socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 i'm a straight guy. I'm not attracted to guys at all. But I get a lot of pleasure from anal masturbation. Basically, a cock in my ass would probably feel pretty nice. I'm also really depressed. I crave intimacy. I can't get girls because my self esteem is too low. I don't look attractive enough to get girls because i'm too feminine looking. Right now I just posted on craigslist that I'm looking for a guy to screw me. is this a good decision to make?
Jamesblame Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You're single. You want to try a gay encounter. \ Go for it. Why not? Though for the record...anal stimulation is not inherently gay. So...you could just find a girl to do it for you. Are you attracted to men?
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 You're single. You want to try a gay encounter. \ Go for it. Why not? Though for the record...anal stimulation is not inherently gay. So...you could just find a girl to do it for you. Are you attracted to men? i'm not attracted to men... i'd love for a girl to do this for me, but i can't get a girl. at least not as easily as men. i just posted an ad with a picture of my naked body and cock hanging out and this musclar looking middle aged dude replied within 30 min. i have 0 attraction to the picture he sent me. i don't know about this. should i force myself to go with it?
Fitz Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 i'm a straight guy. I'm not attracted to guys at all. But I get a lot of pleasure from anal masturbation. Basically, a cock in my ass would probably feel pretty nice. Right now I just posted on craigslist that I'm looking for a guy to screw me. is this a good decision to make? Wanting a cock in your ass and cruising craig's list for homosexual encounters doesn't sound "straight" at all to me. Just sayin. You could just as well find a girl willing to use toys/strap-ons etc. if you want things in your ass, ya know? Furthermore, I'm concerned for your health. Cruising craig's list for gay anal sex certainly qualifies as RISKY behavior. Why not go to a club or a gay bar? 1
Jamesblame Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I worked in the theater in North hollywood, and grew up around the gay community. I can tell you that if you're not feeling it, you're not feeling it. I come from a culture that strongly supports a gay lifestyle. I was willing to consider it when younger, but my body just won't respond to men. Now in regards to your low self esteem.... try skout. It's a flirting app with lots of crazy kinky women out there. I don't know how old you are, but you can definitley find a woman regardless of your life's situation. It doesn't how much money you have, how fit you are, or where you live. There are tons of women who will date you. Not all, but some. Just keep trying. I would suggest against the gay encounter because 1.) You're not interested in men. and 2.) You're not interested in men. Just masturbate with anal play and work on yourself until you find a girl that will do it for you. Again...try skout, lol 1
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 i got several more replies. it's funny how most of them insist that they are straight yet they want to **** me in the ass. i've never felt desired like this before. I don't think women lust for me the way i think these men messaging me do... they saw the picture of my body and cock and that's enough to get them horny and want to **** me. it's so easy. i don't know how risky it is. that's not a concern of mine at the moment, right now the main concern is forcing myself to go through with it... About skout... i've never heard of it. you're saying even if i'm a skinny feminine looking guy who's face isn't that handsome or good looking, there will still be women on there who will want me? how many rejections will i have to go through to find one who's attracted to me... ?
Jamesblame Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 I'd really suggest holding off on the sex. You seem to be in a pretty unhealthy spot for it. If you force yourself than you'll feel like dirt and really guilty later on. It's not worth it. And yes. Women like all types of men. Even the ugliest man can get a date with tons of women. Same thing with ugly women. At the end of the day, it's all about numbers. Inundate various dating sites with a cliched message, and over time you'll gather a giant list of people who are willing to talk to you. Everyone can do it. And really...just because somebody likes you doesn't mean you'll like them. 1
Necris Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 i'm a straight guy. I'm not attracted to guys at all. But I get a lot of pleasure from anal masturbation. Basically, a cock in my ass would probably feel pretty nice. I'm also really depressed. I crave intimacy. I can't get girls because my self esteem is too low. I don't look attractive enough to get girls because i'm too feminine looking. Right now I just posted on craigslist that I'm looking for a guy to screw me. is this a good decision to make? Wow, man, wow, you need to stop and think, because that sounds crazy especially the whole cruising craigslist looking for gay sex thing. As for not getting girls, going gay isn't going to help, obviously. I could go on and on for pages on why I think that would be a bad idea but instead how about for now try to stop thinking about sex and relationships/intimacy all together. Once you realize none of that is important or needed you'll feel alot better. I myself never had a girlfriend/romantic relationship of any level, never had sex/intimacy and can't get a girlfriend no matter how hard I try as women seem to be naturally unattracted to me for whatever reason. So I decided to try to stop thinking about any of that and just do something more productive like right now I'm in the prewriting stages of a novel/story (I want it full of action and violence though I don't want sex or anything like that in it, I'm still deciding on what to write about but I had a futuristic semi-post apocalyptic vampire action fantasy idea) 1
NoMagicBullet Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 ... i don't know how risky it is. that's not a concern of mine at the moment, right now the main concern is forcing myself to go through with it... You should be concerned. What you are considering is VERY risky. You are considering first-time anal sex with a complete stranger. These guys don't necessarily desire you or want you -- they're just horny and are seeing who's out there who will let them use them to satisfy their needs. Anal sex carries a very high risk of sexually transmitted diseases, as well as possible injury for you if not done carefully. Are you going to insist on verifiable proof of clean STD results before having sex with you? As a bottom in this, you realize that you won't have any way to control the situation, including whether they wear a condom during sex? You have no idea how trustworthy -- or not -- these guys are. You don't really want this. You should never have to force yourself to go through with having sex of any kind. If you got replies to your post, just don't respond to them.
ascendotum Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 troll thread? PS - wrong forum section I got a feeling he aint, but yeah wrong section. Dude if its not in your nature forget the gay sex. I doubt it will turn you on like you would like to think. If only finding a girl to have sex was as easy eh. Spend your pennies on a bdsm hooker/escort, or advertise on a kink site for a femdom (thats yr best bet) Go get your testosterone levels checked by your doc. and hit the gym.
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 i want to cry. why can't i just be gay? these guys are messaging me and they're saying they'll have sex with me with no additional questions asked. i just call them up, head over, and they'll f*ck me just like that. i'll never be able to get sex that easily with girls because i'm not good looking enough. the guys messaging me are decent looking enough, too.. if i was gay i would be attracted to them. i just can't believe i'm getting replies at all. i can't believe that right at this moment, i could be having sex if i just make a phone call. do you guys realize how new this concept is to me? i've NEVER received that type of attention or validation before. but are you saying these guys might hurt me? i posted in my ad that i've never been with a guy before and i just want someone to make me feel good... some of the guys that replied said they understand my situation and they could help me out. the only problem is when i look at their pictures i'm very turned off at the thought of them screwing me. but if they're able to make me orgasm then would i really still be turned off?
fificremefarben Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 If you want to experiment a little and try having a gay experience then normally I'd say give it a go, but, honestly, I don't think your heart is in it and I don't think you're in the right place emotionally for it right now. Don't put such a focus on the type of stimulation you enjoy and what that must say about you because, like others have said, that actually says nothing about what your sexual orientation should be. Don't try fitting a square peg into a round hole (not a great idiom, but I can't think of any others!) just for the sake of doing so. You're obviously not attracted to guys, so what's the point in forcing yourself to do so just so that you can have sex? Why are you placing so much focus on sex, anyway?? There's nothing wrong with pleasing yourself until you find someone you have a connection with.
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 If you want to experiment a little and try having a gay experience then normally I'd say give it a go, but, honestly, I don't think your heart is in it and I don't think you're in the right place emotionally for it right now. Don't put such a focus on the type of stimulation you enjoy and what that must say about you because, like others have said, that actually says nothing about what your sexual orientation should be. Don't try fitting a square peg into a round hole (not a great idiom, but I can't think of any others!) just for the sake of doing so. You're obviously not attracted to guys, so what's the point in forcing yourself to do so just so that you can have sex? Why are you placing so much focus on sex, anyway?? There's nothing wrong with pleasing yourself until you find someone you have a connection with. wel i'm not attracted to guys, but the fantasy of a man ****ing me deeply and giving me intense orgasms from stimulating my prostate is a huge turn on. do you still think i shouldn't try it... ? now im mainly just scared of meeting up with someone from craigslist and having him basically rape me if i change my mind or i tell him it hurts and he keeps going.
ThaWholigan Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 If you're not gay, I don't see the point. I get that because you "think" you can't get girls you are doing this, but unless you already have some homosexual feelings or urges, this is a pointless exercise and potentially a bad one too. You are better off simply learning how to attract women.
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 If you're not gay, I don't see the point. I get that because you "think" you can't get girls you are doing this, but unless you already have some homosexual feelings or urges, this is a pointless exercise and potentially a bad one too. You are better off simply learning how to attract women. is it a homosexual urge if even though thinking about having sex with men turns me off, the thought of helplessly feeling orgasmic while im being used by a man turns me on? ill probably feel really shameful and disgusted with myself after the act if i go through with it....
FitChick Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Maybe you are bisexual. Do you have fantasies about meeting a powerful, dominant woman who uses you for sex? That might be an alternative to a gay guy. Bet you could find one of those women quite easily.
ThaWholigan Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 is it a homosexual urge if even though thinking about having sex with men turns me off, the thought of helplessly feeling orgasmic while im being used by a man turns me on? ill probably feel really shameful and disgusted with myself after the act if i go through with it.... You are probably just curious. If there is an itch, you can scratch it if you want, but I don't think you will get the desired result personally, as you are only doing this because you really want to be desired by women. Like I say, I vote for learning to attract women. You probably believe that none of them are attracted to you and mistakenly believe that you can't attract them. You have to tell yourself that you can, and learn how to do these things.
Bristolius Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 The most alarming part of your post is that you are depressed. Try to get some help for this. Depression is very serious. Get help for your depression. 1
ptp Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 If you aren't gay, being with a dude isn't going to help matters. If you are going to use Craigslist, why not use Craigslist to find a woman?
Author socrushed Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 im getting a bunch of replies from guys. you really think ill get the same results with women on craigslist... ?
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