I'm not an affectionate girlfriend (like ur ex)

[danm]

Why on earth would a girl say to their boyfriend 'I'm not an affectionate girl. I'm not like your ex'.

 

It is either literally a fact they want to share. That they are a colder, more reserved person and telling me they aren't the touchy feely needy type.

 

Or is that a deeper psychological trait that they have mentally visualised and compared themselves!? Saying you aren't affectionate I can get.

 

But to add '...like your ex'. Why!?

 

Is that jealousy? Or insecurity and self doubt that she thinks she will never live up to what I had before?

 

It annoys me a lot. My ex was actually really cold hearted and unaffectionate.

 

How do you even respond to those sorts of claims!?

[jrh1524]

You're the dude who's girlfriend wanted to hang out with an ex. Everyone told you to break up with her, but you didn't... You reap what you sow dude.

[january2011]

Depends on her tone and what happened before she said this. Though it sounds like frustration to me.

 

Do you talk about your ex much? Does your girlfriend ask about your ex? How much do you know about her ex? That is, did she ever face criticism about how affectionate she is?

 

Does her behaviour match her words? That is, she's not affectionate. And is it actually an issue for you?

[stillafool]

I don't know what would make her say this. Maybe she assumes your ex was very affectionate because you are. Are you very affectionate? I'm curious, you say your ex was cold hearted and unaffectionate and it sounds like this one is as well, is that your type of woman?

[weallfalldown]

You're the dude who's girlfriend wanted to hang out with an ex. Everyone told you to break up with her, but you didn't... You reap what you sow dude.

 

She's a nightmare, i can tell that just from your post......get rid!

[Devon5]

"I'm not like your ex." Its only the result of jealousy. But i think this type of jealousy is good for relationship. Also its not good for human life.