BrookeM Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) I dated a guy last summer. I didn't work out and I ended up deleting him off fb in November 2011. About 5 months went by without speaking (I wondered about him on and off but stayed good about NC). I received a friend request from him in Feb. 2012 which I denied because I wasn't ready to be friends. Two months later after exchanging brief fb messages back and forth, he sent me another friend request (April 2012) which I accepted. He was in Georgia at the time for some military schooling and we started speaking several times a day, texting constantly, and making plans to get back together once he came back to Virginia. He came back and we spent time together, but I suspected there was someone else. After asking him several times to come clean, he finally did. He met someone online and fell in love...but he's never met her!!! Apparently she's a doctor (who graduated medical school at 22..), has stage 4 cancer (even though she has the energy to go out and party constantly), she's a widow, and always has a very dramatic reason why she has to back out of meeting him (friends have died, she's had to go to the hospital, she even faked her own death once, and the list gets more and more bizarre). She can't back up anything she tells him, refuses to Skype with him, sends tons of pictures to his phone but can't write his name on a piece of paper and hold it to her face to verify she's the real deal, and she doesn't exist on Google. I've tried to get him to see that this is clearly a sick person he is wasting his time and emotions on but he refuses to listen to me (and of course, I come off looking like the jilted ex). A week ago I deleted him from FB again and we haven't spoke since. I miss him a lot and regret ever allowing him back into my life. I fight the urge to text him or call him everyday even though I am completely humiliated by these turn of events. Edited August 6, 2012 by BrookeM forgot to include a detail
BrokenAnna Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You should be celebrating cause I can honestly say your ex is not the sharpest tool in the shed. I can understand that you have developed feelings for him but please don't waste your time, thoughts or breath on someone that would dump you for an online fantasy. 4
weallfalldown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You should be celebrating cause I can honestly say your ex is not the sharpest tool in the shed. I can understand that you have developed feelings for him but please don't waste your time, thoughts or breath on someone that would dump you for an online fantasy. the light's are on but nobody's home 1
Author BrookeM Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 You should be celebrating cause I can honestly say your ex is not the sharpest tool in the shed. I can understand that you have developed feelings for him but please don't waste your time, thoughts or breath on someone that would dump you for an online fantasy. Thanks. After typing my story and reading it back, I'm beginning to realize why getting over this isn't as hard as I thought it would be. Still kinda sucks having a delusion appear more appealing than myself lol. Oh well!
yessy21 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Dude. He is going to have to realize that the person isnt real. probrably some sick person on the other side. it happens. Be glad that he is not with you. he apparently is sick himself since he cant tell the difference between real and fake. most probrably its someone in jail. i had an aquaintance that went through that same thing. years later she found out he was a convicted murder serving life sentence for killing a whole bunch of people including a 14 year old boy....unfortunatley she is his penpal now.
BrokenAnna Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Dude. He is going to have to realize that the person isnt real. probrably some sick person on the other side. it happens. Be glad that he is not with you. he apparently is sick himself since he cant tell the difference between real and fake. most probrably its someone in jail. i had an aquaintance that went through that same thing. years later she found out he was a convicted murder serving life sentence for killing a whole bunch of people including a 14 year old boy....unfortunatley she is his penpal now. Lets just hope for his sake it's someone that is so insecure with themselves that they have to pretend to be someone else in order to get validation and acceptance in society.
Author BrookeM Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Dude. He is going to have to realize that the person isnt real. probrably some sick person on the other side. it happens. Be glad that he is not with you. he apparently is sick himself since he cant tell the difference between real and fake. most probrably its someone in jail. i had an aquaintance that went through that same thing. years later she found out he was a convicted murder serving life sentence for killing a whole bunch of people including a 14 year old boy....unfortunatley she is his penpal now. Oh my gosh!! That's terrible!! It's so unfortunate what kinds of lengths people will go to pretend to be someone else to get the attention they desire. I used to work at Hooters and my co workers were constantly having fake profiles of themselves under different names appear on fb because they added strangers who would turn around and steal their entire photo albums off their page.
KatZee Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Yikes... I think the only person who should be humiliated, or will be humiliated in the near future is him. Is his brain made of styrafoam peanuts?? I also find it incredibly sick how low people will stoop just to play with others, emotionally or otherwise. This is no doubt probably some teenager with nothing better to do, or a really sick adult... If you want to see a movie about this... rent "Catfish" it really shows how bored people can get. I'm sure in due time she'll start asking for cash. At that point it'll be clear whoever he's talking to is some scammer working out of Africa. He really needs a wake up call, but somehow this cyber person has got his/her claws in... how lonely do you have to be?!!?
Author BrookeM Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 Yikes... I think the only person who should be humiliated, or will be humiliated in the near future is him. Is his brain made of styrafoam peanuts?? I also find it incredibly sick how low people will stoop just to play with others, emotionally or otherwise. This is no doubt probably some teenager with nothing better to do, or a really sick adult... If you want to see a movie about this... rent "Catfish" it really shows how bored people can get. I'm sure in due time she'll start asking for cash. At that point it'll be clear whoever he's talking to is some scammer working out of Africa. He really needs a wake up call, but somehow this cyber person has got his/her claws in... how lonely do you have to be?!!? Haha at the styrofoam peanuts!! I feel mean saying this, but he isn't bright at all. No common sense, and he's not intellectual in any way...but even this cyber psycho being able to pull all of this over on him surprises me. There's a catch too...every time she's unavailable to meet, she'll send her "friend" to hang out with him (a very over weight woman in her early 30's who lacks personal hygiene). I'm like, HELLLLLOOO!!!!! Now I've never done the online dating thing so I'm unfamiliar with the proper etiquette, but why would you send your "friend" to meet some dude you met online??? Repeatedly?? And how dumb do you have to be to fall for all of this?!?! I think for the most part I'm so frustrated it makes me angry. I wonder if he thinks about any of this in a logical way and how stupid he's being for throwing something real away on an internet gamble. He claims he's in love though. Wtf ever. Maybe this is the universe's way of making sure I didn't fully give this relationship a second chance!
KatZee Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Haha at the styrofoam peanuts!! I feel mean saying this, but he isn't bright at all. No common sense, and he's not intellectual in any way...but even this cyber psycho being able to pull all of this over on him surprises me. There's a catch too...every time she's unavailable to meet, she'll send her "friend" to hang out with him (a very over weight woman in her early 30's who lacks personal hygiene). I'm like, HELLLLLOOO!!!!! Now I've never done the online dating thing so I'm unfamiliar with the proper etiquette, but why would you send your "friend" to meet some dude you met online??? Repeatedly?? And how dumb do you have to be to fall for all of this?!?! I think for the most part I'm so frustrated it makes me angry. I wonder if he thinks about any of this in a logical way and how stupid he's being for throwing something real away on an internet gamble. He claims he's in love though. Wtf ever. Maybe this is the universe's way of making sure I didn't fully give this relationship a second chance! eeeeewwwwhhhhh hahhahahahhahaha that's so nasty. if there's one thing that turns me off the most its bad personal hygiene. that HAS to be her. the fact he has yet to catch on his mind boggling. that's so sad that she has to pretend to be someone else too... what is her plan? to one day be like... SURPRISE!!! it's me! and then hope that all this time they've spent together made him fall for her? ew ew ew ew ew ew ew!
Author BrookeM Posted August 7, 2012 Author Posted August 7, 2012 eeeeewwwwhhhhh hahhahahahhahaha that's so nasty. if there's one thing that turns me off the most its bad personal hygiene. that HAS to be her. the fact he has yet to catch on his mind boggling. that's so sad that she has to pretend to be someone else too... what is her plan? to one day be like... SURPRISE!!! it's me! and then hope that all this time they've spent together made him fall for her? ew ew ew ew ew ew ew! I know right!!! And even if she was real (which, given the circumstances, is extremely unlikely) he'll now have to deal with a pathological liar. Ugh. I see nothing but good things to come for this dysfunctional relationship. I unfollowed him on Instagram but he still follows me and "liked" one of my pictures the other day. Was this a vague way of getting my attention? Or did he really like my picture? I'll never know and I don't care to. Trying to read him is like trying to decipher a meaningful language out of Scrabble tiles being wrecklessly thrown against a wall. 1
yessy21 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 llove your signature yessy Thanks! Its my life Motto.
yessy21 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Oh my gosh!! That's terrible!! It's so unfortunate what kinds of lengths people will go to pretend to be someone else to get the attention they desire. I used to work at Hooters and my co workers were constantly having fake profiles of themselves under different names appear on fb because they added strangers who would turn around and steal their entire photo albums off their page. well the thing is... now most prisons give their inmates... Email access and So on... which i believe is really ridiculous because ... if you took someones life away... why do you deserve to eat well... use a phone... take a dump... i tell you.... the way things work these days.. its a shame. oh! wait... i have another possible scenario which i know of ... my daughters grandma who lives in the Ghetto had a neighbor with 5 kids. she didnt work...lived off of rippin people off and welfare... well she used to talk to guys from all over the world online... she was 400 pounds of uncleansiness cause she never cleaned. well she had guys sending her money.... thinking she was who she said she was... and she would post fake pics and so on... well that ended poorly for her cause hrs came and took her kids... so she no longer had government help to pay for her internet. Most probrably its one of those two. i dont care how insecure someone is... the least they can do is video chat or call. With that there is more than enough proof.
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