sunnyblueskies Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I'm a bit confused regarding a guy I met recently, so I'm hoping someone can help me out. I recently had a fling with this guy I met on vacation (he lives there). We casually texted back and forth afterward and when I got back home, we connected via facebook. I didn't hear from him again, so I basically just wrote the experience off (although I really liked him). Now, a couple of weeks later, he drops me a random message out of the blue. Really friendly, just asking me how I'm doing and what he's been up to, etc. I'm not sure I can figure why he's gotten in touch with me after all this time though, as we didn't really get to know each other very well. Should I just drop him a casual/friendly message back or should I let him know I really enjoyed the time I spent with him, etc? I do miss him and would love to get to know him better - not sure if I would scare him off if I told him this though Thank you so much!
ascendotum Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Scare him off...but he is already off and far away in vacation land.....unless you vacation just down the coast. Maybe he has been busy and recently reminisced about the time he had with you and just decided to say hi because he was fond of you...or maybe he just keeps in touch with all the names in his little black book and he might decide to drop in for a holiday at your town at the end of the year. I reckon you should send him a friendly msg back and say what you suggested. Not sure how you would want this to move forward though....what like an LDR?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 He's just throwing out the line to keep communication open, you shouldn't take this seriously or see this as him wanting to get to know you better so I wouldn't take it that far he's just simply checking in. 1
Author sunnyblueskies Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Hi ascendotum, First of all, thank you for taking the time to reply About moving it forward - I'm not sure how that would work since he lives a couple of plane hours away...and in order to have an ldr, you usually do need a base relationship first. I think I'm just pretty confused at the moment because I never expected him to get in touch with me in the first place (holiday flings usually just disappear as soon as vacation is over). And that message just came at a really random time. But you're probably right - maybe he was bored or whatever...
Author sunnyblueskies Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 He's just throwing out the line to keep communication open, you shouldn't take this seriously or see this as him wanting to get to know you better so I wouldn't take it that far he's just simply checking in. So it's more like an ego thing?
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 So it's more like an ego thing? It's just a casual thing that people sometimes do. He's home...goes on with life...nothing much is going on romantically so who decides to contact a girl he's been intimate/flinging with just to see what happens, out of curiosity, minimal concern. You're best case scenario is ending up as a back-up that he consistently stay in contact with, but I highly doubt his investment will be much more than a few texts or emails/fb msg's or likes on your post. There's no chance of anything happening for him that would make it worth it for him ultimately. If a guy is really interested he's going to act in a way that he doesn't want to lose you or break contact...he doesn't just sit back, not express how he feels then disappears. If he contacts you then that doesn't mean everything is changing and there is potential...that's a major problem with women, they see potential in every little damn thing and they want to blow it up and make this guy out to be something great because they've got this little fantasy in their heads instead of looking at actually what's happening in front of them. You're not at the stage with this guy yet but I'm sure If he started showing any remote interest you'd fantasize of where it could go, but I think in the end it'll just be a huge waste of your time at best.
yongyong Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I banged this chick from S.africa (no black chick) the best sex ever! I kept in touch with her on facebook, hoping she would visit again and I can bang the shxt out of her. If you liked the sex, you can just keep in touch with him. when you have a vacation, stay at his house (save $$), have lots of sex and come back with happier mood?
manup Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I'm a bit confused regarding a guy I met recently, so I'm hoping someone can help me out. I recently had a fling with this guy I met on vacation (he lives there). We casually texted back and forth afterward and when I got back home, we connected via facebook. I didn't hear from him again, so I basically just wrote the experience off (although I really liked him). Now, a couple of weeks later, he drops me a random message out of the blue. Really friendly, just asking me how I'm doing and what he's been up to, etc. I'm not sure I can figure why he's gotten in touch with me after all this time though, as we didn't really get to know each other very well. Should I just drop him a casual/friendly message back or should I let him know I really enjoyed the time I spent with him, etc? I do miss him and would love to get to know him better - not sure if I would scare him off if I told him this though Thank you so much! There are two things that this could mean. A. He's just being nice B. He's keeping you in his black book should you two meet again.
Author sunnyblueskies Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Just wanted to provide a quick update to say you guys were right - I wrote back but never heard from him again, so he couldn't have been that keen, lol
Casablanca Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 So it's more like an ego thing? He is just keeping options open in case you should ever visit again
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