DDOWE Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Ok, so iv decided to propose to my Ex girlfriend!! Now I know on paper that this probably is a terrible idea but im going for it! Our relationship ended a few months ago because of the excuse"she didnt want to hurt me". At the time I thought it was just one of the lines that people use and because she was such a nice person I just got on with it as one of these things that happen even though I was madly in love with her. Since then we have been in constant contact and she has since explained more clearly that the whole "i didnt want to hurt you" line actually wasnt a line! Basicly she has recovered from cancer about 18 months before we met and has been told it could come back at anytime and has also been told she cant have children! I always made it clear that having a family was something I wanted some day, hence she saw that continuing our relationship would just be "wasting my time"! We have tried the whole on and off thing and FWB but I know that the first time i met her I fell in love with her and that if not having children is what it takes to give up then as long as I get to be with the love of my life then being honest-its a small price to pay! Im perfectly aware that based on the fact that we are not an exclusive couple that there is a bigger chance of her saying no rather than yes so I know that coming out of this with a broken heart is a huge possibility but my way of thinkin is that if I wake up in a few years time and see an invitation to her wedding to someone else i will spend the rest of my life thinking "what if"!! She has invited me to her friends wedding and I have spent a fortune on a ring, im not going to do it on the day of the wedding out of respect but the day after it i thinking, speech prepared and everything!!! I know im probably insane for doing this but hey.....no regrets!!! Opinions?????
mark982 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 you got to do what you think will make you happy,good luck
road Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 ddowe, it could be the line about not having kids, but many people adopt. Rather the clue is in that she has been seeing other people while seeing you. Makes me think that she wanted more time with your competition then you. So she threw out the I can't have kids to get you to go away. Maybe thats true maybe away to let you down easy. Be honest with her. Tell her what you want and find out how honest she has been with you.
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