AnnaBanana1985 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I've been with my husband for 10 yrs, married for almost 6 yrs. I'm 27 and my husband 26. We have a fantastic relationship. We're very happy. We have a 3 month old son who we absolutely adore! He's the pride and joy of our lives. My husbands brother is 22, I've known him since he was 12. He and my husband are really close, always were. They're best friends. He just broke up with his girlfriend so my husband asked me if it was okay to let him stay with us until they figure out what to do. I know matthew very well so I was fine with that. Two nights ago, i woke up to feed the baby and had to go down into the kitchen. Matthew is sleeping on our sofa so I had to pass through the living room where he was. I saw him asleep, in shorts with no shirt. Matthew is very handsome, that's no secret, but I've never had a sexual thought of him until that night. I went back to bed and couldn't stop think of him there on my couch, half naked! I still can't get the thought out o my head. Every time I see him around the house I keep undressing him with my eyes. I feel like a horrible wife for feeling this way and I don't know what to do. I can't tell him to leave without reason, he has no where else to go. I feel so guilty. Is this normal or am I the worst wife/mom/sister inlaw ever?
Gotti25 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 What can I say eliminate that feeling immediately better now you will eventually suffer the concequences
karnak Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Sexual desire is perfectly normal. And, depending on the degree of your libido, you'll always feel sexually attracted to other men during your life. But there's a major difference between feeling attraction and acting upon those desires. It's like a sex fantasy. Some people wonder how it would be if they tried 3somes or couple swapping. It seems very exciting at first. But the aftermath can be devastating. 1
Fitz Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Sexual desire is perfectly normal. And, depending on the degree of your libido, you'll always feel sexually attracted to other men during your life. But there's a major difference between feeling attraction and acting upon those desires. Yep, this is human nature. -You're going to be sexually attracted to men who aren't your husband for the rest of your life. Likewise your husband is going to be sexually attracted to other women. The key is this: Don't mistake the tingle sensation in your groins for a magical event. It's not magical, and it is not out of the ordinary. In other words, don't think for one second that this feeling is something special or unique. These kind of things happen. Its' normal. And if you value your husband or your marriage then you'll not try to make a move on your brother-in-law. 1
Lauriebell82 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I agree with the others that it is perfectly normal to have sexual attraction to other men who are not your husband. I'm sure your husband is sexually attracted to other women. The key here is not to act on these desires. Can you do that? 1
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