dudesomewhere Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 who just happens to be female in the purest platonic way. Now for any of you that have already seen some of my posts way back when...basically the stuff that got me to LS...that is the friend I've always talked about. She's also the one I've talked about recently, the one that gives me hope in the world Good god I love this girl...she's the coolest! And yeah, I'm that friggin innocent, so no hanky panky talk damn thee...damn thee all to heck! hehe, jk. I wish ALL FEMALES could be like her . I'm going to see her...it's why I am so happy I proclaim it. It's 8:36 am and my friday
EC Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Platonic? I think not you seem a little too exited to go see her lol. I think you have a crush man.......
Varacha Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Originally posted by EtErNaLlYCoNfUsEd Platonic? I think not you seem a little too exited to go see her lol. I think you have a crush man....... LOL, this sounds like how me and my best friend talk about seeing each other,
Author dudesomewhere Posted July 13, 2004 Author Posted July 13, 2004 hehe bah...if only you guys really knew me...I'm really like a child when it comes to love. Hell if I loved you as a friend you'd know it and I'd be screaming about it. That's what it's all about with me...my childlike love for friends. you mean to tell me you've never had a male friend who's EXTREMELY good looking , tell you he loves you purely and mean it without any ulterior motives? Aw, you're missin out. We spent 5 hours at the book store just now...ahh, that was fun.
YellowLioness Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Ahhh, you remind me of my best friend, Nick. Yay for platonic relationships! Nick and I are the best of buds, we met in college, and we used to watch movies and cuddle. No kissing, no dating. We are actually closer to family then friends. His mom is more of a mom to me then my own mother is, and his dad is cool as can be. Nopers, I know what you may be thinking, Nick's not gay. in fact, he dates frequently. He's also sports oriented. Nick thinks that he is a knight in shining armor, and he is in my book. So, Dudesomewhere, it's good to know that Nick is not the only one of his breed. :-) Yellow
EC Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Awe that sound so cool. I want a platonic boy friend. lol I miss mines I had one but he moved away and now we onlytalk through Ims. We used to have the best times playing pranks on people though. Like he would be standing there with a "new" girl he was seeing and I would walk up to him red in the face and scream at him " What do you think your doing how could you do this to me?" and he would say "baby it's not what it looks like" The girl would freak out and we would laugh and say we were kidding. Man I miss him. (tear )
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Okay Dude, so if she rips her clothes off tonight and offers up the goods...you're saying you won't take the bait because your love is platonic??? Of course, You wouldn't want to be the one to ruin the friendship; right? Oh wait a minute...I forgot about that new relationship thing called "FWB". Sorry. My bad!
Author dudesomewhere Posted July 13, 2004 Author Posted July 13, 2004 bah again... hey, we both are straight and functional but I try to tell her not to. You know...yeah I'm psycho and basically a monk...hetero monk...monk who's demons are the beauty of women...but this monk holds dominion over his demons now if she really wanted to, after much dissuasion then I'll give in hehe seriously though, I know how sometimes women think a guy really only wants sex underneath it all, but I do tell her how much she means to me and how I don't show affection as an underhanded way to get anything from her. BTW, I don't do the FWB thing...I've already been given that every relationship I've been in but haven't done it so far. But I have to admit I didn't want to because those females were EXes for a reason . Yeah, I love her enough that I really don't know if I could fight it. Hmmm, while were on this subject...ladies? If you had a very close male friend who was not a FWB but one night you got really horny and was with this male friend...which would you prefer? He give into you or he were to gently deny you and bring you down to a less passionate level of thinking? I don't know but I have the thought that women in GENERAL would wish for the male friend to really talk her out of it. Or would you ladies feel the same either way? I can only honestly say that on the scale from Buddies to FWB I'm more on the Buddies side...and prolly right near the extreme left. I just leave enough if the female friend really really really really really really wants it
EC Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 If its a friend that i really only see as just a friend I would hope he talked me out of it. I would hate to regret it later. And I don't do the whole FWB thing either. I think it's pointless and your wasting your time when you could be enjoying the company of somebody new and exiting.
Naive Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 Originally posted by YellowLioness Ahhh, you remind me of my best friend, Nick. Yay for platonic relationships! Nick and I are the best of buds, we met in college, and we used to watch movies and cuddle. No kissing, no dating. We are actually closer to family then friends. His mom is more of a mom to me then my own mother is, and his dad is cool as can be. I wish I had a friend like that!!!!!!!!
loves2much Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 You LOVE this girl right? Only platonic? I think maybe you are trying to convince yourself that you only love her as a friend...as i did before with my bestfriend. I never got to tell him and he moved to a different state and i haven't talked to him since. Maybe you should sit down and figure out how you really do feel about this girl...if you love her only as a friend or if you love her love her. Because i lost out on my chance and i wouldn't want you to lose your chance!
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 naïve_2002 Writes: I wish I had a friend like that!!!!!!!! That'll never happen for you, Naïve…not if that's your actual photo on your avatar! You're waaaaay too cute! Not unless your guy pal wasn't into girls at all, or you weighed 600 pounds. Believe me…I've had MANY male friends who all admitted that any healthy heterosexual male would consider having sex with his platonic female friend under two conditions: #1: Those guys not looking to be tied down would do their gal pal if they knew they could escape without any strings attached. They'd want to know that their friend wouldn't suddenly fall in love and get all psycho and possessive on them…and start talking "relationship." #2: Those guys who are looking to hook up, are HAPPY to play the trusted guy friend and confidant in hopes the girl will finally come to her senses and realize the BEST man for her has been there for her all along. They'd do you in a heartbeat HOPING you'd change your mind and start talking "relationship." Come on, dudesomewhere...take one for the boys and be honest with all the young ladies here. Tell them what guys are REALLY thinking!
tiger_nip Posted July 13, 2004 Posted July 13, 2004 it's so hard to get into a real relationship once you've wandered into the friend zone. you must be that nice guy she talks to when things are messed up. not easy being the nice guy. good luck brotha.
Author dudesomewhere Posted July 14, 2004 Author Posted July 14, 2004 lol enigma...you should gather from my posts that I'm strange or different enough that this is so. Ok, here's some real big time confidence coming at you so brace yourself... You know, I think I'm good looking enough to get action whenever I want. I have this funky baby face on a big body dichotomy that seems to make women freak and get all nervous. Yeah, I've had that a lot and it builds for great self esteem. Hair short, hair long...it doesn't really seem to change but I think I get the most reaction when it's long cuz I look all like a girl . On top of all that I look really young, so when peole think I'm 21 I'm actually 31...now if I knew women my age to 25 or so and they know that looking at me, it also seems to make them all the more curious . I've had it all my life and I guess that really did shape me into the type of guy I am. If you could almost reverse roles...I was like a female walking by a construction site and had to put up with those come on remarks. It was like it happened so much that it turned me off, I got used to it. You take a macho jerk type guy and you take a nice/good guy and have them experience such things and it pushes the nice/good guy further into that role. On this nice/good guy topic...that's another thing. Growing up my view on that was most guys who thought they were good/nice, only said that because they were unnattractive. That was a weird thing, they almost always seemed to say they were good/nice because they had no action...they never gave examples of why they were better than any macho jerk type. Me, I set out to prove a point. So I developed a body past the point of average and took a step back. Took a look at what was considered manly, macho, tough, bad ass....I laughed. All these manly, macho, tough, bad ass guys were all out of shape, weak, grotesque and basically plainly not manly. Guys in sunglasses indoors with all the jackets thinking they're bad ass I could break in half....guys in sports cars, earrings, loud obnoxious music screaming to the world to look at them while they hide behind the metal...meanwhile me and my family cars and what have you. Then you have the jocks who can match me physically but only in a sense...bulk in places you shouldn't have it...huge guts...walking around like they are bigger than they are with the arms out to the sides like they are carrying pillows under their arm pits. Than what's inside? Nothing but ugliness, vulgarity, overbearing machismo, controlling and manipulative minds who try to break down women so they feel more the men they think they are. So...how'd you like that? I can be honest with the ladies, but as you can see and that I'll readily admit I am too different from the average guy. So I can't really say what guys are thinking. But I do know most guys are how you would presume though. Nah, she knows I love her and that I love her a lot but she also knows me or at least I hope so. Because I do know it would take a lot to fully accept the oddity that I am . Maybe it has to do with my little something about not wanting as many women as I can...there's another weird thing with me. I want to have the least number of partners possible in my life and I've gone 7 years without one and have only had 4. She doesn't like porn and I love that...I'm weird huh? hehe. She is my shelter in the storm of life and now that I've found her don't feel like I have to go out and hook up. But I actually know I have to if I want to get married and have kids...so I'll force myself to hook up with someone out there. Here's some info that may make things clearer or confuse more ....as you know I'm 31...but you don't know yet is that well...she's 19. So I think that might be the thing, I look at her like my little sister. It's also at the same time I've always wanted the younger people I come across, whether I was 20, 25 or 30...that the younger guys or girls that were always impressed with me...thought I was so cool...I wanted to let them know there was someone different in the world. That one guy that never did drugs, never smoked, never drank until after he was 21. Now I'm not judging anybody but that's just how I lived...it's good to be able to tell someone younger about things and have them know your words aren't empty, that you aren't just preaching but never had the conviction to live such a way. Have you ever seen it in their eyes, that admiration? That's a good feeling man. And I think that's what it is. Now...if I could find a lady who's my age that doesn't look our age...that looks as young as I look then I'm all set. And of course, I'd hope she values a guy like me...not saying good/nice or whatever, but me. That kooky, off-beat guy who you think is just left of center but is actually left of center, 3 notches back, 7 shuffles forward and to the right but down a bit....
YellowLioness Posted July 15, 2004 Posted July 15, 2004 Good luck with that, dude! You totally deserve someone who is everyything you want. It's like I keep telling Nick, "Don't settle for anything less then you deserve. And you deserve a HELL of a whole lot!" I don't care what anyone else says, I know what it's like to have a nice guy friend who is like you. Nick is Someone that doesn't hit on me, laughs at my stupid jokes, and someone that will walk out of "Dungeons and Dragons" with me after screaming, "This really sucks!!!!!!" in the theater. We got some jube-jubes thrown at us on the way out, but we just laughed. I don't know. Nick is the big brother I never had. That's pretty much all it is. We're family, just not related. Yeah, it's rare. But, it does happen. And when it happens, it is beautiful. :-)
Confused_Aarynne Posted July 16, 2004 Posted July 16, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=blue][/color] My name is Aarynne and I too am inlove with my best friend. His name is Jordan and he is my age. Im in another relationship but its affecting it because all i can think about is him. During everything (even sex) i think about him. I know that he knows how i feel about him, and he doesnt like me back but i cant get over him. everytime i see him i fall deeper in love. Im thinking about going on ricki lake, it sounds like it would be a good show title!
RoboHobo Posted July 20, 2004 Posted July 20, 2004 Hey dudesomewhere, I think its great that you can have such an awesome platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Most guys are far to concerned with conquests and sex. An intellectual and emotional connection is so much more important in my opinion. Good luck to you, keep up the friendship. By the way, you definitely don't look 31, and I'm sure that you will find the person that you want to be with, someone as cool as you is bound to.
fiatflux Posted July 21, 2004 Posted July 21, 2004 I admire you. That's one thing I've never learned how to do very well ... be platonic 'best friends' with a man...at least not a straight man (I am a 41 yo woman). You are awesome and thanks for taking the time to describe your innermost thoughts about this whole thing.
Wolf Windshadow Posted August 15, 2004 Posted August 15, 2004 Yes, it can be platonic .... My best friend is very female, and very cute, and we manage to keep it platonic... yea, we cuddle, and tease, and occasionally flirt a bit, but we have never done more then hug in any seriousness... and we have seen each other nude... no biggie, she has the same parts in the same places as any other female... we even give each other regular full body massages (both of us are students in a massage therapy program) and react to each other in a "friends" kinda way... not that we don't think of each other as attractive, just not each other's type for "That kind of relationship". we are friends, love each other as friends, tell eachother this all the time, and like it that way, because we always have someone who cares, without the "overhead" of a relationship. Wolf 's are good, especially in a stew
o0lovindrama0o Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 My best friend is a guy and we're absofriggenlutely giddy every time we get to see eachother. And yeah, we tell eachother we love eachother and we're what one of our mutual friends calls "touchy feely" but you seem to have a teensy bit of feelings for this girl. And you can't deny it. Why should you?
Wolf Windshadow Posted August 16, 2004 Posted August 16, 2004 ok... so after 30 years, both me and her wonder why we never wound up together.... and we do admit to some tiny trace of "feelings" for each other, just because we have been close for so long, nothing really sexual, but both know it's best we stay friends because we have something special and to screw it up would be to lose it forever. wolf
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