redkittykat Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've been in an LDR with my boyfriend for 18 months. Three months ago he got a job working monday to friday and started acting distant and weird, but that was because he was stressed about starting a new job and the fact that we wouldn't be able to see each other very often. He would often insist on me going up to visit him every other weekend, even if I was skint and it would mean spending most of my dole money on train tickets. But I still did because I wanted to make the effort. I started a new job a few weeks ago, but I only work weekends. (My shifts might change though when people go back to uni or start college and can't work weekdays.) He promised to visit me, but when I've had the odd day or two free and asked him he just says that he's busy with work, which I can appreciate. But I asked him when he was going to have a day off next because I thought we could, you know, see each other. And he said that he didn't know because he was 'busy with work'. But he always seems to make time to go drinking with his friends and he even booked time off to go and see a friend in Glasgow. But whenever, I call him on it. He just gets angry and tells me that I'm being immature and selfish. But I don't understand how he can make time for his friends and not me.
TMichaels Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 But whenever, I call him on it. He just gets angry and tells me that I'm being immature and selfish. But I don't understand how he can make time for his friends and not me. Me neither. So what are you going to do about it? Best, TMichaels
polishbabe Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 It seems to me that he's not dealing well with the changes. He was used to you coming to him every weekend, which is not a fair deal to you, but he got used to it. Now you changed things on him. He could be spending time with friends to simply blow off steam or deal with his hurt feelings. I don't know him, but to me it seems that he's just dealing with not seeing you on a regular basis by seeing his friends.
justwhoiam Posted August 9, 2012 Posted August 9, 2012 He just gets angry and tells me that I'm being immature and selfish. But I don't understand how he can make time for his friends and not me. Don't be immature and selfish. Ask him when he's going to have days off from work and start planning on seeing one another. If he's going to have holidays but won't make the effort to come and see you, break up and move on.
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