AlexanderJames Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Sorry about the length of this. I'm kind of interested in a girl I've known for a while now, she knows I'm interested but there's been no difinitive yes or no I don't think.. "I've never really been the chaser". Any insight into where I might stand and tips or advice on how to, I dunno, make myself more appealing as a love interest (from women in particular considering I'm a guy) would be appreciated Quick background: Been friends for a while now, always got on pretty well. I helped her get out of a bad short term relationship so we're prety close to each other. Occasionally flirt, she says things like I have gorgeous eyes and a great body. She's even got topless pics of me (which she took herself) on her phone. Asked her out to the movies, she said her housemate wanted to come but I said I had hoped it would be just us 2 and she said she felt the same so came by herself. We had a great time, straight after dropping her off she was txting me telling me how much she enjoyed it. It didnt feel like a date though, there was no hand holding, touching, or things like that. But it wasn't awkward, the moments just didnt present themselves. She called my best chick friend a bit after asking if she (my friend) thought it was a date, and if I did. My friend said she wasnt sure cause she hadnt talked to me about it. She didn't say whether or not she considered it a date herself (the girl I took out) A few days later I said I'd love to take her out again and she said she'd like that. I was in town that weekend in a club and she saw me. She came running over super excited and jumped into my arms. I bought her a drink and we spent most of the night holding hands and dancing and stuff. I made a mistake when I was drunk (the bad confidence booster) and called her once I'd left and told her I could see myself liking her more and more and asked if she felt the same. She said she would talk to me about it tomorrow. Anyway the next night I get a txt from her saying she's not ready to get into a relationship at the moment. And that she didnt see us being anything more than friends just now. (just now?) She also said that she didn't quite know how to explain her feelings for me, and that she often found herself flirting with me but wasnt sure what it meant. I replied with a txt saying I wasn't ready to jump straight into anything serious atm either. (cause of ex troubles but I didnt tell her that) I said I feel if you find yourself interested in something you should give it a shot because you never know what you might be missing out on. She replied with "lets keep hanging out as friends for now :)" Anyway since then I've sort of deployed the distance card. We used to message every day but now I dont txt her at all. Sometimes when she txts me I'll reply with something blunt. Othertimes I'll seem really interested. Maybe to turn the tides and make her think she had a nice guy who was interested in her but now he might not be interested anymore. I dont know if it's working or not, we didnt talk for a week then she messaged me suggesting we organise a camping trip with a few friends. So this weekend her, myself and 3 close friends are going away camping from friday to sunday. Think she's just hanging out as friends like we always did? She never organised spending time with me since I've known her this is a first. How should I act? And what should I do? Any tips? Cheers
madjac74 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Sorry about the length of this. That's what she said! Sorry I couldn't resist. Anyhoo I think you should stop pussy footin around and just ask her on a proper date.
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 That's what she said! Sorry I couldn't resist. Haha Yeah cheers mate. Think I'll wait til after the camping trip though.
madjac74 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Haha Yeah cheers mate. Think I'll wait til after the camping trip though. What do you hope to learn from the camping trip?
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I don't know tbh. If she organized it as a way of spending more time with me and gettin closer? The idea to ask her on a proper date after the camping trip rather than before is more with the intent of making sure we all have fun and nothing is awkward. If I ask her on a date before the camping trip and she says no then her, myself or both of us could get awkward and not enjoy camping.
madjac74 Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I don't know tbh. If she organized it as a way of spending more time with me and gettin closer? The idea to ask her on a proper date after the camping trip rather than before is more with the intent of making sure we all have fun and nothing is awkward. If I ask her on a date before the camping trip and she says no then her, myself or both of us could get awkward and not enjoy camping. I can understand that. And I imagine the camping experience will give you some opportunities to be alone and talk and see how things go 1
yongyong Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I have a feeling for this female friend too. I wanted to suggest one day getaway camping trip since we are both stressed out. I think I would ask if she could bring a friend and tell her we would get a separate room to make sure she doesn't feel weird. how about your situation? are you guys going to sleep in a same tent? Camping beats everything. it has all the best possible situation to create romance. -taking her to top of the rock. enjoy the view and smell the fresh air. -do silly things like singing and dancing while listening to music in a car. -make a bon fire. cook some marshmallows. share life stories or tell her some scary ones. -climb the mountain. choose the tough course so you can lead her by holding her hand. you want to miss all these opportunities and just take her out to a lame dinner date? I don't know tbh. If she organized it as a way of spending more time with me and gettin closer? The idea to ask her on a proper date after the camping trip rather than before is more with the intent of making sure we all have fun and nothing is awkward. If I ask her on a date before the camping trip and she says no then her, myself or both of us could get awkward and not enjoy camping.
Author AlexanderJames Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 I'm not sure about the sleeping arrangements but I'm sure they will change once we get there haha. Yeah camping is great I'm so keen. Not just for the company but for the experience.
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