Matt145 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 (edited) My ex called me last night after 9 days of NC and begged me to be friends she called me an hour before this too and i said no ( i made a thread about it last night ), she said times where hard for her right now and she needs someone she can trust to help her and that im the only person she trusts that can help her, she also said she cant live without me bla bla all that ****. I told her no its a relationship or nothing, and she choose nothing. So we spoke for a bit longer and she told me shes kissed a guy, and that she is talking to guys now. One of which is her ex who she was with for 2.5 years. So i told her ive spoke to two of my ex's i havent but i did it to make her jelous and she went nuts ( not on me ) but she was mad and she seemed pretty upset, she then told me to tell her all the girls ive spoke to. But im confused though because she loves me and needs me in her life but she wont be with me? She also got jelous when i talk about other girls too :S. She only wants to be friends and nothing more. I asked her if there is anyone else stopping her from getting with me and she said no, she wants to be single for a long time so the conversation ended in us arguing and we went back into NC by just saying " bye x " to eachother which hurt me aswell. So im pretty hurt knowing she talks to guys and that she has kissed one. But i just want to know did i do the right thing by not being her friends with her while times are hard for her Also did i do the right thing by making her jelous? And is there anyone who has been in a situation before where they have loved someone but not wanted to be with them like my ex? This is making me angry now she has broke NC 5 times she cant let go of me and its stopping me from moving on i dont know what to do. Edited August 6, 2012 by Matt145
Ruby65 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Stick to NC from now on and forgive yourself for having just broken it. I think you absolutely did the right thing by refusing "friendship"..... really she just wants you to hold her hand while she adjusts to being single. Then as soon as she gets her next bf, she won't want anything to do with you. Just stick to NC..... protect yourself from anymore painful information from her. Try to forget what she said and keep moving forward... SHE can't stop you from doing that. She doesn't have that power. Just ignore anymore breadcrumbs -- because there almost certainly WILL be more to come (until she finds someone new). Keep going -- you're doing GREAT!
Coyoteloco Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 yes you did the right thing, and you should forget her, and find some1 that loves you and wants to be with you. I broke with my whole life girlfriend 2 weeks ago, as for the jealous thing, you shouldnt really give a **** about it, i suggest you to completly erase her from your life, thats what im doing, and i hope i find some1 that will love me, my true love, i think i was so blinded by this "love" i had now i can see clearly what kind of person she is. I think you should do the same, but u can do what u want lol if my ex kisses some1 else thats the end of our relationship for ever EVER!
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