frozensprouts Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I don't understand the question. If I tested positive for an STI, I'd have gotten it from him, who would have gotten it from her at some time in the past - so why would there be a need to inform her? She'd have been the source of it, thus her symptoms would be far more advanced and likely to have been picked up by her GP. this makes the assumption that he has never had sex with anyone else besides you while he is married to her. I know that in your situation, you don't feel that's an issue, but for some other men/women, it is an issue. 1
frozensprouts Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 Or he may have contracted it from someone else he had sex with and was keeping secret from both the AP and the BS, but if the AP knows about the STI and the BS does not, I think the question was whether the AP would let the BS know. exactly... is diseases like syphilis, HIV, etc., a person may have the bacteria or virus and show no symptoms ( or the symptoms may be mild and are ignored ( syphilis) or HPV ( which women get tested ofr as part of their yearly gynecological exam)...he may have had these viruses/bacteria from even before he was married, and his spouse may have them as well and not even know it...some people do and show no symptoms until it's too late for any effective treatment ( secondary/tertiary stages of syphilis)... as for not divulging partners would break the law...how on earth are the authorities going to find out? his fear of his spouse finding out he's been cheating may be greater or override his logical thinking...and even if they contact his wife, why would they contact his other woman if he calms to have been with no one else but his wife...the authorities may suspect something, but it's kind of hard to contact a sexual partner if they have no idea who they are...
2sunny Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 No, I never said that. I just think IF someone is having an affair, then the least they can do is have safe sex. I'm not saying cheating is ok, but it does happen, and if it does, being safe is important. You didnt state asking your HUSBAND if he's ok with YOUR lack of boundaries.
2sunny Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 The only time I didn't practice safe sex was when I was M. It's the responsible thing to do in any R that has any question of the number of partners. I think this thread PROVES that being married isn't going to give a person any peace of mind that they wont get diseases even if you're married.
Summer Breeze Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 I think this thread PROVES that being married isn't going to give a person any peace of mind that they wont get diseases even if you're married. Once he cheated on me and I learned it had been going on for a few months I kinda figured that out. I was young and trusting. I honestly don't know what I'd do if I got to that point in a R again.
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