Anastar Posted August 6, 2012 Posted August 6, 2012 We dated for a year. He told me he loves me, sent me flowers, candy, told me that I'm the most beautiful woman, met his family, said he's never experienced such deep love. Recently I felt that he is pulling away. I tried talking to him casual like, got nowhere... told me he's a one woman man. I created a fake profile and found him as a new member on online dating. I winked he replied. I said I can't date him while he has an active profile... texted him that if he has anything to say to me, he should call; he said it’s a lot to think about. I didn't reply. It’s been 10 days of no contact. I checked his profile; he’s on the site 24/7. Words can't describe my sadness. After three weeks, I was feeling devasted, I texted him saying I miss him and I cant help how I feel, and I still love him. He texted me back casual like asking how i'm doing. I replied that I've been better. I asked him how he was doing, and he texted back OK!. In the evening I textd him saying I miss him saying good night, and he texts me back as if nothing happened like when we we dating, saying the sweet things he used to say. For some reason I became more upset, because I felt as he was humoring me. The next day, I deleted all his old texts and emails, and pictures of us and him. I collected all the things he gave me, some jewelry and a few other things and mailed back to him. I sent him an email about what I did and said that it hurts to much to keep the stuff, and I can't give it away, but I needed to send it back. I said that I'm trying to get over the heartbreak of this relationship. I wished him well, thanked him for the good things he did, and said I love him, but I need to get over him and this was the only way I knew how. I also asked him to remove me from a list of people who could see an online album where we went on a weekend trip to the beach. I said its hurts to much to see it,, and I don't want any reminders. He respected my wish by doing what I asked, but never replied to my email. I still miss him so much, I'm still in a very painful place. I noticed he isn't on the dating site, so maybe he met someone else...who knows. I just can't seem to let go. I am hoping I wasn't wrong about this guy, and he will eventually come around. We shared so much and felt so close. I was thinking in sending him an email two months after the breakup day saying if he's willing to start fresh that I would be agreeable. Is this a bad idea?
venusianx13 Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 That's awful. Reading that makes my heart hurt. What a coward. He didn't even have the decency to share this break up with you? And then what, he would keep an open relationship on his end, only you wouldn't know about it? This is sad. PLEASE do not entertain any further thoughts of reaching out to this guy for a "fresh start." If he would do this to you after a year of dating, think of all the other cruel things he'd be capable of. If I were you, I'd pity him. And forgive him. And move on.
Recommended Posts