skilledsettler Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 My "ex" and I were together for three months. Never officially dated, but were exclusive. Every girl he's ever dated cheated on him, so it took a while (2.5 months) for him to finally get comfortable with liking me. He told me this one night and how he thought I was the total package. Beautiful, fun, funny, smart, interested in cool things, and liked good music. He liked me a lot and I took advantage of the fact that he was comfortable with liking me and started being a bitch to him. It'd subtly criticize him with sarcastic comments, act unhappy with him, and pressured him into dating me. One night he even told me that 80% of the time it seemed like I wasn't happy with him. Long story short, he ended things with me in January saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Cliche, I know! He said he didn't lose interest and loved hanging out with me, however, he wasn't ready. I'm almost positive it's because of my bad attitude and the fact that he stated it seemed like I was never happy with him. Well, fast forward 6.5 months. I haven't talked to him at all since the day he ended things. My birthday was last Friday and quite unexpectedly I got a text from him saying happy birthday. Because I know the type of guy he is and I know he would never text me again if I ignored it, I replied with a "Thanks, N!" Then he proceeded to start small talk with me. Asking me a bunch of questions and acting really interested. Called me my nickname that he once gave me. And threw in a memory too about what kind of car he was driving. We both always talked about wanting Range Rovers and it just so happens that he got one and he texted me a picture of it and we joked about it. I ended the conversation first saying I was tired, thanking him for the birthday text, and saying that I'd talk to him later. Leaving the lines of communication open. Well, I honestly never expected to hear from him again, but lo and behold the next night he was celebrating one of out mutual friend's birthdays at the local pub and he texted that I should come hang out. I told him that I might make an appearance. He was very adamant about me going and seemed upset when I said I'd pass and maybe next time. He replied that he would absolutely invite me. Now, fast forward to a week later and I haven't heard from him. I really don't know what to do. I wonder why he contacted me after 6.5 months. Why he called me by my nickname and invited me to hang out with him and his friends the next day. I figure he was just being nice, but why even do that to begin with, you know? And since he opened the lines of communication, now I wonder if he really wanted anything more to do with me, wouldn't he have gotten into contact with me again? I don't want to make excuses for the guy, but I honestly think we could have such a great relationship and I keep asking myself "what if?" I don't want to have any regrets with not making any sort of effort, but I don't want to get heartbroken again. I'm not sure if I should text him or what since he always thought I was unhappy with him. I really do want to make some sort of effort, but I don't know what to do.
livelife Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 My "ex" and I were together for three months. Never officially dated, but were exclusive. Every girl he's ever dated cheated on him, so it took a while (2.5 months) for him to finally get comfortable with liking me. He told me this one night and how he thought I was the total package. Beautiful, fun, funny, smart, interested in cool things, and liked good music. He liked me a lot and I took advantage of the fact that he was comfortable with liking me and started being a bitch to him. It'd subtly criticize him with sarcastic comments, act unhappy with him, and pressured him into dating me. One night he even told me that 80% of the time it seemed like I wasn't happy with him. Long story short, he ended things with me in January saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Cliche, I know! He said he didn't lose interest and loved hanging out with me, however, he wasn't ready. I'm almost positive it's because of my bad attitude and the fact that he stated it seemed like I was never happy with him. Well, fast forward 6.5 months. I haven't talked to him at all since the day he ended things. My birthday was last Friday and quite unexpectedly I got a text from him saying happy birthday. Because I know the type of guy he is and I know he would never text me again if I ignored it, I replied with a "Thanks, N!" Then he proceeded to start small talk with me. Asking me a bunch of questions and acting really interested. Called me my nickname that he once gave me. And threw in a memory too about what kind of car he was driving. We both always talked about wanting Range Rovers and it just so happens that he got one and he texted me a picture of it and we joked about it. I ended the conversation first saying I was tired, thanking him for the birthday text, and saying that I'd talk to him later. Leaving the lines of communication open. Well, I honestly never expected to hear from him again, but lo and behold the next night he was celebrating one of out mutual friend's birthdays at the local pub and he texted that I should come hang out. I told him that I might make an appearance. He was very adamant about me going and seemed upset when I said I'd pass and maybe next time. He replied that he would absolutely invite me. Now, fast forward to a week later and I haven't heard from him. I really don't know what to do. I wonder why he contacted me after 6.5 months. Why he called me by my nickname and invited me to hang out with him and his friends the next day. I figure he was just being nice, but why even do that to begin with, you know? And since he opened the lines of communication, now I wonder if he really wanted anything more to do with me, wouldn't he have gotten into contact with me again? I don't want to make excuses for the guy, but I honestly think we could have such a great relationship and I keep asking myself "what if?" I don't want to have any regrets with not making any sort of effort, but I don't want to get heartbroken again. I'm not sure if I should text him or what since he always thought I was unhappy with him. I really do want to make some sort of effort, but I don't know what to do. Personally I think you should send a text
Author skilledsettler Posted August 6, 2012 Author Posted August 6, 2012 Really? Why do you say so? You don't think that would push him away? I just got a new job and was thinking of texting him to join me and some mutual friends for the celebration. I don't know if that would be a good idea or not. Or if I should wait to see if he contacts me again. Does anyone else perhaps have some advice? Thanks!
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