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Ok so I contacted her, I sent her a msg on FB She wants me to call her..

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ok ... I know many people said not to contact her... but I guess I broke the rule

 

she contacted me twice on fb,and called but i was at gym ... that was friday... saturday I sent a fb message just saying: saw your msg 'sup?

 

she just said: to call her

 

I'm planing to call her just to see what she needs. I guess i don't loose anything

 

it's been 3 months since we don't talk but still I wonder what she wants now...

 

was looking for that apology but again i'm not specting anything big, I will show no interest, no love talk and hang up quick... just tell her I'm busy and go about my bizz...

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This is a terrible idea, no offense but in my personal experience breaking

NC is never a good idea. This will be a huge setback for you because eventhough you say that you are fine with it I'm guessing that part of you is expecting her to apologize and want to reconcile.

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This is a terrible idea, no offense but in my personal experience breaking

NC is never a good idea. This will be a huge setback for you because eventhough you say that you are fine with it I'm guessing that part of you is expecting her to apologize and want to reconcile.

 

my testosterone levels may say yes! i want THAT! specially since I'm taking P6 from GNC! lolz but i guess i have nutting to loose... if I don't I may worry down the rode because I see clearly that she's trying to reconnect for watever reason and pretty much doing similar things i'm doing on facebook... mirroring..

 

so It's like the doctor says: let's check you out... if averything is ok, you should have nutting to worry about... and say you found out what she wanted...

 

I THINK PEOPLE SHOULD UNDERSTAND MAN MORE... SPECIALLY IF YOU WERE TOGETHER AFEW TIMES.. KNOWN FOR MORE THAN A YEAR.. TALKING A EVEN GOING TO HER HOUSE... FAMILY FRIENDS ... ETC...TO JUST HOOK UP WITH A COMPLETELY NEW PERSON.. NOT MENTIONING THAT YOU LIKE HER... SHE LOOK BANGING AND GO THROW THE SAME PROCESS... THAT MAY WORK FINE! BUT YOU HAVE CREDIT HISTORY WITH THIS ONE... IF IT DOESN'T HEY.. D'G'A'F***

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I'd be tempted to call too. Call her but just don't get your hopes up. don't think too much about why she wants you to call her. Just call her, act nonchalant and see what she needs. You be the one to end the call. Don't just keep talking to her bc you want to hear her voice. You say, well I gotta go now because I'm right in the middle of something but just wanted to make sure everything was okay. It shows you care, but have your own life to live. keep us updated!

 

seeee! that's some comment! people sometimes forgets this is a forum of RECONCILIATION AND COPING and tend to be more for the SEPARATING SIDE instead of uniting... i mean comments and tips are of great help but thinking positive and optimistic is what life teaches you... I guess...

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Or you could just call to see what she wants without speculating that there is any ulterior motive? Or is that too simple?

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Canadian731 Established Member

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There is a forum for second chances, and this isn't it, this is the breaks and breaking up forum, people vent and get honest advice about how to got through a break up. Were not going to sugar coat it for you, that won't help you at all. Going into this hoping for something that probably won't happen is just going to set you back, but either way you will do what you want regardless of what anyone on here tells you. It's not like people say these things to hurt your feelings it's a forum for sharing your opinions on other people's situations.

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So you have nothing to lose Cobra? How about your self respect?

 

Canadian is right. You are setting yourself up for pain and misery. And you are making yourself look like a doormat for her. Do you really want that?

 

You need a reality check. Most of us here are divorced or about to be. I doubt more than 1% of us have reconciled. And out of that even less reconciled with success. You are avoiding the inevitable.

 

Do you really want to be one of those people who are on this board for years and years crying and posting over every little breadcumb their ex throws their way to make them dance? Seriously?

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Message her back on FB.

 

"If you have something to say, you can call me at (xyz time) and I can spare a few minutes, otherwise I've got a lot on my plate."

 

Then don't plan on hearing from her because she won't call. This is her yanking your chain.

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Dont say "I have a lot on my plate" means Im having trouble coping (emotionally)

 

Just dont call her... and stick to NC

 

She's not ready for anything but to just catch up and chit chat

 

i did message her back on facebook...

like the other guy said... but i only wrote: you contacted me twice, sup?

she said call me

then i called, i figure i had nothing to loose... she just pretty much said:

 

why you don't call me? you don't want me no' more? when will I go there? asking me if she could not call me 'cause i kept telling her what's up.. then i said i'm busy i call you later....

 

like i said... didn't loose anything.. and I HUNG UP not her!

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yea but you ran after her and called her..........we;ve all done it

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Message her back on FB.

 

"If you have something to say, you can call me at (xyz time) and I can spare a few minutes, otherwise I've got a lot on my plate."

 

Then don't plan on hearing from her because she won't call. This is her yanking your chain.

 

she called me friday but i was @ gym... then when I called her I told her " you can call me" she said I called and like didn't get thru or watever...

 

but she said " call me " after i wrote on fb... i took it like she begged... for it!

and i had a few mins. to spare... so I just said 'sup tell me.. 'sup.. ten said i'm busy call you later.. and have not call. i hung up quick and left her hanging... i can tell she wanted to chat... not meejejeje W....

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she called me friday but i was @ gym... then when I called her I told her " you can call me" she said I called and like didn't get thru or watever...

 

but she said " call me " after i wrote on fb... i took it like she begged... for it!

and i had a few mins. to spare... so I just said 'sup tell me.. 'sup.. ten said i'm busy call you later.. and have not call. i hung up quick and left her hanging... i can tell she wanted to chat... not meejejeje W....

 

if she wanted to she'd have called you back again..

 

this is pointless man........just friggin ignore it!!!

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yea but you ran after her and called her..........we;ve all done it

 

i took it like she begged for it so like another girl said... it just showed that i care or s*... but i save my @** when on fb i responded and she requested me to call ... it made me feel like an Athlete or an Artist i guess. a boost for self steem! jajajaja

 

after that i have not contacted her.

 

funy like she said oh... you don't want me no' more... i keep laughing.. i shoulv' hung up the phone on her @** that moment,

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