SteveC80 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Lets be honest here everyone dreams about really hot people,its why married people have celebrites crushes its why people openly flirt with others when their married The whole thing about women cuddling with their husbands hot guys friends,the amount of times ive bewn hit on by married women[in my prime;)] some of them friends wives has shown me that everyone yearns for attractive people We can say how once you fall in love you find that perosn beautiful blah blah blah the troth is where all social animals and very visual if we see people much hotter then our partners inn the right vulenrable moment with enough alcohol and hormones flowing most of us would be highly moved to want to do something I think a lot of medicore or aveage looking people get married for emotional support not because they find their partner so irrestibly hot They want the same group of very attractive people like everyone else
ThaWholigan Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I feel like I'm repeating myself but....... Average is subjective, as is attractiveness (to a small extent). Not everyone finds the same people attractive, and while there will be those who will likely garner more interest in general, those people are generally more put together to an extent. Besides, one of the problems in my opinion is that people automatically label themselves as average or below and don't even try to be attractive or do what is necessary if they really want a particular type of partner. I'm not talking Plastic Surgery, but at the very least an augmentation of ones looks, which can be done. 3
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Well, OP - according to you, you are God's ultimate gift to women. Yet, you're divorced. So I guess that even being a spectacularly handsome fellow such as yourself does not guarantee that a woman will be totally satisfied with you. Hm. Maybe there is more to "total satisfaction" than looks? I think a lot of medicore or aveage looking people get married for emotional support not because they find their partner so irrestibly hot I think you are (predictably) missing the entire fleet of boats here. Happy marriages don't happen because people marry for "emotional support" OR because they think somebody is so freaking hot. There is a lot more to them than either of those simplistic statements imply. You just don't get it. At all. 3
Author SteveC80 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) I feel like I'm repeating myself but....... Average is subjective, as is attractiveness (to a small extent). Not everyone finds the same people attractive, and while there will be those who will likely garner more interest in general, those people are generally more put together to an extent. Besides, one of the problems in my opinion is that people automatically label themselves as average or below and don't even try to be attractive or do what is necessary if they really want a particular type of partner. I'm not talking Plastic Surgery, but at the very least an augmentation of ones looks, which can be done. Yes we can do that everyone has different tastes pc dance if we want but in general theres people a lot of others find attractive and others not so much...The likely scenario is these people became attracted EMOTIONALLY after time but didnt say wow he or she is hot among initial appereance Another non pc unromantic thing thats likely is both partners realized the hot people of the other gender werent intersted and for self preservation settled for the best they can get with their own looks...When i had a 12 pack and was in my 20's my friends wives hit on me to an uncomfortable point while disrespecting their short balding husbands with a gut They didnt flirt because i had a great personality they did it because animalistically they were extremely attracted to me unlike their husbands and if i was a scumbag and caught them in the right moment they would have cheated with me Edited August 6, 2012 by SteveC80
Mme. Chaucer Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 When i had a 12 pack and was in my 20's my friends wives hit on me to an uncomfortable point while disrespecting their short balding husbands with a gut Do you ever think that you spend an unhealthy amount of time reliving your 20's, when you had a 12 pack? 1
mesmerized Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Well, OP - according to you, you are God's ultimate gift to women. Yet, you're divorced. So I guess that even being a spectacularly handsome fellow such as yourself does not guarantee that a woman will be totally satisfied with you. Hm. Maybe there is more to "total satisfaction" than looks? I think you are (predictably) missing the entire fleet of boats here. Happy marriages don't happen because people marry for "emotional support" OR because they think somebody is so freaking hot. There is a lot more to them than either of those simplistic statements imply. You just don't get it. At all. He gets it though...Yes there are a lot of people who marry for the right reasons. But also there are a hell of a lot more doing it for the wrong reasons. And I agree that these people aren't really lustfully satisfied in their relationships, they usually don't dwell on it though.
weallfalldown Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 from a male point of view, i've often found the prettier ladies are the most messed up 1
Author SteveC80 Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Do you ever think that you spend an unhealthy amount of time reliving your 20's, when you had a 12 pack? Not doing it to brag its to bring a point up that in the right moment with alcohol and hormones involved most people would cheat with somebody theyre extremely attracted to
PJKino Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Not doing it to brag its to bring a point up that in the right moment with alcohol and hormones involved most people would cheat with somebody theyre extremely attracted to Id tend to agree After seeing my friends wife whos in a happy marriage cuddle with my good looking friend im convinced given the right circumstances most people would cheat or at least fantasize about doing it
ThaWholigan Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Yes we can do that everyone has different tastes pc dance if we want but in general theres people a lot of others find attractive and others not so much...The likely scenario is these people became attracted EMOTIONALLY after time but didnt say wow he or she is hot among initial appereance You assume that everyone becomes attracted to someone primarily physically. I've found that this isn't always the case, strangely enough. I always thought it was physical a while back too. Back when I thought that girls didn't want to date me because they wanted guys who looked like Omarion . Turns out I was wrong.... Another non pc unromantic thing thats likely is both partners realized the hot people of the other gender werent intersted and for self preservation settled for the best they can get with their own looks...When i had a 12 pack and was in my 20's my friends wives hit on me to an uncomfortable point while disrespecting their short balding husbands with a gut I don't doubt that - some people settle for a few physically attractive traits rather than a wholesome physically attractive package. Likely those short, balding friends could do something about that gut and embrace their charismatic anima. Not blaming them for being disrespected, but it just proves my point that some people don't try to make themselves attractive enough. They didnt flirt because i had a great personality they did it because animalistically they were extremely attracted to me unlike their husbands and if i was a scumbag and caught them in the right moment they would have cheated with me Probably. However, that animalistic attraction can be developed within yourself. You obviously are the good looking lothario you keep saying you are (I'll take your word for it), and likely have the confidence and the movement to back it up. Now, that can all be developed in a person. It might be harder for some, but it can be done if necessary. Again, my point: People CAN be more physically attractive if they really tried. However - when it comes to relationships, it's not the ONLY thing that can inspire feelings of lust in a woman. It can certainly help greatly, but there are other things. I've seen guys who can inspire that lust in a woman, and then get turned down later on because they turned her off mentally. The synergy though..... 1
Blastoplast Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Those people who cheat are weak willed then. I LOVED my ex more than anything in the world, and I can specifically remember a night when one of my EX's friends came up to me and we were hitting it off just chit chatting. This ended up to her wanting to make out with me, and she was telling me about her kegel exercises she did. I told her I'd love to make out with her because she's smokin' hot, but I have a girlfriend. She didn't know I was dating her either. She's like "that guy's a keeper!" Yeah, right...
xxoo Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've been linking this article frequently lately, but once again it is relevant! The MRI of Love Pay close attention to the sub-heading Angelina, where in the following results can be found, comparing his brain's response to photos of his average looking spouse, and pictures of Angelina Jolie: Brown writes: Julie and Angelina were exactly the same in areas associated with sexual arousal. Your midbrain thinks Julie is just as attractive as Angelina in the objective sense. But the romantic love isn't there for Angelina. Well, it's almost there for Angelina. Perilously close, in fact. But it doesn't make the cut. Love makes the average extraordinary. A 12 pack on a 20 year old can be nice to look at, but don't underestimate the sexual power that a short, balding husband with a gut can hold over his wife 3
Woggle Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You must hang out with some real scumbags if everybody is cheating on everybody. 2
ThaWholigan Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 You must hang out with some real scumbags if everybody is cheating on everybody. :D:D:D ^^This
Bristolius Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Even just sticking with the physicality of sex, a "hot" looking person can lack animalistic enthusiasm, while an ordinary looking person can be bursting with gusto. Again, leaving out emotional connections, the primary sense involved in sex is touch not vision. Maybe some new ideas for the OP. 1
Pyro Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Lets be honest here everyone dreams about really hot people,its why married people have celebrites crushes its why people openly flirt with others when their married The whole thing about women cuddling with their husbands hot guys friends,the amount of times ive bewn hit on by married women[in my prime;)] some of them friends wives has shown me that everyone yearns for attractive people We can say how once you fall in love you find that perosn beautiful blah blah blah the troth is where all social animals and very visual if we see people much hotter then our partners inn the right vulenrable moment with enough alcohol and hormones flowing most of us would be highly moved to want to do something I think a lot of medicore or aveage looking people get married for emotional support not because they find their partner so irrestibly hot They want the same group of very attractive people like everyone else Everyone has a celebrity crush or two but any rational person leaves it as a crush and nothing more. It's a good thing that this thread only applies to the unhappy and failed marriages.
Failboy Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Not to mention even objectively unspectacular people can strike a chord with certain individuals, including objectively hot ones. I am far from hot, but even I have been fancied by hotties and rejected by below average ones. The first thing happens very, VERY rarely, but it is technically possible on any day. You just have to strike a chord, it's dumb luck but possible. But then other issues kick in. For instance, a very hot girl might be into a dude her hot friends would perceive as "average" or even ugly. This alone can very well be reason enough for her to have no interest whatsoever, unfortunately. Still in a vacuum, she'd be lustfully satisfied with him.
xxoo Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Not to mention even objectively unspectacular people can strike a chord with certain individuals, including objectively hot ones. I am far from hot, but even I have been fancied by hotties and rejected by below average ones. Absolutely. It cracks me up when hot people (I'm assuming the OP is hot, or at least was at one time) think average people never experience being lusted after 1
todreaminblue Posted August 7, 2012 Posted August 7, 2012 Lets be honest here everyone dreams about really hot people,its why married people have celebrites crushes its why people openly flirt with others when their married The whole thing about women cuddling with their husbands hot guys friends,the amount of times ive bewn hit on by married women[in my prime;)] some of them friends wives has shown me that everyone yearns for attractive people We can say how once you fall in love you find that perosn beautiful blah blah blah the troth is where all social animals and very visual if we see people much hotter then our partners inn the right vulenrable moment with enough alcohol and hormones flowing most of us would be highly moved to want to do something I think a lot of medicore or aveage looking people get married for emotional support not because they find their partner so irrestibly hot They want the same group of very attractive people like everyone else I think this is probably wrong but I feel that if you are with someone then you are happy to be with that person.Celebrity crushes, are fantasy, reality and love are here in the world with us and if you can fidn that and hold on to that then that aces any thing else including playing up, flirting, real love, its for keeps and it doesn't matter that person is not every bodys fantasy in your eyes that person is what makes your heart hammer, its tangible that love can be held in your arms and appreciated by a person in love.....not to mention the fact they can show you the same in return. That is way hotter definitely more real and that love can grow stronger brighter, more intense with time, fantasy goes away when you wake up from that daydream and shifts like sands shifts never stable or reliable.
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