dayslikelikethis Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Well, it's been about a month since the breakup and I've went through a plethora of emotions. Throughout everything I had always held her up on a pedestal and thought that she is my soul mate. I could only think that "There is nobody like her", "Nobody could ever replace her", etc... Recently, some of the imperfections that did bother me a little bit have started to enter my mind more frequently.... This is a good thing I think. As I have sat here lonely and depressed while she was out living her life I've been crushed and just "pining" over her.. Instead of knowing without a doubt that she was my soul mate, now I'm only about 90% sure that she's my soul mate.. I guess that's some kind of progress. I'm looking forward entering the "anger" stage and move past all this grief.. I think I would much rather be mad than sad at this point. I've been NC for two weeks so maybe it's starting to help? She's still on my facebook however, and I admit checking it but I'm doing that less and less. Fortunately she's not a big "Facebooker" and doesn't post much. I don't want to know what she's doing.. I know that I should just delete her but I just haven't been able to do it yet. I think part of me just hopes that she would come to her senses
YorickBrown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Well, it's been about a month since the breakup and I've went through a plethora of emotions. Throughout everything I had always held her up on a pedestal and thought that she is my soul mate. I could only think that "There is nobody like her", "Nobody could ever replace her", etc... Recently, some of the imperfections that did bother me a little bit have started to enter my mind more frequently.... This is a good thing I think. As I have sat here lonely and depressed while she was out living her life I've been crushed and just "pining" over her.. Instead of knowing without a doubt that she was my soul mate, now I'm only about 90% sure that she's my soul mate.. I guess that's some kind of progress. I'm looking forward entering the "anger" stage and move past all this grief.. I think I would much rather be mad than sad at this point. I've been NC for two weeks so maybe it's starting to help? She's still on my facebook however, and I admit checking it but I'm doing that less and less. Fortunately she's not a big "Facebooker" and doesn't post much. I don't want to know what she's doing.. I know that I should just delete her but I just haven't been able to do it yet. I think part of me just hopes that she would come to her senses Well, I must say you're doing OK...and you are progressing quite well in the process of recovering from the BU. Going all-out NC is really the answer, imho, but if you still can't do it right now...that's ok too. A word of advice though...it would also do you well to Unfriend her and everyone else that you and her are mutual friends with asap (especially those close to your ex). If she gets tagged by one of your mutuals...not good.
Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Well, it's been about a month since the breakup and I've went through a plethora of emotions. Throughout everything I had always held her up on a pedestal and thought that she is my soul mate. I could only think that "There is nobody like her", "Nobody could ever replace her", etc... Recently, some of the imperfections that did bother me a little bit have started to enter my mind more frequently.... This is a good thing I think. As I have sat here lonely and depressed while she was out living her life I've been crushed and just "pining" over her.. Instead of knowing without a doubt that she was my soul mate, now I'm only about 90% sure that she's my soul mate.. I guess that's some kind of progress. I'm looking forward entering the "anger" stage and move past all this grief.. I think I would much rather be mad than sad at this point. I've been NC for two weeks so maybe it's starting to help? She's still on my facebook however, and I admit checking it but I'm doing that less and less. Fortunately she's not a big "Facebooker" and doesn't post much. I don't want to know what she's doing.. I know that I should just delete her but I just haven't been able to do it yet. I think part of me just hopes that she would come to her senses I know how you feel i thought my ex was my soulmate but eventualy you realise there not all that good. And as for facebook you need to stop looking at her profile NOW seeing pictures of her and her writing status's only rubs salt in the wounds and makes it harder for you to move forward. Maybe if u didnt look at her facebook you would be about 70% percent sure she was ur soulmate instead of 90%. But if u dont want to delete her u dont have to u can go on her profile and disable the news feed. So you wont see anything she posts, but you gotta not give in to the urge to search for her, if you do i would just block her alltogether or maybe deactivate your account.
g450 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Dont unfriend her. Block her. You are not doing yourself or your situation any good if you dont do that.
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