irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Sometimes I see profiles say, "If you're allergic to cats, you might not want to email me" I like pets, but I'm allergic to cats, unless they have a pill for that or something? Not allergic to dogs though. Anyone here have pet allergies that make a break it in the dating dept?
Arabella Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Unfortunately, this would be a deal breaker for me. I have a cat and I wouldn't be willing to give him up. I do believe that there are some shots you can get to help you with the allergy. I had a friend who had three cats and her husband was severely allergic, and he got these shots because he knew how important her cats were to her. -A
Janesays Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 It'd be a deal breaker for me, too. I have a cat and 2 dogs. I also work with animals. No way could I be with someone who wasn't an animal lover.
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Unfortunately, this would be a deal breaker for me. I have a cat and I wouldn't be willing to give him up. I do believe that there are some shots you can get to help you with the allergy. I had a friend who had three cats and her husband was severely allergic, and he got these shots because he knew how important her cats were to her. -A I really like animals, I'd NEVER expect a person to give them up. I think cat hair is different from dog hair though.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm not allergic to animals and I love them - used to work with them - but it would be a dealbreaker for me if a person wasn't prepared to give up their animals for a long term relationship partner. Taking shots for a severe allergy instead of giving up the cats? Really? Putting other species above your own? I'm sorry but that's not right.
Author irc333 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 I'm not allergic to animals and I love them - used to work with them - but it would be a dealbreaker for me if a person wasn't prepared to give up their animals for a long term relationship partner. Taking shots for a severe allergy instead of giving up the cats? Really? Putting other species above your own? I'm sorry but that's not right. Emilia, not sure if you're saying this right, you expect someone to give up their pets, instead of taking allergy medication to negate the pet allergies?
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Emilia, not sure if you're saying this right, you expect someone to give up their pets, instead of taking allergy medication to negate the pet allergies? Yes absolutely! Taking any kind of medication is a risk, surely removing the reason for the allergy is the way to go! It's beyond me that a person would love their cats so much that they would make their own husband take medication to be able to live in the same house. I can honestly say I have never had a long term relationship with men who would have had a dog around I was allergic to - and vice versa. An animal is just an animal, let's have some perspective here. Earlier today I read an article on facebook where a man referred to himself as the father of his dog. Huh??
Janesays Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Yes absolutely! Taking any kind of medication is a risk, surely removing the reason for the allergy is the way to go! It's beyond me that a person would love their cats so much that they would make their own husband take medication to be able to live in the same house. I can honestly say I have never had a long term relationship with men who would have had a dog around I was allergic to - and vice versa. An animal is just an animal, let's have some perspective here. Earlier today I read an article on facebook where a man referred to himself as the father of his dog. Huh?? It's not about valuing animals over humans. It's the fact that when I adopted these animals, I CHOOSE to be responsible for them for the duration of their lives. I'm obligated. If I were to go back on my word, that would be, to me, a blight on my core character. I don't believe in signing up for responsibilities and then trashing them when it gets inconvenient. Would you give up your morals for your significant other? To me, this is the same thing. When I make a promise to do something, I do it. I don't go back on my word, ever. Not for anyone. My word is very important to me. 3
ASG Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Yes absolutely! Taking any kind of medication is a risk, surely removing the reason for the allergy is the way to go! It's beyond me that a person would love their cats so much that they would make their own husband take medication to be able to live in the same house. I can honestly say I have never had a long term relationship with men who would have had a dog around I was allergic to - and vice versa. An animal is just an animal, let's have some perspective here. Earlier today I read an article on facebook where a man referred to himself as the father of his dog. Huh?? Clearly you don't love animals as much as you say/think you do. I would never give up my cats for anything or anyone! They're family! Giving up your pets for a relationship is like giving up your friends for one. It makes no sense. Sure, what I could do is not get any more cats/dogs if my SO was allergic and the previous cats/dogs had died. I could live with that. But not giving up a cat/dog that I already have. 2
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 It's not about valuing animals over humans. It's the fact that when I adopted these animals, I CHOOSE to be responsible for them for the duration of their lives. I'm obligated. If I were to go back on my word, that would be, to me, a blight on my core character. I don't believe in signing up for responsibilities and then trashing them when it gets inconvenient. Would you give up your morals for your significant other? To me, this is the same thing. When I make a promise to do something, I do it. I don't go back on my word, ever. Not for anyone. My word is very important to me. Tell me you are not serious! Your word means so much to you that you would potentially make another human being take medications for years to come? Yes my word is important to me but I think my dog would let me off if he knew the price everyone else was paying. Those animals you 'adopted' (ie look after) would be just as happy anywhere else and would forget you within a month.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Clearly you don't love animals as much as you say/think you do. I would never give up my cats for anything or anyone! They're family! Giving up your pets for a relationship is like giving up your friends for one. It makes no sense. Sure, what I could do is not get any more cats/dogs if my SO was allergic and the previous cats/dogs had died. I could live with that. But not giving up a cat/dog that I already have. I think I have a healthier attitude to animals than you do. That's the difference. Maybe you should have kids or something, clearly something is amiss.
Janesays Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Tell me you are not serious! Your word means so much to you that you would potentially make another human being take medications for years to come? Yes my word is important to me but I think my dog would let me off if he knew the price everyone else was paying. Those animals you 'adopted' (ie look after) would be just as happy anywhere else and would forget you within a month. Your word is not that important to you if you'd trash a living creature just because things got inconvenient. So, to you, your word is disposable when it comes to animals. Would you give up your children for a SO? How about your friends? What about your job? Where do you draw the line? Apparently, you are the type that picks and chooses which promises of yours you are going to keep. That's fine for you, but not for me. I keep ALL of my promises, no exceptions. That's what being an honorable, trustworthy, responsible adult means to me. I was raised to believe if you don't have your word, you don't have anything. You were raised something different. That's fine, I don't judge. So don't judge me because I don't make promises as lightly as you. 3
ASG Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Tell me you are not serious! Your word means so much to you that you would potentially make another human being take medications for years to come? Yes my word is important to me but I think my dog would let me off if he knew the price everyone else was paying. Those animals you 'adopted' (ie look after) would be just as happy anywhere else and would forget you within a month. Have you ever *HAD* pets?? Because I can tell you right now this is absolutely NOT true. My older cat, to this day, get pissed off at my mom when she's away for more than a few days. He's 17. When she goes on holiday, for about a month, and leaves him in the care of other people (so he's not alone and is being taken care of), when she comes back he will throw tantrums and pretend to ignore her for about a week. A friend of mine left his puppy with his parents while he went on holidays for a few weeks. The puppy stopped eating and died. So, no, I don't think you have a healthier attitude to animals than I do. You just don't really care about animals. Which, you know, is fine. But anyone who does care about animals would not give them up for a relationship. 2
EasyHeart Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm allergic to cats, so I just stay away from the lonely old cat ladies. Somehow, I think that even if I weren't allergic, I'd be staying away from those women. . ..
Arabella Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ASG and Janesays have spoken perfectly my feelings on this issue. Just to reiterate, if you adopt a pet, you're making a commitment to an animal who will depend on you for its lifetime. If you simply renege this commitment, what kind of person does that makes you? Boyfriends come and go, pets love you no matter what. I think most of us would simply choose not to date someone who has allergy issues, but if it somehow still happened, the other person would have to understand that the pet was there before they were. Personally, if I was allergic to... uhhh let's say llamas... and my new love happened to be a llama farmer, I'd have NO issues taking shots so I could be around him. If you care enough about someone, you just don't make them give up something that matters to them as much as a family member. -A 4
Art_Critic Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 It'd be a deal breaker for me, too. I have a cat and 2 dogs. I also work with animals. No way could I be with someone who wasn't an animal lover. But what does having allergies have to do with being an animal lover ? 1
Art_Critic Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'm allergic to cats and dogs..we have them both.. 1 cat and 2 dogs..(the 2 dogs are new but replace the dog we lost recently) I just put up with the sniffles and take antihistamines when they bother me. At times the cat bothers me more but he is still under my feet each night waiting for his rubs... I've always had dogs in my life.. It would only be a deal breaker if the person was allergic to dogs and wouldn't take any meds to counter the allergies or the allergies were so bad that meds didn't work. 5
EasyHeart Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 There's not such thing as a magic pill that makes allergies go away. The only treatment for allergies is to remove the allergen.
Emilia Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Boyfriends come and go, pets love you no matter what. Bingo! This is the crux of the issue I believe 1
Janesays Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Bingo! This is the crux of the issue I believe For some. For me, it's about the type of person I want to be. Listen, if my dying great grandmother gave me a piece of furniture and said, "Promise to keep this and take care of it for me when I die." I would. If I had a boyfriend who said, "Listen, I hate that ugly thing. Get rid of it or get rid of me." I'd say, "Hit the road, buddy. I made a promise and I'm keeping it." Hopefully, anyone I choose to spend my life with will value that quality in me. After all, they can rest assured that if I make a promise to them, I'm keeping it no matter what. 2
FitChick Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 (edited) If you don't like smokers, don't date them. If you don't like animals, don't date pet owners. If you don't like kids, don't date parents. Why would you want to change someone's life to suit yourself? Allergy meds aren't dangerous. I think homeopathic meds are supposed to be good for allergies. Some people like drama of their own creation. I knew a man who dated a woman who had cats. He was severely allergic and couldn't spend the night, he'd wake up wheezing and have to leave. He was madly in love with her though. Over time, due to constant exposure, guess what? His allergy went away. Edited August 7, 2012 by FitChick 2
oaks Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Anyone here have pet allergies that make a break it in the dating dept? yup, I'm allergic to crazy cat women. Well, maybe it's their pets, but they're impossible to separate so it amounts to the same thing.
oaks Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I think homeopathic meds are supposed to be good for allergies. You mean water, right? 1
grkBoy Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Sometimes I see profiles say, "If you're allergic to cats, you might not want to email me" I like pets, but I'm allergic to cats, unless they have a pill for that or something? Not allergic to dogs though. Anyone here have pet allergies that make a break it in the dating dept? I think if you're the type to break out into hives and have seizures...then don't bother. If you simply sneeze or get an irritated nose, then take a chance. Just don't say anything. Some women have clean homes, clean cats, etc...others you walk into their place and there's loads of pet hair/dander all over and you can smell the litter box...run for the hills then.
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Well … if a person shows up in your life and you really like each other, but one of you is allergic to cats and the other one has cats, I think it's worth figuring out how to make it work. If you are allergic to cats and just browsing online dating profiles, and the person says "if you're allergic to cats you might want to consider NOT responding" … I think that moving on without a second thought would be the logical choice! But, nooooooooo! Make a whole thread about it, instead! 1
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