seriously wanna make up for oversleeping and being late arriving at the gym.. [29/07/2012 11:10:36] Alex: I think I'm gonna go and lay down for a bit before I go out with my friend. xxxx [11:12:21 Anya: okay, can we talk today? xxxx [11:15:41] Alex: I don't know when I'm gonna be home but yeah, if I return later on we'll talk. xxxx [11:16:01] Alex: I'm going now, Anya. Xxxx [20:03:54] Alex: I do fancy talking tonight but I doubt we'll be able to do so. xxxxx [20:04:45] Alex: I'm going to bed earlier tonight cause I wanna clean my room tomorrow morning before I leave for the cinema [20:55:52] Alex: Anya, I'm gonna shower and then I'm off to bed! xxxx [20:56:47 |Anya: Okay! [20:57:31] Alex: I guess that's goodnight even though it's only 9pm [20:57:36] Alex: I love you! Xxxx [25/07/2012 15:51:22] Anya: Alex? Can we talk? LOVE you. xxxxxxxx [15:51:45] Alex: Sorry, can't. As I said, I'm going out in a bit. Xxxx [30/07/2012 19:35:40] Anya: Alex can we talk tonight? xxxx [30/07/2012 19:35:40] Alex: No, Anya - I'm not feeling too good right now. Sorry, maybe tomorrow xxx [19:57:14] Alex: Anya, I'm going to lay in bed xxxx [31/07/2012 14:18:31] Alex: I'm going out today too actually - gotta get a membership card for the new gym that opened up recently and is practically next to my place. Xxx [14:35:29] Alex: Anya, I'm gonna go see my parents for a bit and then I'm going out. Xxxx [27/07/2012 12:02:08] By the way, I'm not gonna stay here for long(maybe like 15-20 mins more) cause after that I've gotta go. xxxx [12:04:08] Alex: I'll be gone for like the most part of the day. Going out first to do some test at a language school, something to do with an IPL certificate or so and after that I'm meeting with a friend of mine. xxxxxx [12:10:50] Alex: I'm gonna go take a shower and I'm going out after that, so I'll have to say goodbye now. Love you! xxx [04/08/2012 10:45:09]Alex: I'm gonna go take a shower and then I'm going out to see a friend of mine cause I haven't seen him in half a month. Love you xxxx [ 10:45:40] Anya: Aw, I hope you have fun with him and enjoy seeing him after so long! I love you xxxxxx [28/07/2012 14:38:38] Anya: You're welcome lets face it you are better at the word association than me Alex! We can talk in a while, if that's okay with you. I love you! xxxxx [28/07/2012] Alex: I'm gonna spend time with my family today, so I'm going soon! Xxxx See you later, Anya. [01/08/2012 11:15:02] Anya: Did you get your gym card?! Did you have to sign your name on it?! xxxxx [11:15:47] Alex: Yeah, I'm actually going to the gym in a bit cause I'll be busy tonight xxx [02/08/2012 17:07:14] Anya: Can we talk at some point tonight? xxx [17:07:46] Alex: Not too sure about tonight [17:13:28] Alex: Anya, I won't be staying up late cause I go to the gym early in the morning xx [17:27:27] Alex: Anya, I'm going to lay in bed and watch some tv or something. xxxx [09:02:08]Alex: I gotta go in a bit. xxx [09:02:26]Alex: Gotta hang the laundry to try, take a shower and go to the gym [03/08/2012 09:03:10] Anya: Alex? But I thought we could talk for a change xxx [03/08/2012] Anya: I've got a lot of stuff to do, sorry xxxx [03/08/2012] Anya: But you could go the gym a little later? You actually have all day, if it's open 24/7. Love you xxxx [03/08/2012] Anya: I can go later but I want to go earlier so I'll have the rest of the day free cause I was thinking of meeting with a friend later on
durentu Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm going to save your relationship. read this: His & Her Diary From the Same Day - Imgur This is perhaps the first lesson about men you will have to learn. 3
Arabella Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You know, I can see the above poster's point, but I also notice the fact that you're always the one asking to talk to him and him turning you down. How long have you been in a LDR? Have you spent any time together in real life prior to turning into a LDR? It feels like you're not much of a priority to him... and you sound like you have no life of your own. What do you do all these times that he goes out? You should be talking to him about how this makes you feel. -A 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You sound clingy. He doesn't sound invested. 3
Yookie Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Don't ask to talk anymore. Wait for him to want to have a conversation with you. Sounds like he doesn't want to make time at all to chat so you will find out within a week or two where you stand. 2
dreamingoftigers Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Don't ask to talk anymore. Wait for him to want to have a conversation with you. Sounds like he doesn't want to make time at all to chat so you will find out within a week or two where you stand. This. Completely this. The more you push, the less he has to do and the more saturated he feels. 1
FitChick Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 How long have you been in a LDR? Have you spent any time together in real life prior to turning into a LDR? Where does she say she is in a LDR? Did I miss it?
dreamingoftigers Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm going to save your relationship. read this: His & Her Diary From the Same Day - Imgur This is perhaps the first lesson about men you will have to learn. The comments below it are pretty accurate and funny. No girl wants to believe that the object of her affections is so translucent most of the time. We want to believe that our men have depth, complexity of feelings and romantic thoughts about putting us first as often as we have about them. It's a hard pill to swallow when you are young that with a lot of young guys really do just like boobs and wonder why their motorcycle won't start.
Arabella Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 Where does she say she is in a LDR? Did I miss it? I somehow assumed they were in a LDR... otherwise I cannot explain why would ANY couple spend this much time talking online instead of hanging out. 2
Coil Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 sounds like an "AHOLE" you are chasing him and he is blowing you off. He does not sound interested. He cannot get on the phone and talk for even a few minutes? I would dump him and find someone that will be into you and treat you right.
kiss_andmakeup Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 OP, you left out a lot of vital background info, which makes it difficult to offer you advice. How long have you been together? Do you see each other on a regular basis? When was the last time you were together in person? Are you in a long-distance relationship? On the whole, I think he is just not that interested anymore for whatever reason...and your neediness probably isn't helping matters.
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