MissInlove Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Okay so let me tell you about my situation .. I am in a relationship and engaged with a 3 month old baby. I am 25 years old. My boyfriend/fiancé is a controlling ******* who is never home and so caught up in his own life that he doesn't care about mine or our son Charlie's. Now let me take you back.... Three years ago I picked his best friend up from the airport he had just come home from Iraq. He stayed with us for three weeks needless to say I was attracted to him and he was to me... We flirted and talked for three weeks but nothing sexual. A couple days after he left to go back to Iraq he emailed me and told me how lucky my man is to have me even though he doesn't even notice ... Well we talked back m forth for months . Then I found out I was pregnant. My bf was not there for me at all and we live together! This whole time his friend was supportive , said all the right things and I started to have deep feelings. I stopped this I told him we can't continue this . He respected my wishes. Well now two years later he just got out of the army and he's home. Everything was fine we could be friends .... Until fourth of July..... He kissed me told me he never stopped caring and that he wants to be with me. He thinks it's unfair how badly I am treated as do I. Everything feels right with him everything about him makes my heart beat faster ... I'm in love. God gave us a second chance two years later..... Tell me how you would Handel this situation. The only reason Iv stayed is for our child. Me and the best friend have been seeing each other on a daily basis sexually and not sexually need advice ......
Exit Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Well, you're basically having an affair now so might as well end it. You don't like how you have been treated and I'm not sure he would want to remain with the mother of his child if she is having "sexual hang outs" with his best friend, so it sounds like neither party needs the relationship anymore. I would normally say you need to evaluate the relationship with your boyfriend as an individual entity by itself and not let it be affected by whether or not there is someone else in the picture, but you've already crossed that line so it's kinda hard to go back. But you should try to ask yourself, would you think about leaving your boyfriend if it just meant being single, no new lover to run to. Of course that answer would probably be "no" or "not as likely". Also take into account you're in love with someone who has no problems fooling around with his best friend's fiance, so that's a bit of a hint about his character. Don't be surprised if you get some unpleasant replies from others, you are far from the biggest victim in this situation and others may be eager to point that out to you.
Skalabanan Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I've had to refrain from replying to this thread. Your the sort of person that drives people to these forums. I sense some ego/pride in the fact your going to rip yoir BFs heart to shreds, theres so many ways to deal with a bad relationship and this is one of the worst.
Skalabanan Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I've had to refrain from replying to this thread. Your the sort of person that drives people to these forums. I sense some ego/pride in the fact your going to rip yoir BFs heart to shreds, theres so many ways to deal with a bad relationship and this is one of the worst.
Jamesblame Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You deserve to be treated poorly. Because you are a horrible fiancee. Do your boyfriend a favor and leave. Then you and your perfect cheating partner can get together. In a few months or years he'll be cheating on you. And it couldn't happen to a better person.
leoc1973 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 You gotta remember. This guy is telling you everything you wanna hear. It happens all the time and all of the sudden the new guy looks like a prince and in turn makes the guy you are with look like the biggest loser in the world. You have to be objective. Now is your fiance off at work? Is that why you say he's never around? You have to remember another thing. You don't even know this other guy. He is using your friendship in an unfair way. To get into your pants. Its would be like you were telling your best girlfriend all your problems and then she was telling a guy all your secrets and desires so that he could tailor his responses to you to get into your heart and head. Think about it.. has this guy ever told you that you are wrong about anything? Does he agree with every thing you are saying? I bet he does!! Another thing is what the other posters said. He's banging his best friends fiance?!?! No character at all! If he will cheat on his best friend he will cheat on you down the road. That all being said. I do feel that sometimes guys treat their women like crap and the woman is trapped so has no where to go. I think you have already decided what you are going to do. Now go rip off the bandaid and dump your fiance. Its just not fair. Kid or no kid.
dejoe00183 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Did you ever even talk to your fiancee about how he's never around and how the way he treats you makes you feel? Like not yelled or argued, actually sat and had an honest heart to heart? I don't know why people are so afraid of communication. This is why I'll never get engaged or married.
lemonlime Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 You need to look at your relationship with your boyfriend independently of your affair. Are you demonizing him, or are you actually in that sh*tty of a relationship? Never just stay in a relationship for a child. You end up screwing them up way more then if you left.
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