Vintage79 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've met a variety of people online, some people were awesome, some left a bit to be desired. Anyhow, a lot of the women seem to rely on texting. One in paricular seems to have confused me a bit - so I'm hoping the amazing LS community can help me crystallize the situation and mayne provide some thoughts on next steps - be it more contact or stop contact all together. I met a girl a couple weeks ago for a first meeting/date. Things seemed to go well - lots of contact, smiles, and laughs, albeit no kiss (I always struggle with that on first online meetings - kissing strangers seems odd). Regardless, she sent a few texts the evening/next day following the date - all seemed well. I called a couple of days later - no answer, so I left a short message and figured the ball was in her court. A few days later I get a "good morning" text. I respond with something quirky, no response for a few days, then another "good morning". So that's kind of where things are...I can obviously call again, but it seems a bit odd at this point. So what would you make of this? Is she not interested, waiting for (another) call, sending me to a back-up roll, or trying to friendzone me? The fact that she sends messages seems positive, but there's not much effort from her any more...kind of like she's giving up. What should I do - drop her, wait until I get a bit more from her (obviously seeing other people as well)? I've got a few other dates set up- so this one's not too important - I'm just trying to learn how to interpret women's behavior. Thoughts?
InJest Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Next time she texts you, text back saying, "If you want to ****, let me know, otherwise don't text me anymore." **** like this works. She'll either leave you alone or come **** you.
Author Vintage79 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Well, I'm guessing that would get her to stop texting, but I'm more curious about what's going through her head...
cheshire_cat Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Backup...she has other options but she's keeping the lines of communication open in case the other(s) fall through. That's all.
RedRobin Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 You might try calling one more time... Why haven't you asked for another date? Would you prefer she do that? (serious question)
Author Vintage79 Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 You might try calling one more time... Why haven't you asked for another date? Would you prefer she do that? (serious question) So why I haven't asked her out again? I was going to when I called her. In the message I left I mentioned it would be great to see her again, but I didn't feel like explicitly asking her out in a voicemail. Thereafter, it's been this random, delayed texting. It might be worth another call...but a bit more effort on her end would be appreciated before I ask (or is that asking too much at this point?). As for do I want her to ask me out? Well, that certainly makes things easy, but that's not what I'm expecting.
phineas Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Call her & leave message telling her to call you back. If she sends you some random BS text as a response ignore. If she does it again then follow through with this. Next time she texts you, text back saying, "If you want to ****, let me know, otherwise don't text me anymore." **** like this works. She'll either leave you alone or come **** you.
Kelz813 Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 she may be sending the short good morning texts because she is unsure of what to think. The fact that she has texted you first thing in the morning is a good sign, means your on her mind but she could just be really shy, especially since you met online. Next time she does that say good morning to her aswell and ask her out. I know you prefer the phone but some girls prefer texting. if she doesn't respond to that then dont bother. The ball is in her court at that point. Good luck!
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