Necromancer Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I know it can happen, but I have yet to experience this myself. Either they have interest from the start or it the interest never comes. Regardless of how funny\cool guy she thought i was. Yes, i have had few female friends telling me that I'm an amazing guy..... Yet they won't develop feelings for me. What's your thoughts on this?.
Gulf-Delta Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Happens all the time. It just takes the right girl to fall for the right guy. Not every female friend you have will fall for you, just as you won't fall for every female friend
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 This is a phenomenon that only occurs in overplayed Taylor Swift songs. In other words: no, women do not develop feelings for their guy friends, at least not enough to be statistically significant.
Iggy Pop Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've been in the same boat plenty of times dude. Not that I've had much luck getting out of the trap. I think the true strategy is not letting it reach that point. You have to subtly but actively remind her that you are sexual being, make comments that tactful make her think of you as a man and potential love interest. Once they say your like a brother its all over.
ThingsAreComplicated Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Either they have interest from the start or it the interest never comes. (...) Yet they won't develop feelings for me. Interest is not the same as feelings. Interest is usually there or not. Feelings develop over time. And of course it's no "myth".
Author Necromancer Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I've been in the same boat plenty of times dude. Not that I've had much luck getting out of the trap. I think the true strategy is not letting it reach that point. You have to subtly but actively remind her that you are sexual being, make comments that tactful make her think of you as a man and potential love interest. Once they say your like a brother its all over. Only been there one time, learned from mistakes next time. So if I start to get interest (and she has none for me) i cutt her off. I think males fall for their female friends way more often than the other way around.
Author Necromancer Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Happens all the time. It just takes the right girl to fall for the right guy. Not every female friend you have will fall for you, just as you won't fall for every female friend Yet, women claim they fall all the time for their amazing guy friends.
grkBoy Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've only seen women fall for their guy friends when they are desperate and feel like they can't do any better. Usually happens after a string of "pump and dump" scenarios with jerks, or she gets knocked up and thus the guys she still really wants won't touch her. Yes, the storybook/chick flick scenario does happen...but rarely. Most women in my experience look at guy friends as men they would never want in a dating sense. Hence why they were FZed. 1
Jane2011 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've liked one guy friend recently. It was summer 2011. We'd known each other for three years as classmates / co-workers, kind of in a distant way. I wasn't attracted to him that whole time. But we went out to a movie one night in May (last year), and for whatever reason, I found myself attracted to him. His hair was different, his face was different. I just realized he was kinda good-looking. And that I did think he was nice. So...yeah. I got together with him. This doesn't happen often, though. I have a guy friend now who I can tell would be up for it if I wanted to get together with him. But...I'm not feeling it.
KungFuJoe Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I believe it's happened with me with several of my female friends. Though I'm not sure if they just always liked me from the beginning or not.
USMCHokie Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I've only seen women fall for their guy friends when they are desperate and feel like they can't do any better. I find this to be most often the case. If the woman is emotionally distraught, woefully desperate, otherwise out of options, or simply needs to scratch an itch and not put too much effort into finding someone, she'll reach into her stable of willing "friends"...
Els Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I have, but in all honesty, from reading your posts, I can't see why any girl would slowly fall for you. That kind of slow development of attraction is primarily based on personality, how she perceives your attitude to be, compatibility, and how you treat her. Based on your views of dating and women, I think that the bar scene or PUA style would suit you better.
gaius Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Depends if you know how to stimulate a woman or not. Except for one, all the women I've been involved with started out as friends. There was usually something preventing us from getting together in the beginning though. 1
Devon5 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 No, feelings are never becomes myth. Feelings are always real for all.
Revolver Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Of course it's a myth. Once a woman sees you as A friend or puts you in the "friend zone", it's over. She's not going to magically over time start liking you "In that way". Women keep their friends and lovers separate, remember that
Author Necromancer Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Of course it's a myth. Once a woman sees you as A friend or puts you in the "friend zone", it's over. She's not going to magically over time start liking you "In that way". Women keep their friends and lovers separate, remember that It might happen if the guy would get much better looking i think. Ye, you have a point. For the friend she sees,a friend you shall always be.
ThaWholigan Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Depends if you know how to stimulate a woman or not. This^^^^ The end. 1
eleanorhurting Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 my current boyfriend was my friend before he was my bf. But truthfully the reason why we went from being people who knew each other and talked every once in a while to friends who talked all the time was because I found him attractive. But a good 2-3 months of talking and not doing any moves on either part happened before we finally acted upon it. We did flirt but I feel like we also had an opportunity to actually be friends instead of just hitting on each other and dating.
Author Necromancer Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 my current boyfriend was my friend before he was my bf. But truthfully the reason why we went from being people who knew each other and talked every once in a while to friends who talked all the time was because I found him attractive. But a good 2-3 months of talking and not doing any moves on either part happened before we finally acted upon it. We did flirt but I feel like we also had an opportunity to actually be friends instead of just hitting on each other and dating. Question of the day: have you ever fallen for your average looking friend because of his personality after Being only friends for few months?.
GoodOnPaper Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 For the friend she sees,a friend you shall always be. For some reason, many women seem to emotionally compartmentalize in this way -- it's sort of the opposite of how many guys can enter into sexual relationships without wanting to emotionally bond in any way. I've never understood it (women's emotional compartmentalization). If I feel comfortable enough with a women to form a true friendship where I'm sharing deep feelings that few people know about, then romantic feelings are going to come along for the ride whether I intend for them to or not. I don't see how they can be separated. What is really confounding is how women will then say that they married their "best friend". My wife has even said this but we did not get to know each other as "friends" -- she had romantic interests from the get-go. Very strange.
iris219 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 For some reason, many women seem to emotionally compartmentalize in this way -- it's sort of the opposite of how many guys can enter into sexual relationships without wanting to emotionally bond in any way. I've never understood it (women's emotional compartmentalization). If I feel comfortable enough with a women to form a true friendship where I'm sharing deep feelings that few people know about, then romantic feelings are going to come along for the ride whether I intend for them to or not. I don't see how they can be separated. What is really confounding is how women will then say that they married their "best friend". My wife has even said this but we did not get to know each other as "friends" -- she had romantic interests from the get-go. Very strange. We separate emotional and romantic feelings for male friends the same way we do for female friends. Would you develop romantic or sexual feelings for women you had zero sexual attraction to?
monkey00 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I think it's a more likely occurrence if a guy friend zone's a girl off the bat. Girls tend to be more wary of guys who have an ulterior motive or want to date them from the start. Sometimes attraction is immediate when you meet someone and sometimes it just takes time to build up to it. 1
sleepy one Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 We separate emotional and romantic feelings for male friends the same way we do for female friends. Would you develop romantic or sexual feelings for women you had zero sexual attraction to? guys aren't the same and don't always separate these.
Revolver Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 It might happen if the guy would get much better looking i think. Ye, you have a point. For the friend she sees,a friend you shall always be. So guys in that situation need to MOVE ON, and try to find Girls who like him "in that way".
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