Is 7 months too soon to have another guy around my children?

[paperboy48]

So, I found out my wife has Belen seeing a guy for at least a few months. She took kids camping last week and had this guy up there for one night. They did not sleep together in front of kids, ex wife slept with my daughter.

 

My daughter told me this guy might be taking my son fishing next weekend.

 

We were married for 10 years (dated for six before that). Kids are seven years old. We have been separated for seven months. Soon to be divorced.

 

I just think it is too soon for another guy to be around my kids after only seven months, especially taking my son fishing.

[Samilia]

Too soon to be around your kids or too soon to be replacing you?

 

For how long exactly has she been seeing this guy? If "few months" means she's been seeing him for 7 months, I don't see it as too soon. If it's a recent thing like a couple months, then yes, I would have waited.

 

I would raise concerns if he's taking your son fishing alone, I agree.

 

I would be cautious as to not be using the kids as an excuse to pick in and control her life, but I would also want to know what's going on, so why don't you ask your ex wife? I really don't see it as a healthy thing to do to get news through your daughter.

Edited August 6, 2012 by Samilia

[amaysngrace]

I wouldn't let a guy I've known for seven months be alone with my seven year old child. There's just no way so I don't think you're overreacting at all.

[paperboy48]

Too soon to be around your kids or too soon to be replacing you?

 

For how long exactly has she been seeing this guy? If "few months" means she's been seeing him for 7 months, I don't see it as too soon. If it's a recent thing like a couple months, then yes, I would have waited.

 

I would raise concerns if he's taking your son fishing alone, I agree.

 

I would be cautious as to not be using the kids as an excuse to pick in and control her life, but I would also want to know what's going on, so why don't you ask your ex wife? I really don't see it as a healthy thing to do to get news through your daughter.

 

 

She claims she has been seeing this guy for about two months. I have my suspiciousness it has been since we declared our marriage was over which was Mid February.

 

I am not trying to control her life, I just am questioning her morales. A good friend of ours went through a divorce a couple years ago. she didn't introduce anyone to her children until after a year and half after her separation/divorce. That girl has morales.

[paperboy48]

I wouldn't let a guy I've known for seven months be alone with my seven year old child. There's just no way so I don't think you're overreacting at all.

 

Thanks...thats good morales.

[Samilia]

Thanks...thats good morales.

 

That's common sense? Ask her, don't stay in the dark

[Samilia]

She claims she has been seeing this guy for about two months. I have my suspiciousness it has been since we declared our marriage was over which was Mid February.

 

I am not trying to control her life, I just am questioning her morales. A good friend of ours went through a divorce a couple years ago. she didn't introduce anyone to her children until after a year and half after her separation/divorce. That girl has morales.

 

Couple months would be too early, she doesn't know him well enough to either introduce the kids at all.

 

As for morales, why? Do you have to be the one to draw the line to what she can do or not? To be safe with the kids is common sense and her responsibility as a parent, if she fails at it, that's your right to have a say in it, anything else, that's her business.

 

Let's not play the morale card when we know half of it is jealousy.

[paperboy48]

That's common sense? Ask her, don't stay in the dark

 

 

ask her what though. Ask her if this guy is taking my son fishing. I did, she said no. she has been a compulsive liar throughout our entire seperation though

[paperboy48]

Couple months would be too early, she doesn't know him well enough to either introduce the kids at all.

 

As for morales, why? Do you have to be the one to draw the line to what she can do or not? To be safe with the kids is common sense and her responsibility as a parent, if she fails at it, that's your right to have a say in it, anything else, that's her business.

 

Let's not play the morale card when we know half of it is jealousy.

 

How about the fact I don't think these kids are ready to have another guy around as mommys boyfriend. They are still adopting to the fact their mommy and daddy are no longer together