sosabn Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Well this site seems cool and im totally confused and i need an outside perspective. Number 1 girls make no sense at all. heres why. met a girl about a month and a half ago we started dating. whole fairy tale thing never argued she never stopped smiling. we could sit in the middle of a desert and talk for hours about anything. her mom and friends were telling her about how happy she seems now after crappy relationships in the past. i didnt know her x but she mentioned him only a few times saying he cheated on her like 3 times and that was it early on. no reason to ever worry about her going back to him. so after about a month after spending 4-5 days and nights together a week i was leaving for vacation and kind of felt i was in love with her and was just waiting for the right time to say the magic 3. so i did at the airport when she dropped me off. she broke down bawling her eyes out and told me she loved me too. great still i leave she calls me couple times a day while i was gone saying how much she cares about me and never felt like this. no guy has treated as good as me and shes so happy and cant wait to see me. i get back she mauls me, we hang out like every day for a week still awesome. no fights, problems. all of a sudden next day her x boyfriend's car shows up at her house and she just says oh well he had to bring something to my little brother. this is the one she dated for 2 years on and off that cheated on her all the time. oh yeh and they broke up a month and a half before we started dating. so anyway i blow it off no big deal. i had no reason to be jealous everything was still amazing. next day hes there again and this never happened in the early stages of us dating but this time it was he went swimming with her brother who is at least 8 years younger than this guy. her x is 21 and her bro is 13. ok so now i think she might be starting to pee in my hair and tell me its raining. so i get kind of pissed saying this is weird for me to come here and hes here. i feel like i cant come here when hes here and i shouldnt because your dating me now. ok she agrees its uncomfortable for me and she'll talk to him. i guess that means she'll spend the night at his house that night. keep in mind again as of 24 hrs ago it was still a fairy tale. the next 24 hrs i could tell she was acting weird and didnt admit to staying there but said they walked around and talked for a long time. the next day he shows up at her h.s graduation party when i show up. im a little older than this guy and whatever i got the whole hes like a part of my family thing but i didnt buy it. so its weird there so i leave and hes talking to her and her car and i say have fun with that im peace out this place. i guess where im at now is i love her like crazy when we were together it was amazing and want that back so bad. she is now kind of back with this dude again but last couple days shes feeding me the whole i miss you thing and she cries thinking about what she's doing and she's so confused. she dropped a song off she recorded and song that everytime song by britney spears which says i guess i need you baby and why are we strangers when our loved is so strong. that was yesterday havent talked to her since but i think she stayed at her x-boyfiends whatever he is last night. im so confused and want to get in her head and heart that she is denying the best thing she could have ever had. i cant understand what is going on in her head. this guy over me makes no sense anyway. besides him cheating constantly hes like 5 foot tall and shes gorgeous. he has no job and i make about 30 g's a year. its just sensless. what do i do. those of you that read all this thanks i appreciate it.
EC Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 phew that was long... It seems this girl maybe a little bit immature for you. It seems you were her rebound. You said they broke up a month and half before you started dating and then a month later she said I love you ..to you. I definitely don't think she was ready to say it. She must like getting cheated on and lied to because she keeps running back to him. If shes too blind to see what she has then let her go. Play the NC (no contact) game and see what happens. But has she told you shes officially back with him or are you just guessing? Because it sounds like shes trying to win him back but keeping you around incase it doesnt work. I think you should just talk to her str8 up and say what you want to say and tell her either him or me. Which do you want. Don't put your life on hold.
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